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[doriswe]

How was the weekend y'all? What kind of trouble did you get into?

[doriswe]

My weekend was really nice. Friday the kids and I hung out at home, which was lovely. They went with my mom all day Saturday, so I used the free time to bake, run errands and clean. Went for a walk with the cop, which was good too. Yesterday I had brunch with a friend and then DS and I went to see Spiderman. It was a very relaxing weekend, which I definitely needed!

[chalupa]

We had people over the whole weekend, and I'm exhausted. M's friends came Friday afternoon and stayed until Saturday evening. It was really good to see them and catch up - I haven't seen them in at least 2 years (although M was out their way a few months ago).

Sunday morning I went to be a volunteer judge at a horse show (we were supposed to be competing, but tendonitis and all). It's so much more relaxing to watch everyone else ride than be a competitor, LOL. When I got home, M's parents were just arriving. They've been begging to power wash our deck and week the flower beds since we moved in. I legit just stood around offering drinks to them while they worked - a pretty awesome way to get your yard work done, if you ask me

[doglove]

They wanted to come power wash your house chalupa? Wow that's nice!

My weekend felt exhausting to me. Just constantly on the go. I brought my car in for routine maintenance and a tire patch (which usually takes the Subaru less than 45 minutes) and we ended up being there for almost 3 hours. I kept a cool head, but was ready to let it rip when I went to pay. And then they were like, there is no charge because of the delay today, which we never put our customers through. It was a nice surprise to save $150, but it would have been nice had they communicated that sooner. They just kept telling us, "We're almost done with your car" and there was literally no where in walking distance. I wish I had known to ask for a loaner car, but I had no idea it would take that long.

Saturday night I took A to a local town play, which was cute and yesterday I did a long run and we went to a friend's kid's birthday party. All of that on top of having a Rover dog was a bit much for me. The owner picked her up early last night though so that was an unexpected surprise and a nice quiet night for me and Buddy.

I have had a yucky weekend overall though just being emotional. A's been putting off talking to the bank about a mortgage because the task is daunting and intimidating to him. I have to figure out whether or not to apply for a new apartment because I don't want to be homeless when my lease is up if he doesn't start to pull the trigger on a house. I love him, but being a procrastinator is one of his down sides. Dealing with that and the cat issue has been weighing me down and leaving me with a lot of anxiety about the future.

[gault]

He sounds human, doglove . Buying a house is a huge decision! Have you talked with him about how you're feeling?

[doglove]

Aug 14, 2017 9:53:02 GMT -5 gault said:

He sounds human, doglove . Buying a house is a huge decision! Have you talked with him about how you're feeling?

Oh yes I completely understand that it is a big decision and he is a first time home buyer so I know it is stressful. I don't want HIM to feel pressured because my lease is up, but I need him to tell me he's not ready if he is really not ready. He says he is and that he doesn't want to rent anymore. We have talked about it. After we did on Friday, he called the contact he had been given at the bank and so his goal is to get everything ready by this Friday so he can meet with the woman and get his pre-qualification letter. I think part of it is that he thinks he has a lot of time until November/December, but with vacations, weekends away and the way the market is right now - that really isn't a lot of time. 

I'm of the mindset where no one should feel pressured into a big decision like this and if I have to sign a new apartment lease somewhere and then find a way out of it later whenever he is ready, then that might be the best route. He said he doesn't want for me to do that, but that's what we agreed to do together as a back up plan so I don't end up homeless. This is also just kind of bad timing and no easy way to plan with so many things up in the air. My personality is really great for worrying about the worst case scenario.  I can't move into his place if worse comes to worse because I can't even stand to stay there more than 2 days with my allergies.

[bullygirl979]

doglove, could you look for a place that is month to month? That way, if you need to, you can spend a few months there without trying to break a long lease? Hugs, lady. I'm sure it is stressful on both of your sides. P can be the same way sometimes and I've learned that I just have to do what I'm going to do and keep him updated. At first I tried to press him to make a decision, but that just made it worse.

[bullygirl979]

My weekend was good. P was gone all weekend, so I catered to my introverted side and used that time to relax and recharge. Watched two movies, worked in the yard for four hours on Saturday. Felt a bit like chalupa and watched the landscaper work his @ss off on Saturday and Sunday. Guys, I cannot believe how nice my back garden looks now. The whole thing is weeded and mulched. I'm kind of kicking myself for not doing it sooner. I took advantage yesterday and sat on my back patio, admiring the gardens and reading magazines.

[doglove]

Rent for a place on a month-to-month basis too much for me to afford on my own bullygirl979 in my area. I'd probably have to find a roommate who was looking for a short-term situation if If wanted to go that route. 

[starrieskies]

The weekend was good. My mom kept the boys so that MG and I could go to a show in Seattle on Saturday night. That was a blast! Sunday we had a relaxing day, just kind of hanging out. It was nice, but I could have used a little more time to just relax before coming back to work today.

I feel like no matter how much time we have on the weekends to just hang out, it's never enough... I'm having trouble readjusting to being back at work full time and not having as much time to spend with my family. I like the company that I'm working for now, but after being on my own schedule for over a year, it's hard to go back to being on someone else's schedule. I'm hoping that once I get things kind of straightened out here, and my own procedures in place for everything I can make some adjustments to my schedule and maybe work less hours. My boss has already said that he's open to it, as long as all my work is getting done, which is nice. But for now, it's hard.

[bullygirl979]

doglove, that is a bummer. I'm sorry. I hope A can get it together for both of your sake.

[udscoobychick]

I had a good Friday and Saturday--we went to a new brewery on Friday and just relaxed in the evening, and we had a party on Saturday to celebrate DH's son visiting.

But everything happening in my town has really been weighing on me Sunday and today. I read well-reasoned arguments that the best opposition would be to stay home and not give the white supremacist assholes any credibility by acknowledging them, and I read well-reasoned arguments that said that anything short of showing up to counter-protest was tacit approval. I ended up staying home, and I'm really struggling with feeling like I took the cowardly way out. All the violence has just made me very sad.

[tiramisu]

My weekend was mixed. Personally it was pretty good. But what happened in Charlottesville weighs on me and I don't think I can just say my weekend was good. Hugs to you udscoobychick. It's tough to make the choice to go out and protest and it's tough to grapple with the decision and to not feel guilty if you stay home (which I've done sometimes). I went to a vigil last night and am so glad I did. It was peaceful and beautiful. I heard on the news that we had about 500 people there in my city.


Other than that, Friday I did go out with a new friend (former supervisee) and we had a great time. Saw one of my guy friends and he got all wistful about living solo like I'm doing and I tried to remind him he can still make those choices and to not do what I did (he knows what I mean, I've talked to him about my marriage and he was there for the whole drawn out ending of it). Saturday I went and got a haircut then wandered around the neighborhood where the salon is for a while.

Yesterday I relaxed during the day and then went to the vigil. I found people I knew there and it was nice to stand with them. I was looking around, keeping an eye on the sheriffs and saw some local cops there too. "My" cop was one, so after some urging from my friend I went over and said hello, candle still in hand. I was greeted with a huge smile and pain in the ass teasing, AKA flirting. I don't think he stopped smiling the whole time we were talking, or if he did it was only briefly. So I'm glad I put on makeup to go to the vigil.

So, lots of great things, but I'm angry and sad about what happened in Charlottesville and sickened by how emboldened white supremacists, white nationalists, and nazis are now. I'm glad they're being names and starting to face consequences.

[doglove]

Hugs udscoobychick and tiramisu.

[udscoobychick]

Thanks, guys. I do realize that it's not about me and that I'm very fortunate that I was able to stay home and stay out of it, though...not everyone has that option. Heck, our (Black) vice mayor had to be escorted out of town and his whereabouts kept secret for his own protection on Saturday...

[kaneen]

What went down in VA is sickening. I just really can't even say more than that. Sickening.

My weekend was pretty relaxing. Friday night I met two girlfriends for an early dinner. Saturday I ran errands and got some pool time in. Saturday night I sat my lazy bum on the couch and finished up Orange is the New Black. Sunday I cleaned, did laundry, and generally got things organized. Nothing exciting but at least I felt ready for the week this morning.

[spindle92]

I am sitting at caribou trying to do some school work and there are these 2 MLM ladies trying to sucker a 3rd into their scheme. I am not sure which crap they are trying to push yet but I just want to yell DON'T DO IT to the 3rd lady.


why, why, why do people fall for this shit?

[cuddlyevil]

The weekend was pretty good. Friday, I took myself out to dinner and then headed home. Saturday, I went to my friends car show and hung out, the weather was perfect so it was a lot of fun. Then I helped coordinate a baby shower, then took the dad to be out drinking. Yesterday was a boozy brunch and then I went to the Bela Fleck & the flecktones/Chick Correa and the electric band concert with my friend. It was a perfect evening.

[bullygirl979]

Hugs, udscoobychick and tiramisu.

Which MLM was it, spindle92?

[tiramisu]

Thanks ladies. More than hugs, I want action. People denouncing this everywhere and no longer standing for what they might see as benign or casual racism. Seeing such an uprising in out and proud white supremacists, the KKK and nazis/neo-nazis is awful.

[spindle92]

Aug 15, 2017 9:26:40 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Hugs, udscoobychick and tiramisu.

Which MLM was it, spindle92?

I think it was melaluca. They were yapping on and on about their deodorant and laundry soap. I just rolled my eyes....A LOT.