Fragile Man Feelings

[rjamz]

So some guy got annoyed with me because I wouldn't get in an elevator alone with him. I don't get alone in elevators with men if I can avoid it. Like if other people get out and then I'm alone with a man, fine (unless I get creepy vibes), but I'm so tired of making myself uncomfortable so I don't hurt fragile man feelings.

Was it likely he was going to rape me, sexually assault me, or even talk to me? No. But every time I'm alone in an elevator with a man, those thoughts run through my head and it makes me nervous. So why should I put myself through that?

What do you do?

FYI: it was a bank of elevators and I wasn't in a rush, so it wasn't inconvenient for me to wait 30 seconds for the next one. Men are the worst.

[muppetinma]

I, personally, wouldn't think twice about getting in an elevator alone with a man. I'm not sure why. Maybe because I'm 5'10" and quite strong? I don't know.

BUT, I feel like this is an ultimate case of you do you. Your choice has zero effect on anybody else. If waiting for the next elevator makes you feel safer, why not do it? If you yelled something like "STAY AWAY PENIS BEAST!" while running the other direction, he could be offended. In this situation, the issue is all his. You keep on keeping on.

[blane12]

I wouldn't think twice about getting in the elevator. I'm from a very rural area so don't encounter this too often, but even when I do go to the city, this wouldn't be something that would cross my mind. That being said, if you're uncomfortable for whatever reason, the you should do what makes you most comfortable.

[jsillyfun]

It's ridiculous to be offended by that. And I have had weird elevator situations. One time a guy asked me my name and then said "my ex wife had that same name and you look a lot like her" and then stared creepily at me. I couldn't get off the elevator fast enough!

[redmonkeystomper]

I don't think you should be uncomfortable for someone else's sake. I have never really thought about being in an elevator alone with a man but if I was getting a weird vibe I would not do it.

[TrudyCampbell]

As my pal Oprah says, trust your gut. If your gut says don't do something, listen!

[imimahoney]

So, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable and leave BUT there is nothing wrong with leaving a situation that makes you uncomfortable.

And fuck him.

[careyalis]

May 1, 2017 21:30:14 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

As my pal Oprah says, trust your gut. If your gut says don't do something, listen!

So off topic, but this made me lol. I've been doing weightwatchers again to (finally) lose my Libby weight.

The other day Jeff told me, "I'm proud of you for sticking to your WW, babe! I can't wait for the morning that I roll over in bed and think HOT DAMN GIRL! You look just like Oprah Winfrey!"

This is our relationship in a nutshell.

Back on topic, I agree with the "you do you" sentiment. That is not really something that has ever bothered me (unless it's like night in a parking garage or something) but you should never feel pressured to do something that makes you uncomfortable.