Vents

[amaranth]

This week's frustrations are already building. Anyone else?

-H's corporate retirement contributions were cut in half. Ugh.

-We decided NOT to attend an out of state wedding in August due to finances. Then today my H was asked to be a groomsman in said wedding and feels obligated (I understand, and agree, unfortunately...) SO now we have to plan this dumb expensive trip, or he has to go on a dumb expensive trip without me. It sucks either way. Oh, with 5 weeks notice. Thanks dude.

-I've had 7-10 people ask to order custom products from me just this month, but the government compliance laws are so insane that I have been turning down all the orders. I think I will just suck it up and go through the legalities, but I'm annoyed that small scale shops still have to follow such rigorous procedures. 

-My husband still hasn't fucking finished our fucking bathroom. I told him our anniversary date is going to home depot and buying the rest of what he needs, coming home, and doing it. Grr. (to be fair, he is awesome and works hard and is exhausted and doing so much. I'm not mad at him, I just want the bathroom done is all.)

[estrellita]

amaranth They asked him to be a groomsman 5 weeks before the wedding?? That's insane! Did one drop out or something?

My vents:
-Systems at work suck, especially our main system. They keep dragging their feet on fixing it because later this year we're going to another system. But we can barely work right now! It's ridiculous and so frustrating.

-I'm annoyed about a medical bill I got. It was for my first appointment at the OB which was just talking about medical history, any concerns, and then labs. I got a bill for $140! I contacted my insurance company and I think something got mis-coded. They said something was coded as a procedure, but I most definitely didn't have any procedures done. I haven't had the chance to call the doctor's office to get it fixed. And it better be fixed or I'm going to be even more pissed!

[HoneySpider]

I'm just really freakin tired.

[bk1]

MIL is watching my 7yr old niece this week while my older niece and SIL are at church camp. I made plans with MIL to meet her and niece at a children's museum tomorrow when it opens. MIL texted me tonight asking if they could come to my house an hour early so they can follow us. Seriously? Ugh! I told her we would still be getting ready but sure she could come over. It's not like she doesn't know how to get to this place. We go a couple times a year and it's in a location that she drives regularly. Not looking forward to trying to get me and the girls ready and out the door while entertaining. 

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) ladies.

amaranth- that is ludicrous re: wedding. I hope you guys can work something out that doesn't end up costing a ton of money. Sorry your bathroom isn't finished either...that would totally annoy me.

HoneySpider- hope you get some rest and feel less tired soon. I can totally relate on that one...sleep isn't happening here and between that and being solo all week long it's catching up (and I find myself doing stupid things I did when sleep deprived with a newborn...shouldn't be happening 9 months PP).

estrellita- hope you get your medical bill resolved. That seems high.

bk1- you are a good DIL. I would have probably said no...hope you are able to get everyone ready in the morning. Maybe get the girls ready before they arrive and hand them off to MIL while you get ready?

C has been really difficult lately. Love him to death but he's really testing me and I am lost in how to parent him effectively. He keeps pushing L down (so he hits his head) and hits him a lot (he can be really loving too so it's not all bad). Tons of tantrums, downright defiance, and screaming. And throwing food. I keep going back and forth in whether potty training right now is even realistic. We will see what the doctor says tomorrow.

My birthday is Thursday and I had a moment this morning where I was thinking of my mom and really just wishing she were still here. I had just put L down for his nap and C was outside playing by himself and I just broke down and cried. And then had to pull myself together and go play with C. All of this is so much like when we had our losses...I guess it's all about going through the first year and all the "firsts". It's my moms birthday next week too so I know I have a solid week of feeling her loss a little more.

[awick14]

amaranth- that's just so weird they asked him now. Our house renos are going on and on as well and it's driving me crazy. Just be done already! Urg

bk1- that's something my MIL would do. And it would drive me crazy too.

HoneySpider- me too. Can I go to bed and not wake up for 2-3 days (or weeks).

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun lots of *hugs*! And I feel you on the difficult toddler thing. E gets so angry he shakes and just screams, and he recently started this weird growl when he's frustrated. I can't help sometimes but yell at him and that's obviously not helpful either. It's so hard to stay patient and understanding with them when they are just being completely insane toddlers!

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 28, 2017 6:14:21 GMT -5 estrellita said:

luv2rn4fun lots of *hugs*! And I feel you on the difficult toddler thing. E gets so angry he shakes and just screams, and he recently started this weird growl when he's frustrated. I can't help sometimes but yell at him and that's obviously not helpful either. It's so hard to stay patient and understanding with them when they are just being completely insane toddlers!

((Hugs)). It's so so hard. I love that he can talk and we can have conversations and do so many fun things now at this age...but the last 9 months with him have been very hard (partly because L was born, part 2 year old, and now part DH never being home...C misses him). I lost it last night and feel so bad. We ended on a good note but dinner and bath were brutal...dealing with his tantrums and throwing food while trying to feed L and get them both in the bath and ready for bed was chaos. Thankfully DH made it home after bath time so he could get C to eat more food while I put L to bed.

[MrsMB]

((luv2rn4fun)) I can't imagine friend. I'm so sorry....

So, DH put a baking pan in the dishwasher last night (the new dishwasher) and it caused the unit to leak...just a little. Luckily, the new machine is smart enough to cancel the cycle if it senses leaks. I mean, we just replaces the floors in almost 2 rooms....NO, NO, NO!!!

@
I don't want to go into detail...but he's got issues with a few things and one of them flared up last night. It took me a hot minute to figure out what was going on. I'm really trying to practice grace with him. It's hard though...

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) MrsMB. Sorry things are rough for you guys right now. I am here if you need to talk. Prayers for you friend.

[MrsMB]

Jun 28, 2017 8:46:39 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

((Hugs)) MrsMB . Sorry things are rough for you guys right now. I am here if you need to talk. Prayers for you friend.

Thank you...it's not us necessarily. It's some of the stuff he has battled with since we've been married. (eta He's had these prior to us being married...I just started noticing it after we got married.) His own issues...of course, it affects me and DD....but it's a fine line to walk in regards to handling it. 

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 28, 2017 8:57:38 GMT -5 MrsMB said:

Jun 28, 2017 8:46:39 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

((Hugs)) MrsMB . Sorry things are rough for you guys right now. I am here if you need to talk. Prayers for you friend.

Thank you...it's not us necessarily. It's some of the stuff he has battled with since we've been married. (eta He's had these prior to us being married...I just started noticing it after we got married.) His own issues...of course, it affects me and DD....but it's a fine line to walk in regards to handling it. 

I totally get what you are saying and was just implying "you guys" because it always affects the marriage and other spouse when one is dealing with their own issues. ((Hugs)) friend. I hope things turn around soon...especially with baby boy joining your family soon!

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 28, 2017 9:34:29 GMT -5 suzv said:

I'm tired this week and can't seem to get caught up on anything. I couldn't sleep last night and then woke up around 1am panicking that the baby was somewhere in bed with us. Also, my MIL was incredibly horrendous when we went to visit her last weekend. I won't get into detail but she truly is not a nice person, especially to her own mother. I try not to project my feelings of losing my own mom when I was only 24, but it drives me crazy when people are shitty to their parents.

So many ((hugs)). I would have a hard time keeping my mouth shut too, even though I am the first to admit that we both had a big role in why things were distant at the end of my moms life. I wish nothing more than for things to have been different and it's probably something that I will have a really hard time finding peace with as life goes on without her here. I'm not angry at her but I wish we both would have had that closure and peace.

[amaranth]

bk1 How did it go this morning?

MrsMB *hugs* I hope things improve for him

luv2rn4fun I feel you girl, boy do I feel you. M switches off between my best friend and worst enemy, sometimes by the hour...

suzv *hugs* That sounds so scary and I'm so sorry you're having to deal with those fears as well as feeling overwhelmed.

estrellita Good luck getting it lowered. Where I live that sounds like a standard office visit fee without any procedures so while I wouldn't like it, I wouldn't blink at that number. Hopefully you can lower it though.

awick14 I swear, home renos are the gift that never ends. They go on for eternity. 

[estrellita]

amaranth The insurance company said I'm only responsible for the copay ($30). I have no idea why I'm being charged more. I have different insurance this time but they verified I just pay the copay for the first visit, then anything going forward with my OB is billed at once, which is how it was with my old insurance. They have the coding people looking into it and I contacted the insurance company again. It's definitely not right for this clinic!

[HoneySpider]

Hugs all around!

[melsamoony]

So many hugs to all my friends especially luv2rn4fun.

This is a silly petty vent: I am on my own for 2 days on our trip while H is at a conference. I made plans to go see Cars 3 with DS. He was excited. We walk down to the theatre and he falls asleep on the way. So here I sit waiting for him to wake.

I did get coffee while waiting but spilled some on myself...twice so I stained 2 shirts. Luckily it is iced coffee.

[bk1]

amaranth It went okay. She was 20 minutes later then planned so I basically has us ready to go. Thanks for asking.

[wineandcheese]

amaranth talk about last minute! I understand it is expensive, which totally sucks but I hope you go, you might end up enjoying yourself. You deserve to have some fun!

bk1 that sounds like something my mom would do.

luv2rn4fun Happy birthday! Sending lots of hugs!

MrsMB hugs!

HoneySpider I hope you can get some rest soon.

suzv hugs! I hope you also get some rest too. I hate when people are disrespectful to their parents, to the point I have lost friends because I told them off over it. I lost my dad 24 and miss him terribly.

melsamoony how was the movie?

ewall $800!?!

For the last month I have had pain in my right arm/shoulder/neck and numbness in my hand. I finally got it checked yesterday since the numbness got worst. I have a pinched nerve in my elbow. Because of having to lift patients and heavy boxes/racks at the other job, my doctor doesn't want me working until I see a neurologist. Lucky that's next Wednesday. Except this is my big money week for fireworks. Like I make more money in 3 days doing fireworks then 2 weeks at my regular job. DH told me to still go since I can do light duty stuff but I hate that I can't do what I normally can. I pride myself in being able to keep up with the guys lifting boxes and racks. I can wire and load but it sucks.

[grover]

hugs luv2rn4fun, H just went thru his dad's first bday since his passing as well as H's first fathers day as a father/first without his dad. Try to take some time just for you if you can.

[melsamoony]

wineandcheese it was good but we didnt see the ending. DS got antsy and started bouncing seat to seat about 15 minutes from the ending so we left.

Probably better for a slightly older crowd since it had a slower part that didnt hold DS's attention. There were at least 40 minutes of previees though which didnt help! It was overall a good experience though.

[amaranth]

wineandcheese sorry you're injured too

[luv2rn4fun]

Jun 29, 2017 7:44:30 GMT -5 grover said:

hugs luv2rn4fun, H just went thru his dad's first bday since his passing as well as H's first fathers day as a father/first without his dad. Try to take some time just for you if you can.

((Hugs)) to your DH as well. It's such a hard time, especially as new parents (and harder when it's a father/son and mother/daughter because you can now relate to your parents in a whole new way and want that parent to help as you navigate parenthood). I hope your DH can find peace with his dads passing as time goes on. Way too young to lose a parent.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) wineandcheese. Hope you recover quickly. Sorry you are injured 🙁