Confessions

[bk1]

So many hugs luv2rn4fun! I'm here if you ever want to talk.  (heart)

[luv2rn4fun]

Thank you ladies, truly you all are the best!

I think I have a game plan for now. We just changed insurance and I need a physical with my primary for my thyroid meds (and want to discuss my mom's disease and testing I should have done etc). DH and I now have the same doctor so I will bring it up then and he what he suggests. I also looked and it appears that mental health is covered at no cost so I will see what I need to do to start that (will be good for this and dealing with my moms passing). Hopefully DH will be open to taking some action at some point when he realizes that I am serious at how much this is affecting me and us. Or maybe if I can let go of some of the hurt and anger and not fight about it (or have it cause other fights) then maybe he will soften up and want to work on things. Or maybe it's a time thing since he did just start a horribly stressful job and L has not been the easiest baby.

Blue Moon- that is the million dollar question that I can't answer right now.

[krystee]

luv2rn4fun we are in a similar situation, except we both have low interest, which is the only reason it's working at the moment.

The issue I see is that you very much need something from him (love, affection, intimacy), and he is more willing to lose his family than he is to get any help to meet that need. That would be so hurtful to me. I would write him a letter explaining how devastating that is to you and outline what your needs and expectations are (maybe a physical to check testosterone and a consultation with a therapist?). Don't put an ultimatum if you are not willing to back it up, but he needs to understand how serious this is.

I am not one who should give marriage advice, though. We have been sniping and bickering at each other for three weeks straight and I am SO OVER IT. I dream of buying a sweet little house with just J and me, and having total peace. Unemployment stress does not do good things for us.

[grover]

Hugs luv2rn4fun and krystee.
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He still hates his job though, and now he's talking about taking a paycut from an already low salary (especially for one downtown) to becoming a librarian. I mean, yeah we'd both love his commute to drastically shorten but I'm tired of being the breadwinner.

[katespade]

H is so adorably excited. He was absolutely giddy when he came home last night, and he keeps finding ways to bring it up in every conversation we have. LOL.

[estrellita]

katespade super excited for you!

[luv2rn4fun]

krystee- I am so sorry you guys are fighting so much. Unemployment is so incredibly hard and I am sure it's taking its toll on both you and your DH. Praying your DH finds a job soon and you guys can figure out your new normal, hopefully with less stress.

grover- I hope your DH can find contentment at his current job, or find a job that doesn't put so much financial burden on you. Unhappy at work spouses are really difficult to live with, or maybe it's just mine😏 ((Hugs)) and prayers for a positive solution soon!

[awick14]

Hugs to everyone in here who needs them.