Self Care 5/12 - auntie says I can't slow time, so "6/12"

[cam]

What did you do this past week? Do you have some special time, or make plans to, with your little one or not-so-little-"little"-one?

Any plans for this week?

Challenge: Do something to boost how you feel, whether it be your mood, how you feel physically, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about something or some situation, whatever.

[cam]

Hi, everyone! Was a rough week trying to juggle a lot going on between projects on the new house, prepping to move, usual running the household and parenting stuff, etc plus getting ready for visitors. Had 4 human house guests plus 2 furry house guests over the weekend, but it was a nice time. LO and I did something early in the week, but heck if I can remember what at the moment (surprised I can remember which way is up lately ). I am finally starting to sleep a smidge better (knock on wood!), so that is another highlight for the week.

Need to get "caught up" (I use that phrase VERY loosely) on my mile-long to do list after having the visitors. Hoping to finish a project this week on the new house so we can start officially moving. Also have to alter a dress for an upcoming party. I should probably try to think of something to do for MH for Father's Day too. Going to try to aim for the 5+ minutes of relaxation time each day though despite another week of go-go-go.

[auntie]

June 12?

I had an impromptu family night Thursday and Friday. Niece was heading home from some off-site meetings in Rahway Thursday and decided to sleep over. She needed to pick up some craigslist furniture Friday, so she too DS to load it and my mom's minivan and hung out Friday night too.

Mother's back procedure went really well. I'd hoped the relief from pain would improve her mood longer term, but it seems like my dad's dementia behaviors are wearing on her.

I got a couple walks in this week; not as much as I would like but I got my 10K steps in more days than not. Record heat here, so I'll be heading out early and alone (DH can't take the heat) I have Father's Day handled for DH- he wanted the Al Franken book and for dad who got some shorts and tees because I can't with him slurking around the house in pjs 24/7. It's a shame, none of the things I used to buy my dad are appropriate any more- he can't follow books reliably, he's not supposed to drink and he has no desire to go anywhere/do anything.

I need to line up a caregiver/housekeeper for after my mom's knee surgery. A cousin will stay with dad while mom's in the hospital but I plan to introduce the notion of hiring some help in. Dad is refusing to allow it claiming he'd help mom; but that went disastrously in March 2016 when mom had a bout of autoimmune liver failure. This time it's non-negotiable. If he acts out this time, he's going to the geri-psych unit and potentially to a rehab again.

I have a PT coming weekly to help dad remain mobile enough to remain at home as long as he can, but damn that man fights me on it. In addition to the dementia, which is an unholy bitch, he's physically a wreck spending all his time laid out on the couch. PT was there yesterday and made him walk the house a couple times he could barely do the loop through the foyer and kitchen. Sad. When he got out of rehab in October he could walk 300 ft pretty easily- but he's pissed about not driving and is sulking on the couch.

[cam]

auntie, it was technically still 6/12 when I started writing it, if only by a few minutes and not in all time zones of even the majority of posters, but I was a little slow on beating the clock to get it posted on the 12th. Not sure how it is even June though, much less nearly half way through it!!!

[auntie]

The title says 5/12.

Busy, distracted or a typo? If it were me, it would be "all of the above".

The month is flying by.

[cam]

auntie, I remember how your dad had said he would help your mom during recovery and didn't that previous time, so I hope the outside help is tolerated by him and doesn't still make this recovery stressful (in a different way) for your mom and you. Good luck with all of that - your mom's knee, your dad's PT, the works.

[cam]

Jun 13, 2017 9:46:05 GMT -5 auntie said:

The title says 5/12.

Busy, distracted or a typo? If it were me, it would be "all of the above".

The month is flying by.

Lol. Good call. I thought you were calling out the 12th and didn't notice the month. Definitely " all of the above" and add in disbelief that it is no longer May, me trying to slow down time, etc.

[mamaturtle]

I am late to the party.

I have not forgotten to do my self care for the past two weeks. I neglected it to some extent. DH was out of town for work and we have been living mostly on my check. I have done some dieting where I lost a couple of pounds in order for DH to eat well over there. DH came home two weeks ago and was very upset that I was too skinny. I am at my highest weight for my bmi. I did eat a bit more for lunch. This week more so.

My MIL came over and took us to eat at McDonald's for lunch and my parents surprised me with an out of town visit and took DS and I to dinner. It was nice all around because both got me some groceries for most of the week to eat for DS and I.

Exercise has been a bust. I only exercised once and I don't know if I am motivated for the rest of the week.

I am improving myself at work. I can't really say in what aspect but things will be better than before.

This week, I hope to improve my sleep.

[freezorburn]

I haven't been online much all week, which is probably a good thing. I hope this means I'm getting better at being present IRL. Or maybe I'm getting a little more sleep...

Self-care plans: my lower back has been bothering, so I'm going to spend some time this weekend stretching it out and re-acquanting myself with some self-massage techniques. DS is spending Father's Day with his dad, so I think it is going to be a spa day for me. I think it's probably too short notice to book a massage, but there's a place nearby where I can do sauna, steam room, etc. and just generally get away from the distractions of home.

[cam]

freezorburn, hope your back is feeling better.

[freezorburn]

Jun 18, 2017 22:06:41 GMT -5 cam said:

freezorburn , hope your back is feeling better.

Thanks! I'm feeling way better. 

I visited a day spa outside the city yesterday, that I've known about for a while but just never got around to checking it out. The place had hot tubs as well as warm and hot meditation rooms and a comfortable lounge to just sit and read or take a nap. I managed to book a last-minute mini-facial and spent the better part of the day just getting some warmth into my bones and breathing and being quiet. It was awesome, I haven't felt this refreshed in ages!

I've been taking it easy all weekend and did some light housework today. Didn't feel as stiff in my back, so I think the spa time helped. I need to remember that place for then I'm feeling really worn down.SaveSave