Week of June 19

[loira]

shauni27, I get it. I had to explain my trauma over and over when I was pregnant with A. First when I got my new doctor in Canada, then again to the OBs at the hospital when I had issue after issue. I got so worked up when requesting my c-section that I broke down and started crying so hard I could barely breathe. I agree with Pooh that they need to take you seriously and help you manage your anxiety. Maybe they can come up with a detailed plan (and numerous backup plans) for your labour? The last thing you need is to add to your trauma. I also think you have a compelling case for a c-section, but I know you've said you want to try for a vaginal delivery. I really want this experience to be a happy one for you.

[swiftlyirun]

Thanks ladies! Monitoring looked good today! Several follies growing well on both sides- predicting ovulation Sat/Sunday- waiting for bloodwork to come back tomorrow to confirm what we saw on the u/s. Fingers crossed!!

[Chrysanthemum]

((( shauni27)))
Such great news about E thoseareradishes! She really is a strong, brave miracle.

I spent my first night away from C this week when I travelled for work. We both handled it well and my H did a fantastic job. Huge hurdle crossed. I also only have 2 more days of work befor eI can start my 5 weeks of summer! His daycare is amazing and won't charge us while he's home with me and they'll hold his spot. I have a list of fun summer activities I want to do together. First up though is swimming! We haven't made it to the neighborhood pool yet and I know he's going to LOVE it!

C is babbling a ton, laughing, and playing. He hasn't rolled over yet, but he's come close a few times. We'll probably start solids in a couple weeks when he reaches 6 months. He's such an easygoing, happy baby. I just enjoy him so, so much!

[grover]

I was not prepared for the feels I had when my period came. I wasn't expecting the disappointment, I guess I was secretly hoping for a pg before getting my period back? IDK. Definitely confirmed the not wanting to prevent.

A is babbling a ton and is a drool monster. She's become more tolerant of tummy time and loves staring at her baby friends. I can't believe she's three months (tomorrow)!

[linz]

Jun 21, 2017 11:46:59 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I'm sorry shauni27 , I hope your doctors take you seriously and help you make a plan with how to manage your anxiety. I want your delivery to be a happy experience!

loira , I'm just ready to have her home (but at the same time, I'm terrified). My in-laws are coming to visit next week and I'm stressed about having everyone at the hospital. I tried to talk with H about it this morning but I don't think he really gets how stressful long visits are for me. E and I have our routine at the hospital; she needs down time to rest so that she finish her bottles and I can pump.

I would be upfront with them about which times they could visit. My MIL visited a couple times and I told her when to come to make sure it wasn't around care times (I would pump right before they eat so I could hold them after). Maybe also say that you would prefer not to have visitors all day. And also, don't be afraid to tell people they can't hold her. None of our family held the babies until we were discharged and if they didn't like it, they never said a word to me. That NICU time is so precious and I figured if anyone was going to hold them it was H and I. Maybe I'm weird but I was super protective of them in the beginning. 

[shauni27]

I had a wonderful appointment with the midwives. The entire team there made me feel so comfortable and loved and supported. Knock on wood, assuming this baby gets here healthy, I am sending them a huge gift basket for dealing with my shit.

Midwife basically said that they would be happy to have me come in for early labor rather than waiting and laboring at home. This made me feel incredible. They also said that if I wanted an NST at my weekly appointments going forward that they would do that as well. She let me cry and listened and promised it was okay to feel this way and they were happy to do whatever they could within reason to help me. They have put in a request for an early induction at 39 weeks if I choose to do so, but as of right now I want to go until he is ready. It is nice having it as a backup though. All in all, a good appointment and I decided to download the hypnobirthing audio book so I can listen to it when I start freaking out.

[pooh8402]

shauni27, I'm so glad you had a good appointment and have a plan and backup plan in place, and that they are listening to you and taking you seriously!

[swiftlyirun]

(((shauni27))) SO glad you talked to them.

[awick14]

swiftlyirun- I may have watched all of the show that's in Netflix. I just couldn't stop watching. I've also watched all of that show too pooh8402. (Well all that's on Netflix.

thoseareradishes- holy crap 9lbs 12oz!!!!

((shauni27)) I am so glad that your midwives are being amazing!

[swiftlyirun]

awick14 It's so hard to stop. Haha, I'm on season 5 already!

Also, Clomid side effects  . Night sweats got me soooo tired. The hormonal headaches got me cray cray and I'm all kinds of nauseous. What a cruel joke Clomid is. Fingers crossed it works it's magic quickly. (((sorry for the complaining. I'm done.)))

[pooh8402]

swiftlyirun, of all people, we understand. no apology necessary. I hated clomid and am so glad I'm done with it forever. I had horrible headaches and hot flashes on it.

[King26]

swiftlyirun, The Clomid night sweats are no joke. I hate that stuff but hoepfully it's doing it's job!

Ok I've made some progress on the nursery. On wednesday we moved out the vanity and got it into our bedroom. Yesterday we finished getting things out of the room that need to be out. Today we moved the furniture we are keeping in there away from the walls and I'm taping the entire room today so that we can be ready to paint. It isn't much but I do feel like we've made progress.

We finished our birthing classes. The first one wasn't very good but last night we talked about what the hospital provides, what we need to bring, how to go about getting checked in, breathing techniques, relaxation techniques, and a few other things which was helpful.

Had an appointment yesterday as well and baby boy is measuring right on with a good heartrate and all of my bloodwork came back good too!

[shauni27]

swiftlyirun, I forgot about those clomid hot flashes!! They were awful.

[awick14]

swiftlyirun- clomid was no joke. I got lucky and didn't have any side effects the first cycle. But after that the hot flashes and the night sweats were horrible.

[swiftlyirun]

Thanks ladies 😊 Just talked to the RE, trigger on Sunday.

[cherryvalance]

swiftlyirun, yay for trigger! I didn't really have too many issues on Clomid, but I support any and all fertility drug complaining. That shit is rough, man.

[grover]

While I would never wish IF on anyone, I do wish more people understood that IF brings a ton of complicated emotions.

A mom in my RL mom's group is judging her cousin bc they said that they'd prefer she not bring her 8 month old to the cousin's baby shower. And she's judging me because I commented that I had an adults only baby shower.

[swiftlyirun]

grover so annoying. People are so self consumed- I wish people would just think before they said things.


Unless I see the smiley tomorrow on the ovulation tests, I trigger at 9:30. I'm nervous because we were supposed to do TI Friday night, Sunday and Tuesday. Well, last night I passed out at 8pm. I woke up and freaked out and well, things didn't "work" so well with DH this morning (of course this has never happened before). I didn't have a positive OPK today, so please tell me it's OK if we didn't have TI on Friday. The last time we did it was Thursday late...


WHAT SHOULD I DO?! ahhh...

[loira]

grover, these people are probably the same ones who assume their children are welcome everywhere. But then I'm at the other end of the scale, and a party with a ton of kids is my idea of hell. Lol, I wish people would also understand that I don't like KIDS, I just like my own. I do feel bad that A isn't very well socialized because I hate taking her to baby/toddler things. I do have a much higher tolerance for my friends' kids, though. Why is that?

[grover]

Jun 24, 2017 21:51:12 GMT -5 loira said:

grover, these people are probably the same ones who assume their children are welcome everywhere. But then I'm at the other end of the scale, and a party with a ton of kids is my idea of hell. Lol, I wish people would also understand that I don't like KIDS, I just like my own. I do feel bad that A isn't very well socialized because I hate taking her to baby/toddler things. I do have a much higher tolerance for my friends' kids, though. Why is that?

She's also someone who got knocked up immediately after getting married.

She's in my mom baby group, but she's six years younger than me. The girls I really enjoy hanging out with from this group are all closer to my age or older. And two of them had started seeing an RE but didn't end up needing treatments, but at least they get it.