Separate classes for preschool

[Narwhal]

So, I'm annoyed at my boys' preschool. So, I didn't realize that there were multiple classrooms for the days/times that my boys are going. On top of that, I didn't even think to specify that I wanted them to be in the same class because I assumed that any school would automatically put 3 yr old twins together. So, obviously they are in separate classes and both classes are at capacity. I have a phone call in to the director to see if there's anything we can do, but I have a feeling it's going to become a big thing

Anyway, what is everyone's thoughts about that? I just always assumed I would keep them together at least through kindergarten. They were in the same class last year and did absolutely wonderful together without any issues. I mean, in the big picture, it's 3 hours 2x a week, so no biggie, right? But I'm VERY annoyed!! Haha. What do you all think?

[georgeglass]

We split my kids up at that age and it worked well. They had each other at home, but also had their own times to be "separate." I remember being worried about it, but looking back (ten years later), I'm glad I did it.

[Narwhal]

Aug 13, 2017 19:24:10 GMT -5 georgeglass said:

We split my kids up at that age and it worked well. They had each other at home, but also had their own times to be "separate." I remember being worried about it, but looking back (ten years later), I'm glad I did it.

I decided to stop being a psycho and just let the chips fall where they may and just got an email that they moved J into Cs class. So, I'm happy. I do agree about time apart though. I try to take one twin with me grocery shopping, or for an ice cream alone. But, they usually just ask where their brother is the whole time! Haha! Twins, man.

[fryjack2]

Aug 14, 2017 11:39:43 GMT -5 Narwhal said:

Aug 13, 2017 19:24:10 GMT -5 georgeglass said:

We split my kids up at that age and it worked well. They had each other at home, but also had their own times to be "separate." I remember being worried about it, but looking back (ten years later), I'm glad I did it.

I decided to stop being a psycho and just let the chips fall where they may and just got an email that they moved J into Cs class. So, I'm happy. I do agree about time apart though. I try to take one twin with me grocery shopping, or for an ice cream alone. But, they usually just ask where their brother is the whole time! Haha! Twins, man.

My boys are 5 now, and they still ask 95% of the time where the other one is. But 5% of the time they aren't so that's an improvement!

I know your boys are in class together now, but I'll add my experience in case it helps in the future.

Our boys spent 2 years in preschool class together.  There was only one class (private preschool) unless I split them up to morning or afternoon and that wasn't happening.  I think that second year (age 3-4) would have been good to separate them in hindsight, but only because I learned that Henry was speaking for Jack a lot.  Like, Jack rarely spoke in class.  This last year, in a new school for pre-k (also private and the school policy is to separate) the boys were in different classrooms.  I posted about it on here I was so so so nervous about it but it worked out really well.  They had time together during recess and class projects, etc. but had something to call their own.  I saw Jack find his voice more, and they were both so proud to share stuff about their classes with each other after school. 

Being in separate classes made my life more annoying, but not any more so than having kids in different grade levels.   Hope your guys have a great year!

[macchiatto]

That's great that you were able to have them moved back together!

This is an article that left an impression on me.
www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/Pages/twins-at-school.aspx

I did quite a bit of research on twin classroom placement and we've taken the decision year by year based on our boys' relationship, teacher observations and recommendations, etc. They were together for 2.5 years of preschool, K, 1st, separated for 2nd, and now back together in 3rd. I'm glad they had the experience of being separated just so they knew they were OK either way, but it really didn't have any advantages and teacher feedback on having them together has always been very positive. Their teacher told us yesterday actually that she was a little nervous about having twins together in her class (2nd year teacher) but that she honestly forgets they're brothers because they're so different and each has their own friends.