Ok Moms...need your thoughts?

[cjcouple]

Wdyt? I picked up the boys from camp and was told by a counselor that DS2 (8y) got in a physical fight with another boy (his friend A). She said they were both punching and kicking each other. I was floored because its not like DS. I should mention the counselor that told me this is not DSs counselors but one of the older ones that run the camp/sign kids out. I said thanks and I would take care of it.

So, I got home and started asking what happened. DS said he poked A in the arm joking around and A punched him hard and kicked him a lot. Apparently then DS said "I'm telling" and went and got his counselor and told on A.

When his counselor walked over to his friend, A said "DS started it." Which he technically did by poking A (he DID put his hands on him first) but DS claims he never hit or kicked his friend at all. I asked if his counselor saw what happened and DS said "no....he was not near them". They were all in gym and waiting to go home.

1. Its definitely out of character for DS to punch or kick anyone. In fact, I have never even seen him punch his brother.
2. He didnt stall or pause ot hesitate in his story.
3. While DS definitely has lied in he past to stay out of trouble, its not usually so smoothe.

I dont want to be that mom "not my kid" but his story makes sense. One thing I just don't understand is why his friend would hit and kick him over just a poke. He is not a bad kid either. DS says they were not arguing or anything. So a snall part of me is wondering if DS is keeping something from me.

Regardless of whether the story is 100% true or not, he was punished for putting his hands on his friend. Lost all video games/tv for rest of the day and wrote an apology letter to his friend.

My issue is, if it really did happen the way DS said, I am annoyed that the information was relayed incorrectly. And I want the camp to know what really happened. While DS definitely should not have poked his friend, he did the right thing going to get his counselor.

Thoughts? Advice?

[auroraloo]

My advice would be to get over it. Honestly, this type of stuff is going to happen all the time. Yes, you know your kid, but at the end of they day, you're never going to know what really happened. Let it go.

[cjcouple]

Aug 1, 2017 16:21:32 GMT -5 auroraloo said:

My advice would be to get over it. Honestly, this type of stuff is going to happen all the time. Yes, you know your kid, but at the end of they day, you're never going to know what really happened. Let it go.

Ok, i just hate idea of him being labeled as a trouble kid.

[auroraloo]

Aug 1, 2017 16:28:54 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

Aug 1, 2017 16:21:32 GMT -5 auroraloo said:

My advice would be to get over it. Honestly, this type of stuff is going to happen all the time. Yes, you know your kid, but at the end of they day, you're never going to know what really happened. Let it go.

Ok, i just hate idea of him being labeled as a trouble kid.

Eh. Don't worry about other's labels. 

[gastro]

Aug 1, 2017 16:28:54 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

Aug 1, 2017 16:21:32 GMT -5 auroraloo said:

My advice would be to get over it. Honestly, this type of stuff is going to happen all the time. Yes, you know your kid, but at the end of they day, you're never going to know what really happened. Let it go.

Ok, i just hate idea of him being labeled as a trouble kid.

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One incident (no matter how it went) won't get him the label of a troubled kid.

[honeydew1894]

I totally get wanting to know what really happened, but I would just let it go. While it seems big now, it won't pretty soon. I think it is a live and learn moment for your DS.

[Deleted]

Yeah, I think you handled it well with your ds and I would also probably let it go although I understand wanting the camp to know what really happened. However, who the heck knows, only you know your kid that well and agree that one incident won't get him labeled as a trouble kid. Especially since this happened with a friend not some random kid.

[cjcouple]

Thanks all - I think I was just surprised, but youre all right. I dropped it, and just said he should try to make up with his friend today. Off he went! Hopefully he has a better day

[ellebebold]

I agree with everyone else let it go. Don't worry about "labels" from other folks as long as you love your child then everyone else's opinion is blah!

[cabbagecabbage]

I agree with the others. Not letting it go will get you labeled at camp, not this single fight.

I'd focus on my kid and discussing how he can handle that situation, talk about leaving his friends alone, and deciding if that friendship isn't working out or if this was a one off. I'm sorry this happened to him.

[cjcouple]

Already let it go :-) Yesterday was fine.