Can I start a Wednesday thread?

[krystee]

Because I can't contain my excitement! The company told H that an offer is coming!!!!

[pooh8402]

Yay!

[grover]

WooHoo!!!

[bk1]

Awesome news!!! 

[tacocat]

That's awesome krystee! Congrats to you and your H!

I need to go clean out my car while DS naps. We haven't gone out of town with DS in a while, and it's so much more work than just the two of us.

[MrsMB]

Sweet news!!!!

[wineandcheese]

Yay!

[estrellita]

YAY!!! Super exciting news krystee!

[luv2rn4fun]

That is great news krystee! I bet you are both stoked and relieved!

tacocat- just the thought of going anywhere with the boys brings so much dread mainly because of all the stuff I have to pack. I have found that making a list of everything and packing what I can early helps (and strategizing the last minute things like sleep sacks, monitors, white noise, etc). Good luck!

It's 2p and I am finally sitting down for the first time since waking at 5:30 this morning. Busy day. Took the boys grocery shopping, made L some food, did a load of laundry, grilled chicken and made our salad for dinner, visited my step mom for her birthday, gave the boys a bath before their naps since it's so hot, and all the other things that go along with taking care of their endless needs.

[wineandcheese]

So I took a mental health day today. I went out with the girls to Angry Orchard. Now I'm relaxing and watching movies. Best idea ever!

[ewall]

I'm not being transferred to full time travel!!!!!!!!!!!!

[krystee]

If the offer does come through (so much has fallen through, I don't want to count on it!), H and I are thinking of taking a Portland/ Oregon coast trip sans kiddo for my 35th birthday in two weeks. Fingers crossed!

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 21, 2017 21:32:50 GMT -5 krystee said:

If the offer does come through (so much has fallen through, I don't want to count on it!), H and I are thinking of taking a Portland/ Oregon coast trip sans kiddo for my 35th birthday in two weeks. Fingers crossed!

Yay!! That sounds amazing!! Oregon is up there near the top of my list of vacations I want to do soon! I have always wanted to go since I was a kid and haven't yet for no good reason. Also, we are almost birthday twins...I turn 35 next week.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 21, 2017 21:22:23 GMT -5 ewall said:

I'm not being transferred to full time travel!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOOHOO!!!!!

[grover]

My GMIL is driving me nuts. Wants to know what she did wrong that we aren't answering her calls. Well lady, you were calling daily. After ignoring us for 11.5 years. And then I didn't immediately respond to her email where she basically was inviting herself over. My parents and one set of grandparents are also local, and I don't see them or call them as often as GMIL thinks we should be calling her.

If FIL were alive, he'd put the kabosh on this. H and MIL choose to ignore GMIL completely. But she's moved on to blasting my phone and email and I'm getting incredibly annoyed.

[luv2rn4fun]

It's 8:15 here. DH texted me at 7:30 telling me not to wait up for him. Poor guy is working a ton of hours at his new job. Early days are when he's home by 6:30/7. I am basically a single parent during the week and when he texted me earlier saying he didn't know when he was getting off my initial thought was "how is this different than any other night!?!" The frustrating part is that it seems like it's just DH having to stay late while others with same title are working a normal 40 hour week. I guess that could be a good thing that maybe he will be able to do the same someday but his boss seems to be a workaholic.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 21, 2017 22:15:41 GMT -5 grover said:

My GMIL is driving me nuts. Wants to know what she did wrong that we aren't answering her calls. Well lady, you were calling daily. After ignoring us for 11.5 years. And then I didn't immediately respond to her email where she basically was inviting herself over. My parents and one set of grandparents are also local, and I don't see them or call them as often as GMIL thinks we should be calling her.

If FIL were alive, he'd put the kabosh on this. H and MIL choose to ignore GMIL completely. But she's moved on to blasting my phone and email and I'm getting incredibly annoyed.

((Hugs)). My MIL can be like that and I finally had to tell her and DH that they were responsible for their relationship and not me. But I had my moms health as an excuse (I didn't want to have the burden of calling MIL all.the.time since I had newborn C, very sick mom, etc too much already on my plate and conversations with MIL are never short).

Can you say something or maybe ignore her until she goes away? Or make your DH say something?

[grover]

Jun 21, 2017 22:21:48 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Jun 21, 2017 22:15:41 GMT -5 grover said:

My GMIL is driving me nuts. Wants to know what she did wrong that we aren't answering her calls. Well lady, you were calling daily. After ignoring us for 11.5 years. And then I didn't immediately respond to her email where she basically was inviting herself over. My parents and one set of grandparents are also local, and I don't see them or call them as often as GMIL thinks we should be calling her.

If FIL were alive, he'd put the kabosh on this. H and MIL choose to ignore GMIL completely. But she's moved on to blasting my phone and email and I'm getting incredibly annoyed.

((Hugs)). My MIL can be like that and I finally had to tell her and DH that they were responsible for their relationship and not me. But I had my moms health as an excuse (I didn't want to have the burden of calling MIL all.the.time since I had newborn C, very sick mom, etc too much already on my plate and conversations with MIL are never short).

Can you say something or maybe ignore her until she goes away? Or make your DH say something?

Her email yesterday said she doesn't bite so she doesn't know why H has to be home for a visit. I explained that I know she doesn't bite, but that she's his family so I rather he is there.l, just as he prefers I'm there when my family visits.

Five minutes after I said that, she sends one asking if she offended us bc she thinks her internet is no longer working bc we don't reply to every email she sends and she can't see H's fb posts since like May.

So basically his response is to just ignore and block her, even though I asked him to tell her to stop blowing up my phone and email since I'm already dealing with the baby and can't deal with his grandma too. I'm sure agreeing to having her over once, meeting her for lunch once and then briefly stopping at her house all since A was born didn't help. But I felt bad because she just lost her second (adult) child out of three. But....we have lives and other family members that are a higher priority, and we're still adjusting to being a family of three. And, as I'm sure you are aware, there's tons of shit that doesn't get done during the week that we need to team tackle during the weekend.

Blah. Sorry for the novel.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) grover. If my GMIL lived closer we would have the same issues. She can't drive so we either have to drive to her or MIL/FIL have to bring her. She just moved closer to them (she used to live 2 hours away in DHs home town) which is like 5-6 hours away so no way are we doing that drive any time soon (not that we can't or won't do a road trip but to see them it isn't our highest priority right now given DHs relationship with his parents and all their dysfunction).

All that to say, I totally get it. I would continue to ignore and not engage. It's your h's responsibility, he can choose to deal or not deal and I would tell her that you have enough going on and she needs to communicate all this with your H, not you. That in your marriage you handle your family and he handles his. And then follow through, even block her number if you have to.

Babies make people crazy, it really is the weirdest thing. MIL got even crazier once C was born and my mom also had her issues (although we both could have done things differently and I see how her illness played such a huge role).

[awick14]

krystee- congrats! That's awesome news!

tacocat- I need to clean my car out too. We are going out of town this weekend as well. But just for a day trip for the first dragon boat festival of the year. (only an hr each way.) But urg what do I pack now that there are three of us? Lol

((grover)) I am not looking forward to seeing how MIL is going to take us moving away. I hope she's not expecting us to call or skype a lot. We will be busy, you know having lives. Lol As it is my SIL calls MIL (her mom) twice a day every day. 😳 once at 7:30am while she is getting ready for work, and then again at 6:30pm after dinner and stuff. I love my mom but no I could not call anyone twice a day. I didn't even talk to DH that much when I worked out of town. O ya and SIL is local to MIL. Lol

[tacocat]

awick14 Luckily it was mostly just some water bottles and a few food wrappers. It's so much harder to grab that stuff every time now. We still take the pack'n'play and mattress for that, so those take up the most room. Hope your car isn't too bad and y'all have a great time at the dragon boat races!

[luv2rn4fun]

ewall- that has to be such a huge relief, for being around for your DS but also for hypothetical baby #2. So so happy for you! And thank you...I really hope his schedule is more realistic soon. Poor guy worked 13 hours yesterday and basically came home just to sleep, wake up, and go back to work today.