I saw this coming. It was a fear of mine and I shared that while TTC, I didn't claim to have IF issues. But it was shitty of me to share that especially when a lot of ladies on here have actual IF issues. I apologized and I'll apologize again. I'm sorry for hurting a lot of you.
Horseshit.
You said that you told your husband to "be prepared that you might not be able to have kids" after a couple of months of trying.
Don't fucking play this game.
Yes, I said that to H out of fear and shared that on here which was clearly a shitty thing to do.
I just clicked over to FB and weirdly, for the first time ever, Tamb just showed up as a Person I May Know.
Looks like she just had a third little girl.
I think she wanted a boy?
I'll bet E got bumped as her favorite now that she has been replaced by a younger model. Tamb's very loud preference for E over J is what put her on my list.
Well, technically she deactivated because people were "mean" about saying that her "surprise pregnancy" resulting from *knowingly having months of unprotected sex* wasn't actually that surprising.
That was the thread where she dragged me out for "liking" a post someone else made (I hadn't even posted in the thread) and then got huffy at also being called out for her "infertility woes" that she posted after two months on a board of women who had in some cases been trying for years.
That's why I lol anytime she is portrayed as this sweet little thing. No.
Not sure where you came up with *months of unprotected sex*- we used protection every single time except for one time when we pnp. Not sure why I'm defending myself here, we knew it was a possibility, but I just did not expect to have these kinds of feelings. I was struggling with all the feelings I had and I obviously made the mistake of reaching out on here.
Well, technically she deactivated because people were "mean" about saying that her "surprise pregnancy" resulting from *knowingly having months of unprotected sex* wasn't actually that surprising.
That was the thread where she dragged me out for "liking" a post someone else made (I hadn't even posted in the thread) and then got huffy at also being called out for her "infertility woes" that she posted after two months on a board of women who had in some cases been trying for years.
That's why I lol anytime she is portrayed as this sweet little thing. No.
Not sure where you came up with *months of unprotected sex*- we used protection every single time except for one time when we pnp. Not sure why I'm defending myself here, we knew it was a possibility, but I just did not expect to have these kinds of feelings. I was struggling with all the feelings I had and I obviously made the mistake of reaching out on here.
Yes, it was a mistake because it was insensitive of me because there are a lot of ladies who have IF and have been struggling on this board. It wasn't the right place to reach out.
Exactly. I highly doubt she thought about it and was embarrassed at how she was acting. I'm sure it's more "mean bitches are shaming me for getting divorced"
I really don't care about her getting divorced. Everyone should make the best choices for their lives.
I will admit though, I am highly amused given all the times she threw out how AMAZING her marriage was despite having only known each other for two weeks before getting engaged and how "when you know, you know!" anytime someone would advice a poster about taking time to get to know the person they were dating or asking relationship advice about.
Especially in the infamous Goat Farm thread.
This is where I am. I know some people thought my post about her was slut-shaming because of her recent separation...but really, the same comment could have been made when she was married too...because she made plenty o' posts about how awesome her sex life was, IIRC.
I also particularly enjoyed when she tried to say I shouldn't slut-shame her because when I separated, I also did some "questionable" things.
Ok, I shouldn't slut shame because I am also a slut...got it.
For a hot second, I wanted to correct her on my own sexual activities post divorce, but it really doesn't matter (and especially didn't matter at that point in this thread) so I thought better of it.
Maybe she thought everyone would think being a port girl and getting a 3am burger would be as "cute" as the boating by?
It's a good thing. I'd hate to be a boy growing up thinking that I had ruined my mom's dreams of having a perfectly matched trio of girls...even if she only likes one of them.
Actually----I think she wanted the third to be a boy!
This was my recollection, too. I have a friend who asked me "how" I had 2 boys, because she wanted a third, but didn't want a third girl. I gave her exactly zero advice, she went on to have a ... girl. It's knowledge I wish I didn't have, tbh.
Well, technically she deactivated because people were "mean" about saying that her "surprise pregnancy" resulting from *knowingly having months of unprotected sex* wasn't actually that surprising.
That was the thread where she dragged me out for "liking" a post someone else made (I hadn't even posted in the thread) and then got huffy at also being called out for her "infertility woes" that she posted after two months on a board of women who had in some cases been trying for years.
That's why I lol anytime she is portrayed as this sweet little thing. No.
Not sure where you came up with *months of unprotected sex*- we used protection every single time except for one time when we pnp. Not sure why I'm defending myself here, we knew it was a possibility, but I just did not expect to have these kinds of feelings. I was struggling with all the feelings I had and I obviously made the mistake of reaching out on here.
You're being pretty martyr-ish about this. We all read it and remember it very differently.
And don't accuse this community of not being supportive of unexpected feelings around pregnancy. Please remember, I tried for five years to eventually have my first with donor eggs, then got "surprise pregnant" by not using protection and actively considered terminating. I got nothing but support.
I just clicked over to FB and weirdly, for the first time ever, Tamb just showed up as a Person I May Know.
Looks like she just had a third little girl.
I think she wanted a boy?
I'll bet E got bumped as her favorite now that she has been replaced by a younger model. Tamb's very loud preference for E over J is what put her on my list.
I didn't get the obsession over E. J was clearly the cuter child.
Not sure where you came up with *months of unprotected sex*- we used protection every single time except for one time when we pnp. Not sure why I'm defending myself here, we knew it was a possibility, but I just did not expect to have these kinds of feelings. I was struggling with all the feelings I had and I obviously made the mistake of reaching out on here.
You're being pretty martyr-ish about this. We all read it and remember it very differently.
And don't accuse this community of not being supportive of unexpected feelings around pregnancy. Please remember, I tried for five years to eventually have my first with donor eggs, then got "surprise pregnant" by not using protection and actively considered terminating. I got nothing but support.
I'm reading the thread now...the attempt at revisionist history is getting my hackles up big time.
I just clicked over to FB and weirdly, for the first time ever, Tamb just showed up as a Person I May Know.
Looks like she just had a third little girl.
I think she wanted a boy?
I'll bet E got bumped as her favorite now that she has been replaced by a younger model. Tamb's very loud preference for E over J is what put her on my list.
I don't remember what her beef was with J aside from J just like...existing as a toddler. I don't really need to break it down, the woman was clearly miserable in all aspects of her life. I do remember legit feeling sorry for her H once in a while because she seemed to not want to do anything around the house and he'd get frustrated, but that could be a foggy misremembering.
I'll bet E got bumped as her favorite now that she has been replaced by a younger model. Tamb's very loud preference for E over J is what put her on my list.
I didn't get the obsession over E. J was clearly the cuter child.
I'm a monster.
It was borderline Munchausen by proxy, IMO. She was obsessed with the idea of something terrible happening (including death) to E and seemed to hyper focus on whether E had developmental and/or sensory delays. The kid might have had some legit issues, but it also seemed like she was looking for problems to confirm her anxious feelings.
Not sure where you came up with *months of unprotected sex*- we used protection every single time except for one time when we pnp. Not sure why I'm defending myself here, we knew it was a possibility, but I just did not expect to have these kinds of feelings. I was struggling with all the feelings I had and I obviously made the mistake of reaching out on here.
You're being pretty martyr-ish about this. We all read it and remember it very differently.
And don't accuse this community of not being supportive of unexpected feelings around pregnancy. Please remember, I tried for five years to eventually have my first with donor eggs, then got "surprise pregnant" by not using protection and actively considered terminating. I got nothing but support.
Oh no, I agree that this community is very supportive. I'm glad you got the support!
It wasn't a good idea from me especially after my insensitive comments. I should have expected it to go that way. But I understand why things went down the way they did. I am truly sorry for my comments and hurting many ladies on here.
I didn't get the obsession over E. J was clearly the cuter child.
I'm a monster.
It was borderline Munchausen by proxy, IMO. She was obsessed with the idea of something terrible happening (including death) to E and seemed to hyper focus on whether E had developmental and/or sensory delays. The kid might have had some legit issues, but it also seemed like she was looking for problems to confirm her anxious feelings.
ETA: grammar
I remember feeling like she was very Chicken Little with that whole thing and then I felt bad for feeling that way. But I think I really felt bad for the kids not her.
ML cracks me up because I've always sort of viewed it as some Wild West of gbcn/nest boards where you never know what is going to happen even if you post something totally benign but then there are random posters who I would flame the shit out of with no remorse who are completely coddled by a fair number of posters, and I don't think I'm that much of a flamer type. I mean I'll do it but I wouldn't consider myself ML caliber.
(Clearly, I just read that linked thread...I randomly read ML and even I knew all of that mekia backstory and that she was annoyingly dramatic, yet people are all hair patting and sticking up for her in that thread).
I thought that was the reason you left the board. I wasn't clearly on the details. I think that was before my time here. Sorry.
She left because they named their son after him and that made Kuus' head explode. I believe that was the genesis of her gncn too.
My son has a family name. Several cousins and uncles have the same name. We were set on the name before I even got pregnant and before everything happened. Please don't do this.
She left because they named their son after him and that made Kuus' head explode. I believe that was the genesis of her gncn too.
My son has a family name. Several cousins and uncles have the same name. We were set on the name before I even got pregnant and before everything happened. Please don't do this.
I'm sorry I said anything. I was not aware it was under this circumstance. It was unfair for me to bring up anything I didn't have full memory on. I am sorry.
I made this comment when she left and got flamed. Apparently her CP made her IF. :eye roll:
What is CP? And I remember rolling my eyes when she claimed IF. I had two m/c before I became pregnant with C and it took a while to get pregnant the first time, but that does not IF make. Most people get this, or at least I hope they do.