People suck

[akafred]

My old neighborhood's Neighborhood Watch FB page is aflurry. Apparently a subdivision has had a rash of burglaries, and the police know who the suspect is. A 9 year old kid. No charges will be brought (because, hello, 9!). There are so many assumptions (parents put them up to it, gang initiation, etc) and so many ugly comments (he should come in my house, my security system is run by smith and Wesson, they should put the parents in jail and the kid in boot camp, etc). I want to scream.

So what is your "people suck" moment for today?

[rere]

Wow. That is wild! I can't even imagine.

My renter is $900 behind on his rent. He is posting pictures of his vacation in Colorado, which is about 1000 miles not where we live. He will get a txt on Monday letting him know the balance needs to be paid in full by Tuesday, or he will need to find somewhere else to live.

[shakinros]

That is horrible. I get that people are freaked when their house is burglarized (been there!) but guns as security system against a child?!?! Beyond despicable.

Mine is not so serious. We are doing user acceptance testing on a big new software system at work. This has pushed out all of my other duties because it is so important to do thoroughly. I am working hours every night after DD goes to bed and before she gets up to load data into the system so we have some real accounts to test with. Our software company sat with us last week to explain system functions, but Friday through today, they keep bailing on our testing sessions. They say they don't usually provide so much support during testing but I don't understand how that can be. We don't know how to use the system yet. We can't test by ourselves because we don't know what to click on.

This whole project is about to go off the rails and miss all its launch deadlines because were spending our test sessions looking at each other and saying "I don't know. What do YOU think I should click on next?"

[Covergirl82]

SIL is horribly mean when she's PG. (Although she just had the baby early this morning, so maybe she will start acting nicer.) She told MIL the other day that she (SIL) doesn't want to have a relationship with her (MIL), because SIL thinks MIL is "evil" and "the worst mom ever." I don't disagree that MIL has some problems (such as speaking before she thinks), but I really think she did try to do her best as a single mom. (Heck, MIL was acting like a single mom when she was still married to FIL, because FIL didn't ever help take care of DH and SIL.) DH was genuinely concerned that MIL might try and commit suicide over SIL's comments (because SIL has said these types of things to MIL multiple times in the past few months), and MIL has a mental illness (bipolar). SIL likes to portray herself as such a devout Christian, but she seems to forget that Jesus was all about forgiveness/not holding grudges and loving others.

[akafred]

Covergirl82, your SIL needs some serious counseling. MIL too, probably.

[justcheckingin73]

The assumptions people make are the worst. I can't read comments anymore because I get so enraged at the ignorance and blanket statements. 

I'm in the negative phase of PMS (such a fun time) so all people suck right now. In general though, I have issues when these stories and videos of good deeds are posted on social media and the general consensus is - if everyone did that, the world would be a better place. Then you go out into the world and come across so many people that are complete a-holes who only think of themselves. I always wonder if those are the people that post those comments - hypocrites. 

[HeartofCheese]

You know what I say: get all your burglarizing, robbery, and sexual assault in before you're 10 or don't get them in at all.

I have a "people suck" story. My realtor sucks b/c he suggested we list the house at the same price it was listed for when we bought it 3.5 years ago. Apparently the $20k in a new roof, furnace, water heater, and washer in a sellers' market doesn't drive a price like it used to.

[judyblume14]

HeartofCheese, my realtor sucked too. I'm still bitter that she didn't do a GD thing to negotiate a lower price on the home we bought (hence her commission was huge), and she was shitty at selling too, and we sold for like 30K under our original list price (which was less than what we bought it for 8 years earlier).

Other people who suck. BIL - who pissed on my couch this weekend (for not-the-first time). FIL - who backed out of watching our kids when we were supposed to go on vacation this winter. My sister - who is avoiding everyone in our family because she owes my dad money (it's our DAD. It's a few hundred bucks. He's not even mad about the money. Just the avoidance). My coworkers - who keep scheduling meetings across my lunch hour. And finally - one specific coworker who was rolling her eyes at her "overprotective" DIL who asked her to get a flu shot this season.

[akafred]

Jul 26, 2017 8:26:26 GMT -5 HeartofCheese said:

You know what I say: get all your burglarizing, robbery, and sexual assault in before you're 10 or don't get them in at all.

I have a "people suck" story. My realtor sucks b/c he suggested we list the house at the same price it was listed for when we bought it 3.5 years ago. Apparently the $20k in a new roof, furnace, water heater, and washer in a sellers' market doesn't drive a price like it used to.

I'm telling you, $10,000 in sales price only equates to like $200 (once they pay their broker) in the realtor's pocket. All they care about is a quick sale. We sold for $20k over what our realtor initially suggested, and $25,000 more than the first totally incompetent realtor said. And we had a full price offer in 24 hours.

I kept a spreadsheet for a good 6 weeks before I was ready to list.
Category (active, pending, sold)
Address
Year built (our 'hood had some infill in the 80's)
Distance from our home
Square footage
Bedrooms
Bathrooms
Lot size
List price
$/sf list price
Zillow estimate
$/sf Zillow
Sales price
$/sf sales price
List date
Pending date
Sales date
Notes (how renovated or dated it is, pretty landscaping, curbs ppeal, etc)

When the second realtor came, I was able to show him that spreadsheet and show that he was way off. I could filter down to houses in the same size and number of bedrooms to show what the max sales price was. It helped defend my position and feel confident, but ultimately it is your decision.

[rere]

judyblume14 BIL- who pissed on my couch this weekend (for not-the-first time)

Wait...What?

[waverly]

My co worker busted out of work mid day crying yesterday. No idea why maybe her salary as she was just looking up the salary range. I get she is getting screwed, but she also has to advocate for herself. She doesn't think the boss treats her that well. He doesn't bully her but I think he gives her the impression that she doesn't know what she is doing. I think she is doing fine just technology challenged. He is buddy buddy with this woman who is a bully and my co worker takes that really hard because of her sense of justice. She is 63 and went bankrupt and divorced 7 years ago so has little in retirement and thinks this is the only job she can get. Personally I think I would just retire and pay for health insurance for a year, but I don't know what it would be like not to have much in retirement at that age.

I'm not sure who sucks in this scenario. My boss? Obviously bully lady sucks? But my co worker brings a lot of stress and drama on herself because she lacks the ability to know when to back off or how to handle stress. She has been to counseling. She puts herself in the middle and asks her boss to choose sides and gets mad when he chooses bully lady's side, and she does this over and over and over again. She doesn't learn.

[Covergirl82]

akafred, I totally agree. I should have MH suggest it to SIL. (Although I'm assuming that SIL will disagree that she needs to go because she feels she is perfect and doesn't need counseling and that MIL is the one who needs counseling.) MIL has been doing some counseling with her pastor and pastor's wife, which I think has helped. DH told MIL yesterday to stop communicating with SIL for a while, because SIL only has hurtful things to say to her.

The really sad thing is that SIL goes out of her way to make sure to spend time with FIL when SIL and her family are in town (they live about 12 hours away right now). FIL was physically and emotionally abusive to MIL when they were married, and a horrible dad to MH and SIL. One time MH fell off his bike when he was a kid and a rock was lodged in his forehead. MIL ran inside to tell FIL they needed to go to ER, and he was like, "oh, he'll be fine," and went back to reading his book or drinking beer or whatever. MIL's parents lived a couple houses down, so she ran MH down to their house, and they took MIL and MH to the ER. FIL lives about 35 minutes away from us, and we see him maybe once a year.

[k3am]

People who suck: our IT department, who have recently decided that I don't need to access personal emails at work and blocked my email provider.

Don't they realize that this place and HIH are a MUCH bigger time suck???

[judyblume14]

Jul 26, 2017 8:56:40 GMT -5 rere said:

judyblume14 BIL- who pissed on my couch this weekend (for not-the-first time)

Wait...What?

Several years ago, he got drunk, fell asleep on a super comfy chair. Peed himself. I had to dispose of the chair becuase it was down-Filled and not cleanable.

Last year,  he got drunk, fell asleep on our couch. Peed himself.

Saturday, he got drink, fell asleep on our couch. Peed himself.


My potty-training almost 3yo has NOT peed on our furniture.  But my almost-40yo BIL has.

[xctsclrx]

judyblume14, You need to tell your BIL he is not allowed to drink at your house anymore. I feel like three times is over the limit. Once I MIGHT have forgiven and that is a big MIGHT.

[saraml13]

My ILs who can't plan anything in advance and think the world revolves around them, plus DH who can't plan either and enabled them. This rant brought to you by MIL deciding last night that she and her visiting sister were going to come visit us this evening, at the same time DH remembered he has a work event tonight. DH guilted me into changing my parents' standing plans to pick up the boys today and agreeing to host his family without him. After all that, MIL decided that they weren't going to come after all. I give it a 50/50 shot that she calls tonight and wants to visit tomorrow, which is when I rescheduled my parents to.

[mommyatty]

judyblume14, I think it's time to stop letting your BIL sleep on your furniture when drunk. And btw, getting so drunk you pee yourself on multiple occasions equals it's time to assess your relationship with alcohol.

American Airlines is a person under Citizens United, and they suck. My 5:30 flight tonight was already delayed by 40 minutes more than 12 hours before takeoff. Wtf. Get another plane in service if you're already having issues. I hate American Airlines, and I have platinum status on them, so I have lots of opportunities to watch their suckage in action.

[judyblume14]

Jul 26, 2017 9:35:45 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

judyblume14 , You need to tell your BIL he is not allowed to drink at your house anymore. I feel like three times is over the limit. Once I MIGHT have forgiven and that is a big MIGHT.

I told my husband to deliver that message.  Why one would choose to continue to drink when it so often leads to incontinence is so far beyond me.

[judyblume14]

mommyatty, I completely agree. I told my h this needs to stop. he "feels bad" for his brother, and his brother "has had this problem his whole life. It's not just when he drinks." Huh. oddly enough, in the 16 years we've been together, this has only happened when he's drunk. AND even if that's the case, getting drunk is NOT a good way to avoid peeing yourself.

I have strong feelings about his brother's relationship with alcohol.

[waverly]

judyblume14, definitely not be allowed in my house drinking.

[HeartofCheese]

Jul 26, 2017 9:41:49 GMT -5 judyblume14 said:

Jul 26, 2017 9:35:45 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

judyblume14 , You need to tell your BIL he is not allowed to drink at your house anymore. I feel like three times is over the limit. Once I MIGHT have forgiven and that is a big MIGHT.

I told my husband to deliver that message.  Why one would choose to continue to drink when it so often leads to incontinence is so far beyond me.

What is his furniture like at his house?

[186momx]

Comcast sucks! Yesterday the phones were really quiet like one phone call all day. Dad goes to call a client to ask a question at 2 and the phone is dead. No dial tone no nothing. My cell was at 10% battery so not enough to sit on hold. Call Comcast this morning and someone will be out in 2-4 hours to check our modem so we are sitting dead in the water as we can't call anyone and no one can call us. The crappy part is they didn't really care that our business has no phone.

[mommyatty]

Jul 26, 2017 9:45:28 GMT -5 judyblume14 said:

mommyatty, I completely agree. I told my h this needs to stop. he "feels bad" for his brother, and his brother "has had this problem his whole life. It's not just when he drinks." Huh. oddly enough, in the 16 years we've been together, this has only happened when he's drunk. AND even if that's the case, getting drunk is NOT a good way to avoid peeing yourself.

I have strong feelings about his brother's relationship with alcohol.

I "feel bad" for his liver. And btw people with night time bladder control issues know to use adult diapers/Depends. If he isn't using adult diapers, this is a drunk problem, not a bladder problem. Problem drinkers make me nuts. (FFC)

[2chatter]

This morning I told DS' school, where he has been for four years - since he was 18 months old - he won't return next week. New management and new teachers equals total chaos. And registered him in a very spendy summer camp program.

There's a kid there that has taught him to talk back, expose himself, moon people, say bad words and refuse to work and the teachers cannot control this kid. Yesterday he scratched DS and the other child in the class and the last straw was finding out there are only THREE kids and the teacher can't curtail this. We are the SIXTH family to leave and the class is now this kid, alone.

I'm not paying them for August either. I don't care what they do. I haven't gotten a calendar, bill or receipt all summer, and DS keeps getting physically hurt by this kid, so if they want to talk contract, they broke it. Repeatedly.

The upside - I have been dropping DS at 9 and picking up at 3 to limit this. Now I can have long days back and feel less insane.

The teacher I told said "management needs to do something about CHILD" and encouraged me to do the best thing for DS (she was his 3s teacher, but doesn't see him daily now or he would stay).

[billie]

2chatter wow. That is... Something. I think you're doing the right thing BTW

[saraml13]

2chatter wow, that is bad. I feel you on the daycare issues. Our management is pure chaos and we are leaving after 2.5 years. We are friends with another family there who are also leaving at the same time as us to go to the same new place. The new place we're going to enrolls on a semester schedule all at once and is the other major daycare / preschool in town, so I wonder if there is go by to be a mass exodus with us. I can't imagine that parent satisfaction at or current daycare is very high.

[waverly]

2chatter, sorry to hear that. You are doing the right thing.

Our daycare has been good overall, however we ended up moving based on price to one with good recommendations.