Week of June 19

[King26]

What's up this week ladies?

[King26]

We have our birthing classes tonight and Thursday. I'm looking forward to them but not to the drive either day. Thursday I also have my bi-weekly appointment.

I've kicked into nesting mode. Today I made 9 freezer meals to prep for baby. I got DH to take apart the bed in the baby's room so now I just need to get the vanity out of there and then I can tape it so DH can paint. I really hope to have it painted by Sunday so we can build the crib and get the room together.

I've also done 3 loads of baby laundry from my shower and have most of that stuff put away in the closet.

[pooh8402]

lemme see...

had mock transfer, saline SHG, and medication teaching yesterday for my FET. have been emailing/calling various folks to arrange the transfer of my embryos from my old clinic to my new clinic.

I have a quiz due today in one of my classes, so I need to do that. and a test in that class next week. and a project for my other class due next week as well.

demo started today on my kitchen renovation. so that's fun.

AND I'm solo parenting until tomorrow night.

where's the wine?

[loira]

pooh8402, I'd give you a bottle, but I drank all mine. Very exciting about the mock transfer though.

You guys, I am exhausted. A is so, so frustrated ALL.THE.TIME. After deciding she could walk on her own last week, she's now regressed and decided she does NOT want to walk on her own. Except she wants to do ALL the things. And walk, and walk, and walk but only holding onto my hand. Is this normal? I've noticed she needs to build up better strength and balance in her non-propelling leg (she has this forward scoot where she sits on one leg and propels forward with the other). I'm trying to encourage her to walk more by herself but she just throws herself on the floor and screams if I don't hold her hand. I'm starting to worry she has some sort of delay... it did take her a really long time to roll and crawl/scoot, but this seems extreme.

[cactuscookie]

Jun 20, 2017 11:59:28 GMT -5 loira said:

You guys, I am exhausted. A is so, so frustrated ALL.THE.TIME. After deciding she could walk on her own last week, she's now regressed and decided she does NOT want to walk on her own. Except she wants to do ALL the things. And walk, and walk, and walk but only holding onto my hand. Is this normal? I've noticed she needs to build up better strength and balance in her non-propelling leg (she has this forward scoot where she sits on one leg and propels forward with the other). I'm trying to encourage her to walk more by herself but she just throws herself on the floor and screams if I don't hold her hand. I'm starting to worry she has some sort of delay... it did take her a really long time to roll and crawl/scoot, but this seems extreme.

It seems like a confidence thing though, not a strength thing, right? Just based on the video you posted on instagram a couple weeks ago, it seems like she's basically walking on her own, and you're just there for moral support. Do you have a well-check coming up, maybe around 18 months? Your doctor has never indicated that the time it took her to crawl and walk previously was an issue, right?

I definitely hear you on the throwing herself on the floor and screaming part though. We get a lot of that too. And you'd think the changing table was covered with spikes and that we use sandpaper as wipes, the way she totally loses her shit over diaper changes.

But, H is having a language explosion, which is fun, and it's so funny to see the way she studies books. She'll point to a new animal and then look at us to name it, or, if we ask her to name one that she's just learning, she'll get quiet for a few seconds and then blurt it out. Oh, and she claps for herself when she builds block towers that are five high.

[whodey]

Hi Ladies!!

I haven’t posted in forever – I’m horrible – I know. So please forgive me that I came in today to “awe” my baby girl – I can’t believe that she’s ONE today.

I think of all the stress, procedures, heartbreak that came before her and I'm just amazed and so thankful.  She has been such a wonderful baby – a happy, active, “talkative” little lady. DS was such a spirited baby that I was happy when he moved into the toddler stage, but sweet Eloise has been such a joy that it’s bittersweet – she’s my last baby. Oh, I just love her to pieces!!!!

I swear I’ll be back to catch-up with everyone – I hope all of you and your LOs are doing great.

[loira]

cactuscookie, yes I think it's a confidence thing. Although having one leg more muscled than the other probably doesn't help. She did walk about 20 steps the first time she walked by herself, and was practicing standing up and taking the occasional few steps in the days after. But now she just refuses. I want to encourage her but I don't want to overdo it and make it into a "thing", you know? I'll speak to the nurses when she gets her shots next month if it hasn't resolved itself by then. She hasn't been to the doctor since she was about 7 months old - she doesn't have a pediatrician, just a GP, so developmental stuff is better to discuss with the public health nurses. They weren't concerned about development at her 1 year appointment. So great about H's language development! She sounds like such a fun little girl. I could totally see A and her being friends.

[swiftlyirun]

pooh8402 yay for mock transfer- exciting!

whodey I can't believe she's ONE! How did our LO's get so big?!

I've got my monitoring appointment tomorrow so she if the 50mg of clomid did it's job. FX that it did. My endocrinologist was super annoying at my checkup yesterday. She rolled her eyes when I told her I had gone back to the RE. So damn territorial. Yes, I realize that my thyroid can contribute to issues, but seriously chick you know I'm TTC, don't get your panties in a wad.

I need more coffee today.


Also, why did I start watching Pret.ty L.itt.le Lia.rs? Like do I think I'm 15? .... I can't stop watching it. So bad it's good. 

[pooh8402]

swiftlyirun, no judgement. I'm watching Secret Life of the American Teenager. these shows are total brain candy.

[loira]

swiftlyirun, I just started watching this as well! OMG it's so bad, but so good.

pooh8402, not sure how far you are into it but (without giving away any spoilers) there is a fairly triggering plot line a few seasons in.

[pooh8402]

Jun 20, 2017 16:25:58 GMT -5 loira said:

swiftlyirun, I just started watching this as well! OMG it's so bad, but so good.

pooh8402, not sure how far you are into it but (without giving away any spoilers) there is a fairly triggering plot line a few seasons in.

End of second season. And thanks.

[swiftlyirun]

Jun 20, 2017 16:25:58 GMT -5 loira said:

swiftlyirun, I just started watching this as well! OMG it's so bad, but so good.

pooh8402, not sure how far you are into it but (without giving away any spoilers) there is a fairly triggering plot line a few seasons in.

Are you on season 4?! I'm dying.

[thoseareradishes]

Today was my due date! We have been in the NICU for 109 days, wow.

E is getting so big - 9lb 12oz. She's doing well with bottles; the speech therapist came in tonight to observe her and is happy with her progress.

[loira]

Jun 20, 2017 18:56:23 GMT -5 swiftlyirun said:

Jun 20, 2017 16:25:58 GMT -5 loira said:

swiftlyirun , I just started watching this as well! OMG it's so bad, but so good.

pooh8402 , not sure how far you are into it but (without giving away any spoilers) there is a fairly triggering plot line a few seasons in.

Are you on season 4?! I'm dying.

No, just finishing up season 1! Lol, so many poor life choices. Also, I know they're supposed to be reasonably smart, but my god, they are SO dumb! Just tell an adult, for the love of pete, tell the police. Tell an adult! Haha, but of course they don't because plot.

[loira]

thoseareradishes, the due date is a huge milestone! How are you feeling about all of it? I imagine it must be heartwarming but difficult at the same time. I'm glad she's doing so well with the bottles.

[shauni27]

loira, pooh8402, swiftlyirun I used to love that show; it was great mindless drama. But I had to stop during season 6 because it was too much. Just fucking end it.

thoseareradishes, that is incredible! I think of you guys all the time. I cannot believe you just had your due date, what an amazing milestone. And E is over 9#! She is a miracle baby for sure. Amazing.

King26, I did that nesting stuff too around 30 weeks. Now it is just exhausting, lol.

I am having serious, out of control anxiety and fear around delivery. I think because of our experiences with IF and loss for a number of us, it is just really hard for me NOT to picture something bad happen. I have three IRL friends who delivered stillborns after healthy pregnancies. I cannot get that out of my head. That tied with my own experience of delivering at 16 weeks has me really freaked out that something will go wrong. I am not sure what to do about it, as it is taking over my mind and I cry thinking about it at the drop of the hat.

[pooh8402]

shauni27, have you talked to your doctor?

[shauni27]

Jun 21, 2017 8:33:52 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

shauni27 , have you talked to your doctor?

Not really. They know I have anxiety (I am on a low dose of Zoloft) but I am going to bring it up at my next appointment in a week. I just feel like they might just brush me off, you know?

[shauni27]

King26, what freezer meals did you make? I am starting to think about that too but nothing sounds appealing for summer meals. Generally I think of things like lasagna, shepherd's pie, ziti, etc., none of which I want in August, you know?

I was going to make a batch of pesto and cook some chicken breasts and freeze those as well. Maybe a small lasagna. But looking for other ideas!

[pooh8402]

Jun 21, 2017 8:34:57 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jun 21, 2017 8:33:52 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

shauni27 , have you talked to your doctor?

Not really. They know I have anxiety (I am on a low dose of Zoloft) but I am going to bring it up at my next appointment in a week. I just feel like they might just brush me off, you know?

Don't let them. From what you're saying, I'm concerned. It's normal to have some concern over the delivery process, but with your history, I have a lower threshold for suggesting intervention kwim?

[linz]

My mom's birthday was yesterday so I told her at dinner. My parents are super excited. I wanted to wait until after my u/s next week but she just had knee surgery and been feel king of down so I'm hoping this helped cheer her up. 

I've already been making a list of things I need to do around the house as well as buy for this next baby. The twins are still in cribs so I'll also be redoing this room this fall. I'm taking 2 online classes this summer and one isn't so bad but the other is super boring and I'm having trouble staying focused. Just ready for these next couple months to fly by.

[shauni27]

Jun 21, 2017 10:18:56 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Jun 21, 2017 8:34:57 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Not really. They know I have anxiety (I am on a low dose of Zoloft) but I am going to bring it up at my next appointment in a week. I just feel like they might just brush me off, you know?

Don't let them. From what you're saying, I'm concerned. It's normal to have some concern over the delivery process, but with your history, I have a lower threshold for suggesting intervention kwim?

I just called and made an appointment to speak with the midwife tomorrow. I cried when booking the appointment. 

[konapoppy]

shauni27, I am so glad you called. Hugs.

[thoseareradishes]

I'm sorry shauni27, I hope your doctors take you seriously and help you make a plan with how to manage your anxiety. I want your delivery to be a happy experience!

loira, I'm just ready to have her home (but at the same time, I'm terrified). My in-laws are coming to visit next week and I'm stressed about having everyone at the hospital. I tried to talk with H about it this morning but I don't think he really gets how stressful long visits are for me. E and I have our routine at the hospital; she needs down time to rest so that she finish her bottles and I can pump.

[King26]

pooh8402, Sounds like you are BUSY! I'm glad the mock transfer went well
Good luck at your appointment swiftlyirun,
I'm so glad E is continuing to do well thoseareradishes, Any word on when she might get to come home?
shauni27, Definitely talk to your doctor about it. I've been trying not to think of all the bad things that can happen but it is hard. Yesterday I made 3 batches of bolognese (because I can eat that on anything), prepped 2 bags of slow cooker chicken for tacos (just chicken, salsa, enchilada sauce, green chilies, and taco seasoning), 2 bags of homemade meatballs (one for with marinara for spaghetti and one with Thai sauce for lettuce wraps), and 2 chicken pot pies. I have ingredients to make chicken tortellini soup, mix for pancakes (put in a large Mason jar), mix for biscuits (put in a mason jar), and I've got a recipe for breakfast sandwiches (I'm going to make 8 sausage and 8 bacon). That's my plan for now!


Well our birthing class was ok. It's supposed to be 3 days (yesterday, tomorrow, and once next week) but they got a lot done yesterday since there were only 4 couples and are cutting it to 2 classes this week. I'm glad because I'm in a class everyday next week from 8-4:30 then would have to drive the hour to this class and be there 6-8:30 next week so YAY for not having to do that.

The social worker that came to the class and talked about carseats was super informative. I learned a lot and she'd actually going to install both mine and DH's carseats at our next OB appointment (she works at my clinic on Tues/Thurs). The actual class was ok. The nurse teaching it was bad...like reading off the screen, monotone, etc. It was rough though I did learn some things. I may be a little biased since I'm a teacher and I'll go to extreme lengths to make my lessons exciting and engaging.

[pooh8402]

shauni27, I'm so glad you called. Big hugs to you sweetie.

[thoseareradishes]

shauni27 , I would be really surprised if they brush you off. I was asked numerous times how I was feeling after E's birth, by my doctor, midwife, the nurses, a social worker, my patient advocate at my insurance company, and even one of E's respiratory therapists (I really appreciated that one; it was nice of someone in the NICU to ask how I was doing). A social worker stopped by E's room this week to check in on me and remind me that there are resources available should I need them. I'm so glad you called!

King26 , no date yet but hopefully by July. Honestly, I'd rather her stay until my in-laws go home, because I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle bringing her home with them here (even though I really like them, I just think it would be too stressful).

For freezer stuff, I've heard muffins are nice for a snack or breakfast. You could make lactation type ones if you plan to breastfeed. Also, burritos with lots of veggies for lunches would be yummy.

[pooh8402]

King26, I can relate to the nurse teaching the class. I taught the newborn care portion of prenatal classes for about a year and a half at my old hospital. I like teaching, but I'm a terrible public speaker. I prefer smaller, less formal teaching. It's entirely possible that she has good knowledge, but is not comfortable in front of a larger audience or classroom type setting.

[cactuscookie]

Jun 21, 2017 12:00:48 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

For freezer stuff, I've heard muffins are nice for a snack or breakfast. You could make lactation type ones if you plan to breastfeed. Also, burritos with lots of veggies for lunches would be yummy.

Yeah, I was going to mention this - muffins and pre-sliced sweet quick breads were great. I distinctly remember DH holding H, bleary-eyed, while I, also bleary-eyed, brought him a slice of banana bread. (H was not the easiest newborn.) Easy, filling, comforting, it totally hit the spot.

[King26]

Jun 21, 2017 13:03:32 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Jun 21, 2017 12:00:48 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

For freezer stuff, I've heard muffins are nice for a snack or breakfast. You could make lactation type ones if you plan to breastfeed. Also, burritos with lots of veggies for lunches would be yummy.

Yeah, I was going to mention this - muffins and pre-sliced sweet quick breads were great. I distinctly remember DH holding H, bleary-eyed, while I, also bleary-eyed, brought him a slice of banana bread. (H was not the easiest newborn.) Easy, filling, comforting, it totally hit the spot.

Muffins are a good idea.   I did that when a friend had a baby.   I didn't think about making any quickbreads and freezing them by the slice but that's a good idea.