Open Letters

[saraml13]

For the non-sucky people who need a talking to.

[k3am]

Dear client,

You suck. I don't have the time, energy, or a suitable attorney that I like with the capacity to deal with a workout loan. I also don't have the political clout here to live through a $5MM loss, so fingers crossed a miracle happens. I happen to like my job.

Signed,
Going gray.

[saraml13]

Dear kids,
When you aren't crying, you are so freaking cute!
Signed
Love seeing you "play" together

Dear Daycare
When you write "dry cereal" on DS2's daily report for breakfast, I assumed you were feeding him plain cheerios or similar. It is NOT cool to feed fruit loops to my 9 month old.

This, along with about a thousand other reasons, is exactly why we are switching daycares. I'm going to drop that news on you on Friday, and don't even think about trying to guilt me.
Signed
Outta Here

[waverly]

Dear BIL (who does suck), thanks for your input into our family vacation. This is between us and my mom who owns the property. You are not involved. In fact, you never do anything to help anyone but yourself. Meanwhile you take advantage of my mom like crazy when it comes to babysitting and house stuff. And you actually don't really parent like a father anymore because my mom has basically stepped into that role. You don't discipline your kids, get them help, put them to bed, read to them or pack their lunches. I am pretty sure you don't do much cleaning or laundry, but I could be a little wrong on that. I am not sure what actually you do do since all I see you do is create a violence is OK culture. (Not that they are violent, but violent video games, violent sports, gun culture, school is bad culture).

The only reason you are concerned is because your wife might leave you for a weekend to help out at my mom's property. Not like you would ever help out or anything because you don't like it and everything has to be about you. Yes I know you all are mad that I don't help out more at the property, but I live 8 hours away and its not my property and it wasn't me that chose to keep it.

And mom if you want something say so, don't quote BIL all passive aggressive. And stop being so wishy washy. Make a decision.

[mommyatty]

Dear Occupational Therapist treating DD:

You are about to be cut off. DD has been seeing you since January for her handwriting. I've seen virtually no improvement. I really don't get why you are spending all your time working with resistance bands and doing silly animal walks and catching a ball. You're supposed to be working on her fucking handwriting.

Also, there's this law called HIPPA. You are violating the shit out of it. We never gave you permission to share information with DD's teacher, except to recommend specific exercises she could do in class. So explain to me why DD's preschool teacher gave us a letter telling us to see the optometrist quack you've been pushing us to take DD to since you "can't figure out why her handwriting isn't improving more"? We already took her to an ophthalmologist, you know, a medical doctor for eyes, who has said there is absolutely nothing wrong with her eyes. And the ophthalmologist is the leading pediatric ophthalmologist in our area, specializing in the diagnosis and treatment of eye movement disorders.

Here's an idea. Quick doing fucking crab walks and work on her handwriting and maybe it will improve. Oh, too late. You should have started that in January.

Sincerely,
Pissed Off Mom Whose Kid Isn't Missing Any More Class Time for this Shit

[erinshelley21]

Dear SFIL,
You get a lot of crap from MIL and the family because you are kind of clueless. But, I really love how you respect my car seat wishes and don't think I'm ridiculous. Thank you for not listening to your wife when she said it was okay for you to drive with DS from our house to yours with a booster without a harness before talking to me first.
Signed, You DIL who didn't need the comment about her breast milk looking like cream though.

Dear MIL,
Please don't drive with my child in that booster. I really don't want to have to get into an argument with you. We're 3.5 years into you caring for my children without any conflicts and I'm enjoying it.
Love, you DIL who likes our relationship

Dear Client,
I am so, so, so sorry that you lost your wife. I cannot imagine the pain you're in. It just is not fair that she survived a brain tumor a few years ago but died in a car accident. I've been thinking about you nonstop since I found out yesterday.
Signed, your agent

[k3am]

Dear coworkers,

Please stop replying to emails solely to say "thank you." Unless I'm doing something amazing and out of my way for you, I really don't need a thank you email for a one-sentence response to your email.

Signed,
My email box is cluttered enough.

[186momx]

Dear H
I'm glad that after I told you to go on your stupid wander driving trip on Sunday that your mood went back to happy. The pout and mope until you get what you want is way to teenage angst and I am really getting tired of it.
Wife
PS I'm looking forward to you being gone all weekend

Dear Brother
Thanks for taking DD to the baseball game Sunday for me. I could really use some quiet alone time.
Big Sis

[akafred]

Dear mommyatty,

It sounds like your DD's OT is doing sensory integration therapy. Does your DD have sensory issues? My DD has SPD and her OT does SIT for half the appt and then handwriting at the end. The SIT helps her to *sit* long enough to do the handwriting/fine motor work. If you don't think it is helpful, though, please talk to them. Maybe they misunderstood your wishes or didn't properly communicate your DD's needs.

Signed,
Sometimes it feels like super expensive arts and crafts

[xctsclrx]

mommyatty, I had terrible handwriting growing up. Still do actually. My parents had me copy from the dictionary and while that helped my vocabulary it didn't do much for my handwriting. My issue was I was writing too fast. If I slow down its fine, but try explaining that to a kid.

My 3rd grade teacher brought it up to my parents. Then he followed up with it won't really matter, because everything is moving to computers he was correct. It has not impacted my life in anyway that I can tell.

If I am remembering correctly your DD is 5 or 6? If it is just handwriting and she doesn't have issues with buttons or other fine motor skills then I wouldn't worry too much.

[Covergirl82]

Dear S,

I'm sorry the tooth fairy forgot to come last night. I know you were really excited about losing your tooth. Daddy texted her to let her know she missed you last night, but she will for sure come tonight.

Love,
Mommy (secret identity: Tooth Fairy)

[traveltheworld]

Dear Dad,

You are a contractor who has built hundreds of houses. So when you told me that there won't be any issues with moving or at least doing a cut out on the one wall in the house that I really want removed, I believed you. I shouldn't have to find out from our house inspectors that it's virtually impossible to remove that wall or do a cut out. And no, your response of "oh what's the big deal? And not everything in the house has to be perfect" is inadequate. We are not spending this amount of money on something that we can't live with.

Signed,
Extremely frustrated

Dear children,

Thank you for being so cute. You are the best.

Signed,
Grateful mommy

[2chatter]

Dear DS,
Please be excited about your new school. Please don't do anything that the awful child encourages you to do. Please return to being your cheery and functional self.
Love Mommy

Dear New School,
Please be as awesome as you look. We are paying a premium for your garden, cooking class, bowling alley, curriculum, art room, shaded playground, library and children's museum. DS is an awesome, smart and sweet boy - I promise.
Desperate mom

[mommyatty]

Jul 26, 2017 11:46:35 GMT -5 akafred said:

Dear mommyatty,

It sounds like your DD's OT is doing sensory integration therapy. Does your DD have sensory issues? My DD has SPD and her OT does SIT for half the appt and then handwriting at the end. The SIT helps her to *sit* long enough to do the handwriting/fine motor work. If you don't think it is helpful, though, please talk to them. Maybe they misunderstood your wishes or didn't properly communicate your DD's needs.

Signed,
Sometimes it feels like super expensive arts and crafts

She has no issues beyond "she writes slowly and it tilts down toward the right if she doesn't have a line to write on". My bff, who is a special ed teacher with a kid with severe learning and developmental issues, thinks we are on crack for doing OT at all. She turned 5 two weeks ago.

[erinshelley21]

Dear Client I mentioned earlier,
The fact that you felt the need to send me a text letting me know that your wife died warms my heart. We've come a long way in 4.5 years considering the first 2 conversations we ever had involved you yelling at me over the phone and making me cry in one of them. I'll miss you when I sell this business.
Signed, erinshelley

[mae0111]

Dear Children -

I love you, and I get that you're kids, but can you please stop acting like monkeys flinging poo when we go to my childless friend's museum-like home? We were only there for 15 mins. I totally could have done without screaming at you for jumping on the furniture several times. You don't act like that at home. Don't act like it when we're out.

Love, Mommy

Dear Former Employee -

I'm sorry you feel that I wronged you in some way by leaving. I really did do everything I could to set you up before I left - with the work you'd be taking over, with my comments to senior management... with everything. It's really easy to shoot the dead, especially when you have no idea what I was up against. I knew you were sad when I left. But I didn't know you were so offended. I did not quit to spite you. I warned you that things would not be pretty, and that you should consider your future. I offered my help. I did what I could. I'm sorry things are rocky, but it's not my fault. Please stop telling everyone that it is. People look up to you, and some of them just might listen.

Your old boss

[judyblume14]

DD1,
I am SO proud of your potty training! You're doing a great job - keep it up. Also, your hideous meltdowns and mean streaks have been slowing down recently. Please don't let it be a fluke. I'm really liking the groove we're getting into. There is literally not a SINGLE thing in the whole wide world that makes me happier than when I'm able to enjoy your company. It makes me feel like less of a failure as a parent.
Love,
Mom

H-
I'm pissed at your brother (no pun intended). Deal with it.
Love,
Wifey who is, otherwise, grateful for everything you did this weekend.

[waverly]

mommyatty , I am sure DS is a way worse writer than your DD and he will be 7 in October. We haven't gotten him OT unless the school is going to do it for free (public school through special ed) because I am not going to pay $$ and take him to appointments for him being borderline on writing. We'll keep an eye on it, and see how it goes, but he will improve eventually. And it has not hindered him academically at all. He is in 98th percentile on everything they have tested him on.

So feel free to stop.  I get wanting what is best for your child because I have thought about DS's motor skills for years, and finally decided he is low normal, but normal. And there is a range because some kids are high normal and some kids are middle normal and some are low normal, and there wouldn't be a range if we were all the same. 

[186momx]

Dear Comcast
Thanks for fixing our phones and being out within an hour instead of 2-4 they said. Replacing the backup battery in your modem seemed like too easy of a fix. But the 6 robocalls since you left assures me the phone is now working.
Happy but unhappy client

Dear possible new before/after care place
Can you just call me. I stopped by Friday when you said you would be free to do registration and no one working knew how to do that. Also I really hope what I saw was just 4pm summer camp chill time and not your normal care. I don't know if I'm ready for DD to just have chill time with little supervision. One of the kids had to go find an adult for me to talk to...
If you weren't the only place that is an actual center and not an in-home I would not be giving you another thought.
Worried mom

[2chatter]

mommyatty - have you looked at handwriting without tears? It pretty much assumes a slope and uses unlined paper. It might make you feel better about ousting the OT.

judyblume14 - tooo funny

[sweetptater]

Jul 26, 2017 12:22:50 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

Jul 26, 2017 11:46:35 GMT -5 akafred said:

Dear mommyatty ,

It sounds like your DD's OT is doing sensory integration therapy. Does your DD have sensory issues? My DD has SPD and her OT does SIT for half the appt and then handwriting at the end. The SIT helps her to *sit* long enough to do the handwriting/fine motor work. If you don't think it is helpful, though, please talk to them. Maybe they misunderstood your wishes or didn't properly communicate your DD's needs.

Signed,
Sometimes it feels like super expensive arts and crafts

She has no issues beyond "she writes slowly and it tilts down toward the right if she doesn't have a line to write on". My bff, who is a special ed teacher with a kid with severe learning and developmental issues, thinks we are on crack for doing OT at all. She turned 5 two weeks ago.

I feel like I'm missing something here. My DD just turned 5 and she can barely write her name. Anything else besides random letters is out of the question. Andplusalso, I think everyone's handwriting tilts down (or up) if they don't have a line to write on. I know mine does. I don't think you should have any qualms about quitting. Heck, I couldn't even write my letters when I was 5! 

[mellym]

mommyatty and sweetptater, my DD also just turned 5 and we're happy to see her writing anything. How did you know her handwriting was a problem at this age?

judyblume14, still can't believe your 40 year old BIL!

mae0111, don't feel bad, you have to do what is best for you and your family and your sanity.

[waverly]

Dear co-worker that I mentioned in the other thread. Thanks a lot now I have to be on a committee to go over job descriptions and salary schedules. Actually not your fault, but bosses fault because he never gave you the job description? Which I find hard to believe, but can't he just give you another one? Why am I involved (I'm not HR) and can't he just give you an additional raise without having to re-do the entire salary schedule? Is he doing this just to put your salary below other lady's salary?

Also, I am pretty sure bully lady is gunning for her job and that boss man is going to give it to her. So then what happens, is co-worker fired? They are on the same salary schedule, so....... Maybe he wants to lowered, so she won't want it.

I am realizing that a lot of things stem from bully lady as his administrative approach to dealing with her problems as opposed to the simple solution of firing the bully.

[mommyatty]

mellym- DD was frustrated last year because sometimes her teacher wouldn't let her write her name because she wrote so slowly. At the time she was 8 weeks into being a 4 year old. That turned into her bitch of a pre-k teacher deciding 1) there was something wrong with her vision (there's not), she needed OT (which as our pediatrician predicted as done nothing at all), and that now she needs to see a special optometrist. Instead of bitch pre-k teacher just deciding that perhaps DD could have used a little extra time. And oh I don't know, maybe a little extra loving attention.

[waverly]

Jul 26, 2017 18:40:32 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

mellym- DD was frustrated last year because sometimes her teacher wouldn't let her write her name because she wrote so slowly. At the time she was 8 weeks into being a 4 year old. That turned into her bitch of a pre-k teacher deciding 1) there was something wrong with her vision (there's not), she needed OT (which as our pediatrician predicted as done nothing at all), and that now she needs to see a special optometrist. Instead of bitch pre-k teacher just deciding that perhaps DD could have used a little extra time. And oh I don't know, maybe a little extra loving attention.

I don't know how you restrain yourself. I know you really like the school... ....

[mommyatty]

So you guys can see I'm not nuts. Or, alternatively, tell me I am nuts. DH just texted this to me. DD wrote this to me. (And yeah, mom guilt over the message!) Again, she's not yet in kindergarten. Just turned 5 a couple of weeks ago.

ETA: She's talking about the fact that I've traveled 5 of the last 6 weeks, not that I work.

[supertrooper1]

mommyatty, I think that is pretty good for just turning 5 and not in kindergarten yet. When DH taught 2nd grade, some of the kids work looked like that.

[twinmomma]

Jul 26, 2017 19:32:12 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

So you guys can see I'm not nuts. Or, alternatively, tell me I am nuts. DH just texted this to me. DD wrote this to me. (And yeah, mom guilt over the message!) Again, she's not yet in kindergarten. Just turned 5 a couple of weeks ago.

ETA: She's talking about the fact that I've traveled 5 of the last 6 weeks, not that I work.

That looks about the same as my kids, and they were "advanced" in prek this past year. Don't stress!

[waverly]

DD is 4.5 and can barely write words yet mostly just letters. She has no idea how to spell, and is considered advanced.

[librarychica]

mommyatty, it looks on par with my DD1's handwriting. I think they're the same age. Her teacher had her doing some extra fine motor work (DD1 has a little trouble with the fine motor skills in general) but still seemed to think it was in the realm of normal. I am sideeyung your daughter's teacher.