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[akafred]

This morning for some reason DD convinced DH to go to Publix before school. Among other things, he said yes to getting a Lunchables that contains Kool Aid with red dye (she isn't allowed red dye), a ham sandwich (she doesn't eat meat), Pringles, Oreos, and no fruits or vegetables. So I got to tell her no she can't take it to school. On top of that, I made pizza dough by hand a couple weeks ago and cut it into small rounds and baked them so DD could take pizza "lunchables" to school. So now my effort falls totally flat and I get to fight with DD about the crap food she isn't allowed to have and certainly not at school (without protein and esp with red dye she is a beast). Thanks, DH! Really appreciate getting to be the bad guy as always! Guess it's your turn to eat crackers for me instead of the other way around.

[supertrooper1]

I'm sorry akafred. Is your H not engaged in her food options as you?

[akafred]

Lol no. I make 99% of the lunches and this is why, but he absolutely knows how she gets when she doesn't have protein or has red dye, and he knows she's not supposed to have certain things. I think he just didn't want to be the bad guy for two minutes and didn't consider the fact that I would have to be the bad guy later. And if it wasn't such a crummy day, or we hadn't already had this kind of issue in the past (candy for breakfast, adding junk to her lunches after I prepare them, etc), I probably wouldn't be so frustrated. In the grand scheme it is not that big a deal, I'm just frustrated. I didn't want to come home from a long day of work and picking kiddo up and then immediately have a fight about the next days lunch. Not my idea of a good time. In the end, I am letting her have the sandwich without the meet, adding in a slice of cheese because the cheese that comes with the sandwich is minimal, and taking away the Pringles and the Kool-Aid and adding in some carrots. I think that's fair, but I could've just made a sandwich cheaper and with less angst and the same amount of work. Plus it just hurts my feelings a little that the special thing I did making the pizza lunchables-type thing is so under appreciated. Not that I expect appreciation from either of them, but it does hurt my feelings a little.

To top it off he bought me a subscription box for my birthday (an awesome mystery!) and since it didn't come, I ask him to double check the address, and it is tracking to the old house. He says he changed the address on it, and I believe him, it just probably didn't happen on time because I had to ask a time or two. Not the end of the world, just the icing on the poo poo cake of yesterday. Hopefully will forward it will work.

Wow speech to text really sucked today.

[Covergirl82]

DH just planned a last-minute camping trip this weekend (because he wants to "see how the new (used) truck tows"), which was (supposed to be) one of my maybe 3-4 weekends home this whole, entire summer. Thanks, DH, I guess I'll go on the school supply scavenger hunt next Wednesday afternoon, instead of working on organizing/thinning the toy room like you keep wanting to.

akafred, I'm sorry. I also make all the kids' lunches (DH did ONE day the entire last school year when I had food poisoning and was sick), and I try to make sure they have healthy lunches. If my kids had a food allergy or restriction, I know it would be top of mind for me too (and probably not MH, since he doesn't grocery shop, make meals, or make the kids' lunches).

[phdmomma]

DH started this basement project in May, the deal being that it had to be done for when my parents stay with us in August (the guest room is in the basement, and currently the pantry is in the guest bedroom). This week, he comes to me and says that it won't be done, even though I took the kids out of town for a week and left him home to do the project. Instead he decided to spend the week doing other less critical projects. Now I am the bad guy saying, no we can't push it off a month, we have the kids birthday parties in the fall, football game visitors (we live near a stadium in the big ten because I work for the university), and it is my busy season at work. It is now August, he has 10 days until they get here, and it means that I end up watching the kids solo instead of doing the fun family stuff we had planned, because he didn't do the project the week we were gone like we had agreed. I think that I finally got him to see the light of why this needs to be done, when I started looking up hotel prices for the weekend near our house, which are in the $150 per night range. And he decided that he didn't want to spend that much on a hotel for them for two nights. Mostly I hate living in project chaos, especially with the fall academic year starting and my schedule getting crazy.

[justcheckingin73]

I can commiserate phdmomma. Except that DH hasn't started any projects. We are working to update our house (finally!) and he recently re-did the hallway bathroom. It looks great but he seemed taken aback when I said I wanted to do the floor too. Why go halfway?

Anyway, the carpet in the living room is awful. It's embarrassing how awful it is and I never want to have people over. He is insisting that he wants to do it which is why it has taken so long. I'm about to call Lowe's and have them come in with some hardwood or teach myself how to do it.

And the annoying thing that happens when he has projects is that he cannot for the life of him multi task. All of the kid and other house stuff falls on me. But when I do house projects, the kids either "help" or I have to stop to feed them, help them or whatever on top of my normal chores.

[2chatter]

As I write this DS is showing me how to do something on some Lego game. Yes, DS. As in, he convinced DH on the way to school that he had to wear sports shorts instead of khaki shorts, so they went to Target. Then came home.

This is the first time all summer DH has taken DS. I wish DH were out of town. At least when I take them to school I take them. And drop them off. So I can work. WTF. Seriously. What the actual EFF??

[frozenpeas]

Aug 2, 2017 9:24:45 GMT -5 2chatter said:

As I write this DS is showing me how to do something on some Lego game. Yes, DS. As in, he convinced DH on the way to school that he had to wear sports shorts instead of khaki shorts, so they went to Target. Then came home.

This is the first time all summer DH has taken DS. I wish DH were out of town. At least when I take them to school I take them. And drop them off. So I can work. WTF. Seriously. What the actual EFF??

What? This is so confusing to me. Your husband took your son to Target and then back home again for you to watch him all day? Instead of taking him to school & without discussing it with you first? How does that happen?

Your son is either a master manipulator or your husband is seriously living several miles from reality. That's not how things work.

[2chatter]

frozenpeas - yes, all of that. I told DH that DS better magically disappear. I'm on a call with my office door closed and I hope when I open it they have re-departed. Or my head might spin around.

[rere]

This reminds me that my kids are not allowed soft drinks, which explains the 12 pack of cokes Dh bought for them in the garage fridge.

[phdmomma]

2chatter, You seem much calmer than my reaction would be. At our house, if you are supposed to take the kids to school, and come back with said kid, they better be super sick.

[2chatter]

Update: DS is at school. Why DH could not withstand ten minutes of DS begging for other shorts IDK. DS is on this sports shorts kick because he doesn't want to look too handsome. The kid kills me. DH, however, is lucky to be alive. I think it helped I had to run a call, so I closed my door after making it clear I am not the nanny and that we paid for school today ($65 for school today so he damn well better go).

[Covergirl82]

2chatter, $65! Yeah, a kid better be puking or running a fever to stay home at that rate.

rere, I'd be pissed about that too. DS likes pop (sorry, I can't call it soda, I'm from MI!), and I specifically do not buy pop because I don't want the kids drinking it on any sort of regular basis. (DD doesn't like it, at least yet, so no worries there.) DH will buy some pop from time to time, but he has to keep it in the basement or garage. Right now DS is only allowed to have pop on special occasions. (Which maybe he'll resent me for later on?)

[mustardseed2007]

If he was going to take him to target to get shorts, why didn't he take him to school to change?

If he was going to bring him home, why didn't he bring him home and put him in shorts you already own?

And what is with these dads taking kids grocery and clothes shopping BEFORE school? Who the F has time for that?

H took the kids to school (normally I do) so I could do a strength workout in my office gym this morning with the free, company provided personal trainer. This is something I've never done before b/c I can never make the timing work. I'm in love with the idea b/c (obviously) free is awesome and the training was good quality. H was kind of annoyed at first, but hopefully I made it easy enough on him this morning that this can be a regular weekly thing. Hopefully. I hate the "negotiating time" part of being in a relationship.

[2chatter]

mustardseed2007 - the best part of this is DS came in to the house wearing the new shorts. Apparently he was so desperate to wear sports shorts that he changed in the Target parking lot. So I have no idea why they came home other than - I think DH seriously thought I would watch DS today. It's like he forgets that I work full time. It's the weirdest (and kind of insulting) thing.

Target BTW is 15 minutes in the opposite direction of school.

I never have time to do this stuff. It makes zero sense to me. The red dye and meat resonated with me too - that is so DH. He bought soda on vacation for the kids and I was like NO Sunkist isn't orange juice and BTW the kids don't even drink juice!! They drink milk or water!!

[twinmomma]

Is it the week of poor grocery decisions for DHs this week?! Mine bought some berry pop tarts with neon purple frosting on them for breakfasts. He and I have an unwritten rule that we don't buy pop tarts, because they are crap and we don't want our kids thinking it's ok for breakfast. But he decided to treat them this week. So bought several boxes? Of the freakiest looking ones?!

[traveltheworld]

On the topic of cluelessness of husbands, DH took DS to soccer practice on Saturday in water shoes, with no sunscreen, hat, sunglasses, or water. It was 90 degrees out. Luckily another parent gave DS water.

Two weekends ago DH dressed DD in a summer dress and wool stockings. Yup, wool.

[mustardseed2007]

Aug 2, 2017 11:26:37 GMT -5 2chatter said:

mustardseed2007 - the best part of this is DS came in to the house wearing the new shorts. Apparently he was so desperate to wear sports shorts that he changed in the Target parking lot. So I have no idea why they came home other than - I think DH seriously thought I would watch DS today. It's like he forgets that I work full time. It's the weirdest (and kind of insulting) thing.

Target BTW is 15 minutes in the opposite direction of school.

I never have time to do this stuff. It makes zero sense to me. The red dye and meat resonated with me too - that is so DH. He bought soda on vacation for the kids and I was like NO Sunkist isn't orange juice and BTW the kids don't even drink juice!! They drink milk or water!!

It's like he got the kid in the car and forgot why they were driving some place. LOL. Except not funny cause this is real life. 

[mustardseed2007]

Aug 2, 2017 12:56:15 GMT -5 traveltheworld said:

DH took DS to soccer practice on Saturday in water shoes

whaaaaat??? OMG. 

[judyblume14]

traveltheworld, omg at the water shoes.

[erinshelley21]

Aug 2, 2017 12:56:15 GMT -5 traveltheworld said:

On the topic of cluelessness of husbands, DH took DS to soccer practice on Saturday in water shoes, with no sunscreen, hat, sunglasses, or water. It was 90 degrees out. Luckily another parent gave DS water.

Two weekends ago DH dressed DD in a summer dress and wool stockings. Yup, wool.

This made me lol