Post by HeartofCheese on Aug 10, 2017 7:32:04 GMT -5
The way I see it is that your mom only has so much time on this earth, so it should be good, quality time. Unreasonable demands and blow-ups are not good, quality time. Nip this shit in the bud, so that you can get to the good stuff.
I would go solo or not go at all after the hang up.
Anecdote time: my FIL was like this. Unreasonable demands, everyone has to cater to his plans or he gets mad, family always walking on eggshells etc. For years I insisted we stop rewarding his behavior. After we had kids it became easier for H to say we were unavailable or what he wants to do doesn't work for us.
It took years and a lot of angry FIL, but he changed. I guess he finally realized he would never see his grandkids if he kept it up.
Only you know your mom, but I hope this is helpful.