Sunday stuff

[estrellita]

What's everyone up to today?

I'm currently regretting letting H stay. He went outside to start something but I wanted to put laundry in so I told him to come back in. He said he didn't feel welcome. Well no fucking shit. I told him he had no one to blame but himself and he's lucky I even let him stay. Now I'm just pissed off. Ugh. He has the nerve to act like the victim??

Anyways, not sure what E and I are going to do. It's supposed to rain later so if we're going to go outside we should do it now. I don't want to get up and get dressed yet. Lol.

[katespade]

I'm lonely, and it makes me really sad.

I don't have anyone to talk to besides H, and he just doesn't understand. He tries, but this is one of those times when the reminder that he's my only friend really hurts.

I forgot how terrible my periods were before BC. I thought I was prepared for it, but I clearly wasn't. I'm over this, and I feel so isolated because H is so excited and trying to be supportive but just doesn't get how awful I feel.

[amaranth]

Wedding after party today and my mom's 50th birthday party


katespade *hugs* hopefully you won't have too many periods to deal with I'm trying to think of easy, low pressure ways for you to make friends. Are there any archery clubs near you? When you get pregnant you could start going to a MOPS group and I bet you'd love that! Although most people start attending after they have kids already, pregnant women are welcome also. We have two first time mom's in my group who came specifically because they didn't have any other friends, and now we are all their friend :-D

estrellita I totally know what you're saying. We once had a fight where my H was in the wrong and HE was sulking all over and it just pissed me off more. I finally left to cool down before we had a rational talk. Maybe you can go take E somewhere fun? Or leave E with him and go walk around somewhere.

[katespade]

amaranth - I'm so tired of trying so hard to make friends, and failing over and over and over again. It's really rough on me mentally, and ends up making me feel worse than just dealing with being lonely.

I keep getting overwhelmed by the process, but I need to convince myself to keep looking for a church. I don't know if there are any MOPS groups around here, but I'll also definitely look into that if I do get pregnant.

[estrellita]

amaranth I ended up bringing E outside for a bit. H was working on pulling up rocks and the old landscape fabric so we can replace it. Then we went and bought a couple plants. I think my outburst reminded him he has work to do and needs to watch it. So things are better now.

katespade I'm sorry I know 100% how you feel. I have no friends near me and I'm terrible at making friends. I've really become an introvert. I want to move closer to where I have friends but that'll be a while. I can also at least partially relate to the period stuff too. I hated being off the pill. My period was so much worse off and it made it that much worse every time it showed up while TTC, especially with E. I hope it happens quickly for you so you don't have to deal with it long!

[travelbug]

((katespade)) I dont have a lot of friends in my town either...

I'm babying a cold right now. My two days off came at a perfect time. Hoping to feel better by tomorrow so I can be a tiny bit productive (off today and tomorrow)

[katespade]

Apparently, H is going to work tomorrow, which was supposed to be our one day off together. I hate his schedule.

[estrellita]

Here's a pic of the stuff we (mostly H) did this weekend! Tore up the rocks and old mulch, moved the flowers already there, planted some flower seeds, planted a new flower in the pot, planted a bush type plant (I can't remember what it's called) and put down new mulch. I love it!!

The two pics are before, then one after.

[katespade]

Looks great, estrellita!

[krystee]

We have had a very lovely day after a very rough one. H and I bickered AGAIN yesterday, to the point that I told him we need to shape up or ship out. We cannot argue this much. It's not good for us or Jack.

Today we went to an art fest and food truck fest and had a really nice time. We spent money we don't have, which isn't good, but he got me a beautiful original watercolor painting. It was by such a gorgeous pond, with beautiful trees and flowers. Now I am taking DS to the park. I asked him what else he wanted to do and he said "Go to Target!" Now that's my kind of kid.

[katespade]

I'm sorry you guys have been bickering, krystee, but I'm glad you were able to have a better day today. Are your arguments about big things or little things?

[rockinrobyn]

Made it safely to California and without too much screaming and crying! So far we have played at a park and went to the zoo. Hoping to go to the pool tonight and eat dinner at some point. I am so happy to be on vacation and away from work. Hopefully I come home with a new attitude.

[krystee]

May 28, 2017 18:13:57 GMT -5 katespade said:

I'm sorry you guys have been bickering, krystee, but I'm glad you were able to have a better day today. Are your arguments about big things or little things?

Usually stupid things, but they somehow feel big. I think it's the stress of an unemployed spouse and a mortgage that requires two incomes. Neither of us thought unemployment would last this long. He keeps getting so many promising leads, promising second interviews, and then the offers just don't come.

[estrellita]

I'm sorry krystee. I hope he finds something soon. I can't imagine one of us being out of a job!

[bk1]

I tried to post from my phone earlier but guess it didn't work.


katespade I get it. I have a hard time making friends and my BFF lives 1.5 hours away so I only see her every few months. I get lonely without DH around.

estrellita Your H did great! Glad the day took a better turn for you.

krystee I'm so sorry you guys are under so much stress. DH left his job 5 months ago. He has been self-employed but as starting a business does it has been slow going. We have been fighting a lot, especially in the last couple months, because stress is so high with finances being so tight. 


I had a good day. Went to the cemetery with my mom to put out flowers, got a little down time while the girls napped, went to the in-laws for dinner and now relaxing a bit before bed. DH and I have been fighting a lot lately but we seem to have sorted some things out and are getting along much better. I feel like this stress has been lifted from the house. It's so nice because it has been weeks of fighting almost every day. 

[wanderingenough]

Just playing catch-up after the long weekend.

katespade - I meet a lot of women at the gym by taking classes. You start to see the same people over and over. I haven't mustered up the nerve to ask them to do anything at my new gym, but that's mainly because with work + family + other obligations I've been pretty busy --but that's how I have made great friends in the past. I know you like yoga/working out. Maybe try that?

amaranth - Stupid question. Should I be able to find any MOPs groups that do stuff at times that work for working moms? Every time I've looked into it they meet mid-day.

krystee - I'm sorry you guys are still struggling with the job hunt stress. I'll send out some good job vibes and prayers!

[amaranth]

amaranth there is a disparity of evening mops groups because they're often run by SAHMs since they have more time. That said if you're willing to drive maybe you can find an evening group somewhere. My city does have an evening group (7-9 on wed I think) so they do exist, but not a lot of them.