It's Monday (sort of)

[mommyatty]

So it's technically Monday. But I took today off because my office is going to be a ghost town. 

Celebration: Kids are going to camp today while DH and I do a massive toy room purge/organization. Since DH is going to cooperate in the organization, I'm hoping it will motivate him to quit being the asshole who just throws a million toys in the middle of the room "because he doesn't know where they go." We have done this probably half a dozen times: I do a massive clean up, explain the org system to him (not rocket science... all the trucks are on this shelf, all the Legos go on this shelf, here is the Play-doh), and the next day his mother has allowed the kids to tear every toy out, spread them all over the house, and he's just dumped them in the middle of the toy room. 

Another celebration. We had a pool party with BFF yesterday. We had a blast, kids were good, and my chicken fajita kebabs were da bom. Plus plenty of leftovers for mason jar salads Wed, Thurs, and Fri! Yahoo!

Vent: DS seems determined not to be potty trained. I don't understand. He stays dry over night and can hold it for HOURS during the day. Maybe we need to go full-out naked weekend? I may do an advice post for that one. I'm about to lose my mind. 

[supertrooper1]

Vent: I'm at work. And wearing a new uniform that even after being washed is stiff and scratchy.

Celebration: Today is my last day before more than 2 weeks off. If I hadn't taken tomorrow off, I would have been working a double shift, not voluntarily. Things are mostly better between DH and me.

[rere]

Celebrate : 1 day of work then off work for 8 days and off to Panama City Beach for 5 days with the family!

Vent: My house is a wreck. We are going back and fixing things from first building our house 14 yrs ago. We centered a cabinet that had always been a little off and found a light socket behind it? Who does that? All of my food, crockpots, blenders, etc are in the living room until they finish the drywall. I have no idea what they will do while we are gone. I hope there is a miracle and I come back to a finished house and I can take the last 2 days off and put it together. Not going to happen, but I can dream.

[justcheckingin73]

Vent: I have to work, not just pretend to work but actually get things done. Sigh. Even my DH is off today and normally he's the one working these odd types of holidays. My MIL is in town and we're seeing her tomorrow at SIL's house. I'm not in the mood to deal with her loud voice, repeating herself and attention-seeking behaviors. Hopefully she's low key tomorrow. 

I have no celebrations, partly bc I've got some major PMS and am having a hard time seeing the silver lining in anything. Need more sleep. 

[vasc]

DD came down with HFM virus over the weekend....so we kinda have to isolate ourselves.

[l504]

Celebrate: I'm happy to be spending time with the kids over this long weekend, while everyone else seems to be working

Vent: how many toys do we own...how can the house look like a bomb went off after being here for only a few hours... and finally, I may have to take off, just to do damage control on the house once the kids are back at camp.

[judyblume14]

I'm one of two people in my office today. i also have to actually work-work beucase I'm running behind on an assignment.

We had a party yesterday - over 60 people. Yikes. It was a lot of fun, and less stressful than I was anticipating...mostly because all of our friends and family were super-willing to keep and eye on DD1, and to hold DD2 while we hosted.

Vent - DH was supposed to spend his day off today cleaning up party aftermath. Instead, the poor guy is heading to urgent care for some poison ivy-ish rash and what seems to be an allergic reaction to a sting from a bee that flew up his pants. He had to wear long [ants and sleeves yesterday in the 90 heat and crazy humidity to keep covered

[akafred]

By 9am today Charlotte had made a new friend, cuddled a toddler, saw an adult who knew her but I did not know (maybe a camp counselor or gymnastics instructor?) and hugged her, caught up with a family frireunion be, and hung out with 3 school friends. I am exhausted lol.

I am off today. DH and I are finishing up moving stuff out of old house this morning before he goes to work. I will try various furniture arrangements in my living room at new house before picking DD up.

My dog WILL NOT PEE. It literally took an hour outside before she peed this morning. It was a LONG pee too, about a full minute. Will be 3.5 weeks before the fence goes up. I may die.

[billie]

First day of winter break from school for DD. I have to think of something to do this afternoon or I might go nuts.

Vent: I hate these little rubber balls she always seems to get at the dentist or as a party favor. They drive me NUTS.

[k3am]

Neutral: I have to work. It should be a slow day, and I have the okay to leave early. Sadly, this is as close as I get to "me" time.

Vent: Just the same one from Friday. I think I'll be stuck there for a while.

[xctsclrx]

Vent: I am at work by choice. Why did I make this choice? I yes so I don't have to use a ton a vacation time when I go to Jamaica next month. Remembering Jamaica.

Celebrations: Not really. I am being pissy about working to day.

[k3am]

Quasi celebration: We met with the new realtor on Saturday. He estimates that we'd sell our home for about $100k more than I'd been budgeting for. He's recently sold half our street, it feels like, so I feel like he has a good pulse on the market.

Vent: He did confirm what the old realtor told us was the "only" way to move. We have to sell this house first, do a 30-45 day leaseback and hope for the best and move into temporary housing if we don't find anything on time. Or move into temporary housing before we put our house on the market. We'd likely need a 20% downpayment to buy a house before selling our current, and we can't make that happen without the equity from our current or taking a loan against our 401ks, and I don't think either of us want to do that.

Neutral: It's all a moot point for now. Since we're not making any drastic changes until we get DD figured out. But we'd had the meeting scheduled for a couple weeks and didn't want to cancel.

[186momx]

I'm working and have to work work too. I have payrolls like crazy.

Still have company and said company is in charge of DD today as DH has been useless all weekend. DH is basically peeved because his ideas keep getting vetoed and everyone is sleeping in too late and we are wasting the day away. We didn't get home until 11 from the rodeo last night so yes I expect everyone to sleep this morning and the rest of the weekend who cares if we sleep til 9 or later and have a relaxing brunch breakfast before going off to do something low key.

akafred, I feel you on the dog not peeing. Our Rylee does this when we go camping. Could you put her out on a tie cord to pee? Otherwise I go a little away and then say "go potty" and looked bored and just not let her sniff and she seems to get it. If DH takes her to potty while camping he is gone 2+ hours and she still hasn't gone when he gets back.

[akafred]

186momx, IDK. I am using an extension leash and just sitting in a chair sipping Coke while she doesn't pee. Dog tie outs aren't allowed in the neighborhood and a lot of my neighbors walk their dogs off leash. I can't because my dog bolts (in fact she slipped her collar our first night here). But. I wouldn't want her tied out anyway with loose dogs around. Plus it matters if she pees because she has not been 100% reliable in the house since we got her. The first 18 months were a nightmare as she peed on the carpet all the time, and seemed to do it any time I wasn't watching her closely. Ugh. Now she is better, but I wouldn't say 100%. Plus it is a new house so sometimes dogs forget if the rules apply to the new house or not.

I did active rescue for 10 years before adopting DD, and NEVER did I have a dog so hard to train!

[sdlaura]

vasc I will never forget 4th of July three years ago when both my kids got HFM - less than two weeks after DS had open heart surgery to fix his congenital heart defect at five months old. That really really sucked. I hope it's a mild case for you guys!

Big kids are at preschool and camp today. Baby and I have a big day of grocery shopping and going on a walk, plus other nice boring stuff.

[msn06]

Celebrate they are putting the siding and brick on the new house today.

I'm off work today and tomorrow.

Vent: DD has suddenly decided she only wants to pee on the potty backwards. She wants to face the tank just like Daddy does. She at least accepts that she can't sand up and pee.

[legomyago]

I just jumped over to this group when I realized TCF died.
Celebration: I'm starting to plan for our trip to Rocky Mountain National Park later this month, so it is nice to get excited about that.
Quasi-celebration: I'm off my blood pressure meds finally, 13 months after HELLP. My blood pressure is still higher than pre-pregnancy, so I have to lower my sodium intake. Gobs of sodium in everything! Even my "healthy" favorites eating out are not healthy when they account for 110% of my daily sodium limit.
Vent: I'm working today and it SUCKS. I'm not sure if there is a change in barometric pressure or what, but I felt dead this morning and my 7 yo was bawling about going to daycare today. I mangled the toenail on my big toe last night at 2 am while feeding baby.

[mommyatty]

legomyago, congrats on the BP med thing! I had to be on them for a while after each of my kids. It wasn't HELLP, just odd unexplained non-preeclampsia high BP at the onset of labor. (Best guess is that it's just my body's reaction to pain.) Could your BP have been low this morning? After I stopped the BP meds, my BP bounced all over the place for about 6-8 weeks and still isn't as stable as one might hope. When it's low, I feel like hammered cow shit, as my grandpa would say.

[186momx]

Celebration: Thank you all my payroll clients that followed my directions. You have made today so much easier and it looks like I will be able to go home shortly after lunch. For those client who can't tell time...if it comes before I leave I will stay and do it but you are getting charged extra as it is always the same couple of people.

Hope everyone else who is working is having a good day and get to leave early too.

[legomyago]

Jul 3, 2017 13:23:19 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

legomyago , congrats on the BP med thing! I had to be on them for a while after each of my kids. It wasn't HELLP, just odd unexplained non-preeclampsia high BP at the onset of labor. (Best guess is that it's just my body's reaction to pain.) Could your BP have been low this morning? After I stopped the BP meds, my BP bounced all over the place for about 6-8 weeks and still isn't as stable as one might hope. When it's low, I feel like hammered cow shit, as my grandpa would say.

Oh, good point! I didn't even think of it being low blood pressure! Yeah, mine certainly bounces around.

[greenmonkey1]

Officially submitted my resignation and notified my team that I will not be returning after maternity leave. I have worked for pay since I was about ten so not having an employer is a very strange feeling. It is very nice not to have the end of maternity leave hanging over my head; that feeling was very stressful with the first two kiddos.

[mae0111]

Congratulations greenmonkey1!!!!

[mae0111]

Huge vent: When DH joined his current firm about 14 months ago, the owner put in his offer letter that he would offer DH equity ownership, and would negotiate in good faith. After almost a year of DH pushing, he got a draft of the ownership agreement. We sent it to an attorney for review, and he came back quickly with major comments. Our attorney focuses on this sort of thing, owners attorney is a family law specialist. DH sent our lawyer's comments to the owner last week. On Saturday, the owner sent DH and the other guy trying to buy in a letter stating that he is rescinding his offer to sell shares. So no ownership for DH, and certainly no negotiation in good faith.

He screwed DH. I saw it coming, but DH was completely blindsided. I feel terrible for him. He's got some good options, but he's not taking it well.

[supertrooper1]

Wow mae0111. That was really shitty of his boss. That has to be awkward now at work for all involved.

[billie]

That sucks mae0111! Doesn't sound like good faith to me

Yay greenmonkey1! It's my dream to not come back from mat leave this time around (at least not to the same employer) but so far no luck

[mustardseed2007]

We had a good day today and yesterday. We were at the neighborhood pool yesterday for several hours and I ended up staying at the pool solo with the kids while DH ran off to meet some friends. This is probably dumb to say, but it's the first time I've had my 3 and 5 year old at a pool by myself. Normally I won't do it b/c I'm so nervous that something will happen to one while I'm preoccupied with the other. But DS has gotten tall enough and good enough at swimming that I felt comfortable staying on my own and it went great.

Today our neighborhood pool was closed (it's normally closed mondays) so debated going to the zoo or going to this other, really cool kids pool at a church near us. We went with the pool and it was fantastic. I was hoping my kids would pass out but no such luck.

Oh wells. We're going out to eat sushi so that'll be a nice cap off to the day.

[thatsfancy]

Add me to the list of those who worked today. DH is out of town for 2 more weeks so I'm solo with my boys until then. Trying to figure out what to do with them tomorrow since the forecast is now rain and the pool plans are off.

greenmonkey1 congratulations!

mae0111 I'm so sorry for your DH.

[ilovelucyvv]

Sorry mae0111. How shitty.

Still thinking of you k3am.

[ilovelucyvv]

Celebration: I didn't work today. It was a recover day after the wedding before the 4th of July festivities which are all day long. I had a lot of fun carching up with childhood friends at the wedding and the kids had tons of fun at my parent's house

Vent: H just told me one of his friends that I don't like just moved back to town. H wanted to invite him to our 4th of July festivities. Despite having two youngish kids the guy likes to party until 3-4am.

[waverly]

Celebration- we are vacation without the kids. I don't even miss them yet- not at all. I feel like I should but I just don't. I feel like all I do is be ultra responsible and worry about them and their health and school etc all the time. I think it's too much. It's like I am too responsible. I may be driving myself nuts. So anyway this is great. I'm sure I'll miss them later.

No vents.