Friday vents, weekend plans

[waverly]

Work is just getting worse and worse lately.  2 more hours, I can do this right? 

No weekend plans except going to the back to school fair tonight.  I have been slacking on trying to make plans with new and existing friends lately.  I am just so burnt out from work and back to school that I am slacking on the social life again.  I'm never super incentivized to make plans because most people can't get together and it is lots of back and forth, and I get it because life is busy.  And they do apparently like us since they do get together with us eventually so it's not that.  

Anyone have a social formula for making plans?  Like you text someone in your X number of friend group every Wednesday with a script?  I swear I am not socially awkward just tired.  And I think not having family nearby probably I would be spending more time with family if they were closer and a lot of people do that too.  And friend were always easy for me, so now that I am adult and I have to work at it- its like how do I do this since I never grew up having to work at it.  

[saraml13]

waverly, we're pretty bad about planning things in advance. DH hates to commit to anything and so many things are weather dependent. What we have the most success is keeping things very casual. We have 3-4 other couples with young kids near us who we are friendly with. If the weather looks nice for the weekend, on Friday night or Saturday morning we often try to throw together a barbecue for Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Depending on our mood, we'll either text the whole group and whoever makes it makes it, or we'll start inviting one family at a time until we find a family to come over. Then we just grill something easy and often the other families pitch in something for a side dish or dessert.

[saraml13]

DS2 is finally back at daycare today. He's definitely not 100%, but I know his teachers wanted some quality time with him on his last day at this daycare and I have a lot to catch up on after a week stuck with a sick baby.

My second (final?) round interview for one job finally got scheduled for August 29. Not sure what is taking so long. I'm moving along on other fronts, so I had a networking call and a phone screen today.

I'm also busy doing the last minute prep for my sister's baby shower that I am hosting on Sunday.

[campermom]

I'm parenting solo all weekend starting today. Thank goodness for Amazon Fresh. My long run will have to be done on the treadmill at the gym so that stinks.

Other than that no other plans except FINISH my making unrealistic Goals realistic summer Break 2017. I have to finish the Disney Book, find DS's old cleats for DD, clean all the crap out of my older two kids' rooms, and print and frame all the pictures I have neglected for the last year. Ideally I'd have all of this done by the end of the weekend so I can relax all week. It's my last week of summer break! I'm so sad!

waverly I think we are pretty stingy with our time. I really only have a small handful of friends that I hang out with and we are all busy and have families so there's a common understanding of realistic frequency. My college friends have a GroupMe (like 8-9 people) and I've found that if you try to find a date that works for everyone, it doesn'twork for everyone! But if somebody says "hey we are gonna have a cookout on this date (6 weeks in advance or so) than most of us are able to come and want to. Girls nights happen with much less frequency than family get togethers.

In terms of friends nearby, usually it's us and one other family, maybe a third family. We will usually be like, "Hey I want to do an escape room on groupon. Want to join? When are you free?" Then we have to coordinate our babysitters. It takes like a month for something like this to come to fruition. Otherwise, we just have that one family come over for dinner and let the kids play or they do the same. We really don't socialize with anyone else and I'm really ok with that.

[twinmomma]

I have a headache because of the rainy weather, and someone in a cube near me is playing their own music over speakers, which conflicts with the music playing over the office sound system. Which means my head is going to explode.

Tomorrow DH and I are going to see a show, which should be really fun. But I'm getting super anxious about it because of a stupid rally that's planned in the city. We have to take public transportation because there's a big potential that they'll shut down all the roads that lead into the theater district and all the parking garages are right near the rally location. So somehow, the subway is turning out to be the better option. I refuse to skip the show, because the tickets were a gift and we both want to see it, and I just plain refuse to let ignorant a**holes ruin my life. (But I will watch the news tonight and tomorrow morning and be willing to make a game time decision. I'm not a moron.)

[waverly]

Yeah I am mostly fine with not socializing with anyone, seeing people at school or community events or at the pool, having the neighbors randomly meander over etc. or it just not being very often anymore.

H seems to want more of a social interaction and tends to nag my friends. I say my friends because I befriended the wives first, but really family friends. I don't know if he nags his friends as often but they tend to do more work lunches with the rare occasional beer after work. He seems to want more than seeing people once a month ish. More like friend every weekend, but he doesn't want to do the same as what the moms want to do.

For example, most of the moms here in the summer want to go to the pool, but he is not a pool guy, and he is kind of picky a little bit on friends, but if he wants to hang with different people every weekend then he can't be as picky right? So I guess I feel bad that my friends are getting nagged or that he is not getting the socialness he wants. Maybe I should suggest church on Sunday?

twinmomma, I also have a huge headache.

[rere]

Vent. Ds was invited to a birthday party tonight where a few of my mom friends will be. However, he wants to go to the first varsity game of the year. Thinking about dropping him of and going a few blocks downtown to grab some pizza and an outdoor concert with DD to try to salvage some of the evening.

We have to drop DS at the bus at 7:15 am for his game. Dd and I are going to walk and then drive to catch the game. Maybe take the kids to Mexican Saturday night.

Dh, is of course, working.

[2chatter]

Dinner out tonight, then DD and I were supposed to paint. But it's raining. One four square court left to paint before school starts and I am so stressing.

Neighborhood food drive food pickups Saturday morning, final back to school shopping, three birthday parties and having one of DH's friends to dinner. DD and I may have to paint too??

Sunday is church, lunch with SS, a prayer at the school and hopefully an easy bedtime.

[mommyatty]

I'm traveling home from a business trip tonight and most likely will get home just after kids are in bed. Boo!

Tomorrow is the back to school picnic, and I'm working the uniform resale shop. I hope the other moms are fun. I'm a little nervous.

Sunday we have no plans. I'm hoping for some good time in the pool.

Vent: I hate people in airports. It's like people leave their brains and their manners at the front door. I've gotten to the point that if someone is standing in the middle of the path of travel, I just mow their butts over and don't apologize. I just glare at them. Likewise, I'm looking at a line of probably 30 people who I can guarantee you are not in first class or in the status groups, so I will also have to mow them over to get on with all the other Platinum folks.

[mellym]

waverly, we have two sets of friends that we do most of our stuff with and then also alternate with my parents and DH's parents. We see one of those groups almost every weekend. It gets exhausting for me to be honest because we usually don't ever have a weekend to ourselves - our parents don't ever like us to go more than a couple of weeks without seeing the grandkids. A lot of our plans are made on a whim, usually at the end of the week. For example, last Friday our friends asked us to go boating on Saturday and then my mom called me on Sunday to come over. Last night, the same friends asked us to do a date night with them this Saturday and the other friends asked us to go to the lake on Sunday. I've found that we're all busy with young families so it has worked better to just ask that weekend if they have plans or text saying we are going to the zoo (park, pool, lake, etc) and ask if they want to come.

Relaxing tonight with steaks on the grill. Will probably hang outside with the neighbor kids/parents. DH is working Saturday and then we have a date night. Going to the lake swimming on Sunday.

[sunbutter]

Vent - enough with the slide decks. Enough. That is all.

Plans include major house cleaning to prepare for the babysitter coming next week, Friday night dinner out at our favorite local Italian place, Saturday is DS's first friend sleepover. DD will go to a sitter while DH and I have a couples date night at a local BYOB. Sunday - seeing Wicked with the family. And making lots of slide decks. Too many slide decks.

[phdmomma]

No idea, let me know if you come up with one. We are friendly with a few of the families at our daycare, but that's more for setting up things like playdates where I hang out with the other mom and the kids play.

vent: I came home early to get some documents and DH's signature on the some visa forms for our trip to Brazil this fall (I have a work conference, he's tagging along, and grandma and grandpa are hanging out with the kids). He has been bullshitting with his co worker for the last 35 minutes, he's on speaker so I can also hear it even upstairs. Just sign the forms so that I can send stuff out and be done with it.

[leap]

Suddenly the weekend has become busy. The girls and I are meeting friends at the fair tomorrow and meeting different friends at the pool Sunday afternoon. Monday we are going to try to view the eclipse - if we can find eclipse glasses. I got some earlier in the summer from the safety department at work, but it turns out they are part of Amazon's recall. And now everywhere seems to be sold out.

[akafred]

I am pretty sure I broke a toe last night. I have it buddy taped but still can't hardly walk on it. Took the dog out to play in the rain and slipped on the wet floor when she came back in and kicked the coffee table leg.

So that puts a damper on the weekend. DH will take her to her football skills thing. (Side note: At the first practice on Wednesday there were NO women or girls. No moms, no older sisters. We stood out like sore thumbs. Also those boys can throw and catch and follow directions 10 times better than DD. Makes me wish we had done the second grade group.) We had no other specific plans but had talked about going to the lake and letting DD paddle her boat. :/ In positive news someone who gets the mystery subscription I get took pity on me and emailed me jpegs of all the stuff in the box. (DH didn't change the address in time so I never got this month's box.) So maybe he and I can do that while I am sitting around at home. Hopefully I won't eat crackers for him too much since he'll have to do most of the work.

It was a great first week of school. The new girl is so far drama free. (Or, I should say, DD is so far drama free when it comes to the new girl.)

[supertrooper1]

This is my 4 day weekend. Today, we spent a few hours at our county fair. Tomorrow, DS and I will go to the farmers market while DH meets coworkers at school to get started planning for the year. Sunday we might go to a kangaroo farm that is about an hour away. DS has been talking about Australia for some reason lately.

[erinshelley21]

Its birthday weekend!

We are camping this weekend. We aren't far from home and are actually in the town we do most of our shopping so tomorrow we will take the dog to my mom's for a couple hours then go shoe shopping for DH and cabinet browsing for our bathroom. We have this empty space where our washer and dryer used to be... 2 years ago. It's time to do something with the space.

Sunday we will go to birthday breakfast (family tradition) then head home. My family is coming over for cake. My mom order me a Coldstone cake thanks to you ladies a few weeks ago.

Monday is my actual birthday so I'm taking the day off. Not sure what I'm doing besides picking up groceries and working on a craft project. Nap?

[billie]

What city are you going to phdmomma?

[frozenpeas]

Happy birthday, erinshelley21! Mine is the day before yours (give or take a decade or so 😉).

[erinshelley21]

Aug 18, 2017 20:10:12 GMT -5 frozenpeas said:

Happy birthday, erinshelley21! Mine is the day before yours (give or take a decade or so 😉).

Happy birthday to you too! You need one of these cups.

[phdmomma]

The conference is outside São Paulo and then we are grabbing a few fun nights in Rio. I'm excited, I've never been to Brazil. And even though I'll be working part of it, it's still cool.

[erinshelley21]

Happy birthday frozenpeas !!

[frozenpeas]

Aug 20, 2017 11:21:18 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Happy birthday frozenpeas !!

Thank you! It's been a great day so far.

[ilovelucyvv]

Happy belated birthday erinshelley21 and happy birthday frozenpeas

[erinshelley21]

Aug 20, 2017 18:53:30 GMT -5 ilovelucyvv said:

Happy belated birthday erinshelley21 and happy birthday frozenpeas

Mine isn't until tomorrow but thank you!

[billie]

Aug 19, 2017 22:30:02 GMT -5 phdmomma said:

The conference is outside São Paulo and then we are grabbing a few fun nights in Rio. I'm excited, I've never been to Brazil. And even though I'll be working part of it, it's still cool.

Let me know if you need any tips! I live in São Paulo :-)