I didn't read every response, but yeah the guy is/was an asshole. But personal and professional should not mix. Sylvia needs to be professional and treat him like a stranger. If she can't she needs to make someone else his direct supervisor. Or maybe I just work in a field that has a ton of awkward supervisor-employee relationships.
You're right. Grown folks should act like grown folks. But I've met me and there's no way that my face wouldn't say "this mutherfucker right here" every time I had to speak to him.
Also, I'm not sure this jackhole will remember he's grown when working with her.
Right? I mean, there is being professional and working with people you don't like. And then there is...this.
I really, really, really want Sylvia to respond to this.
He better hope she isn't as unhinged as his letter implies he thinks she is. Otherwise he'll arrive the first day of teacher prep to find she's cancelled his employment contract, hired someone else in his place, and let the immigration officials know he no longer has an in country employer - all without bothering to tell him.
He better hope she isn't as unhinged as his letter implies. Otherwise he'll arrive the first day of teacher prep to find she's cancelled his employment contract, hired someone else in his place, and let the immigration officials know he no longer has an in country employer - all without bothering to tell him.
I don't feel that (despite what he wrote) that she had an unhinged response to what he did to her. A response like this would be more vindictive, but hopefully she has moved on. If you think about this, she could actually make his life miserable without doing anything untoward, because he would never know when or if the shoe would drop on him.
Yup, but with wedding planning they hadn't spoken in a while - they weren't close geographically or emotionally.
That's insane! Did the rest of his family show up? As in, did he only tell his parents that the wedding was off, or did she start to get a clue when half the church was empty.
It was crazy. He and the majority of his family were from another country (I forget where - this was a long time ago and I was pretty young. Maybe Germany?) so he kind of made excuses about why his family was coming last-minute, and they were in college together, so a lot of their invites were mutual college/church friends (they were heavily involved in the church). It was quite the scandal at the time, and I always felt bad for her because she seemed genuinely blind-sided.
If he could not act decent to someone he lived with for two years, I'm doubtful he can be professional now. He will fuck up, and hopefully she will have just cause to fire him and move on with her life. Assuming he doesn't ghost from the job first, since that's his MO.
Post by themoneytree on Aug 27, 2017 12:25:04 GMT -5
My friend's husband left for work and never came home. She thought he was dead in a ditch. He had moved in with a woman on the other side of town who's kid went to the same school as my friend's.
My friend had to change her kids school because it was hurting their son so much to see his Dad pick up and drop off another child who was calling him 'Daddy".
He never really spoke to his own kids again after that. Thank god one of them was too young to really get it, but the older one...
My friend is remarried and happy now, but that was one of the worst abandonment situations I could imagine. As far as I'm concerned the man is scum of the earth.
My friend's husband left for work and never came home. She thought he was dead in a ditch. He had moved in with a woman on the other side of town who's kid went to the same school as my friend's.
My friend had to change her kids school because it was hurting their son so much to see his Dad pick up and drop off another child who was calling him 'Daddy".
He never really spoke to his own kids again after that. Thank god one of them was too young to really get it, but the older one...
My friend is remarried and happy now, but that was one of the worst abandonment situations I could imagine. As far as I'm concerned the man is scum of the earth.
I posted earlier in the thread that this is what my father intended to do. His plan was to leave for work (on New Year's Eve), and just not come back. I was in college at the time, but it was still devastating, especially for my brother, who had no idea my parents were even having problems.
I didn't read every response, but yeah the guy is/was an asshole. But personal and professional should not mix. Sylvia needs to be professional and treat him like a stranger. If she can't she needs to make someone else his direct supervisor. Or maybe I just work in a field that has a ton of awkward supervisor-employee relationships.
I get that what he did was terrible, but I think I agree mostly with this. He should be evaluated based on professional work not what he did to her personally ten years ago. It's going to be wicked awkward for them both but I don't see this being a situation where they cannot work together and I definitely dot. Think she should be getting her revenge or anything out on him professionally. But yeah he was an asshole for doing that to her.