TWERKs

[erinshelley21]

Update Time!

Business - Told the potential buyers last week that we could not accept their offer at this time. I felt good about it, I've been using my flexibility more, and mentally coming up with a suitable office situation at my house. It was all looking good. Fast forward to this week, little brother is starting to get nervous I think. He has been bitching for 5 crop years that I take care of all the big clients (it was confirmed Tuesday that I take care of 60% of the business, he and the Asshole take care of 20ish each) and now that he'll be picking up 90% of what the Asshole takes care of he's getting scared. He wont say that and if I bring it up it will start an argument and I just can't deal with that right now. I've assured him that him taking over won't be a big deal to the clients, but as I said before, I'm usually wrong even though I'm right most of the time. He got a call this week from someone looking to add new agents, pay sounded good, and now we are meeting with them next Thursday to casually discuss selling to them. Also meeting with one of our company reps the following week to talk about a new program and also discuss selling with him since they usually connect agencies that are looking for an agency to buy or for a buyer. Meanwhile, we've decided to not talk to the Asshole until after we get back from vacation since the Asshole would be in the office by himself for an entire week and that could only end badly. 

House - What we do with the house is dependent on what we do with the business. At least that's what DH makes it sound like but then when I come to him and with a decision he says he wants to wait another 6-12 months. He said the other day he is having a hard time remembering to be thankful for what we have. He has been focusing on the negatives of our house and this situation when really it's all pretty great. It could be a better neighborhood, but everywhere has its problems and eye sores. 

I'm tired. lol.

[erinshelley21]

It keeps getting better. Part of my requirements to continue this business was to find a new office, meaning sell our current building. We met with a realtor and told him were open to leasing part of the office if it made enough money and sense but my preference was to sell the whole thing. My brother thinks it makes the most sense to lease the entire office space to someone else while still owning it because "we'd be making money." I just told him I should have been more clear because he obviously didn't understand that when I said find a new office I meant "find a new office because we are getting rid of this one"

I might be drinking at lunch today.

[mellym]

Turns out DD1 is not getting picked up at our driveway. They had her on the special ed bus from 4K but since there's no reason she can't ride the regular bus, they switched her which is still not coming down our road. I expressed my dismay for a 5 year old to be on a main road during our winters and they told me to call back in two weeks. If all of these kids on our road are still riding the bus in two weeks, they'll look at coming down our road.

I had a hellish 24 hours. Got a call at work from daycare that our two year old wasn't responding out on the playground so they called 911 and an ambulance was on the way. I met them at the hospital where they determined she had a febrile seizure. Her fever was 105 at the hospital and she had been completely fine all morning, no indication she was sick. They did some tests but couldn't find any source for the fever so assumed a virus. We took her home and the fever came back that night so we medicated her, it dropped and she went to bed. Woke up to her scream only a few hours later and then found her having another seizure. It was awful to witness and she was unresponsive again, took her a good hour to come out of it. They told us to come back to the ER if she had another one so back we went. We had about 8 people around her at the ER so I felt confident that she was in good hands. More tests but nothing came back so still thinking virus. We are aggressively treating her fever with medicine so the fever won't come back to prevent another seizure. So far so good and we are waiting it out and hope the fever breaks within 4-5 days. I don't think I'll ever get the feeling of panic and images out of my head.

[supertrooper1]

mellym, I'm so sorry. What a scary situation. Hopefully she's better soon.

[frozenpeas]

So many hugs, mellym--that is terrifying. I hope you never have to experience that again.

[erinshelley21]

OMG mellym. How scary! I hope she gets better quickly and this can be over for you!

[traveltheworld]

mellym, I'm so so sorry. Seizures are frightening to witness. I hope she gets better soon.

We are all moved in to the new house and I love it. I was having some buyer's remorse prior to moving in, but now that we are all settled, I'm loving the house, which is a great feeling.

I'm very tired though.

[xctsclrx]

mellym, I would be panicked too. ugh. poor baby and poor mommy.

[k3am]

I only have lame medical updates.

DS: Champ. Rockstar. You literally can not tell he had surgery. Literally. He still sounds EXACTLY the same in terms of breathing, but we've been told to wait 7-14 days so that the swelling, inflammation, and scabs can heal. And he has a real cold right now. We have noticed that he can make new sounds he never could before (starting immediately afterwards, could be a coincidence though) and that he is an endless stream of boogers. He used to just get a runny nose, but this is full on loads of long green stringy snot that can literally be connected to his nose and touching the floor at the same time. It is impressively gross. (Hope you weren't eating while reading!)

DD: Her pre-op went well. They gave us no certainties about her hair, so we have no idea. We have her MRI tomorrow, lab work to do Monday or Tuesday, and then Wednesday is the big day. She knows about it, but she doesn't understand. She doesn't remember the first time around. She would like to go have surgery ASAP, since she found out she'll get to drink all the juice she would like afterwards. She's also decided she wants to wear a headband from when she was a baby and her brother's super hero mask to her surgery. Totally doable.

[k3am]

mellym, I'm sorry to hear about your DD. Glad she is in good hands.

[leap]

mellym, how scary! I'm glad she's in good hands and hope her fever goes away soon.

[justcheckingin73]

mellym, that's awful. Thoughts to you that all is well.

k3am, praying for your dd. 

[judyblume14]

mellym, we had a scare about a month ago with DD2 (6m at the time) and a crazy high fever approaching 106. She did not have a febrile seizure, but while in the the ER they told us to be prepared that if her fever didn't come down with meds, that we could witness a febrile seizure. I'm sure they told you this too, but the ER docs said that as scary as they appear, febrile seizures are the bodies way of breaking a fever and they don't typically have any lasting effects.

[186momx]

k3am, mellym, T&Ps

Meet the teacher night was last night. One first grade class with 33 kids! Had to drag and push DD into class and Mrs. J was awesome breaking the ice. DD told her she wasn't coming back and Mrs. J asked why and DD went into how boring last year was and they were forced to use fat pencils and could only do baby stuff and Mrs. J was like you are right K is boring and I can promise you that I wont' let you get bored. She then rattled off 4 different topics they were covering in the 1st month and by the time we left the classroom DD had read one of the books from her Library and was her bubble inquisitive self. It was like a totally 180 in attitude. I'm less nervous about school starting next week and really hope that Mrs. J and DD keep hitting it off.

Side note Mrs. J had about a dozen kids come in that she had in past years to give her a hug and tell her about her summer. She remember each name and was introducing them to whoever she had near her. I think we may have gotten a really amazing teacher

[Covergirl82]

mellym , that is terrifying. People may think I'm crazy for saying this, but if your 2-year-old has had any vaccines in the last month, you may want to check into that as a cause. My DD had an adverse reaction to one of the vaccines she received when she turned 5. It happened 16 days after she received the shots. She had a fever of almost 104 (and that temp was with alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen to try and keep it down, plus ice packs on her head and back) and lethargy, but thankfully no seizures. I took her to urgent care the second day of the fever, and they had also told me, "oh, it's just some virus." I'll be praying for your DD.

k3am , praying for your DD.

[waverly]

DS's pediatric orthopedic appointment is tonight. And of course H is acting like nothing is wrong because that is what he does with all medical situations.  He has no "father's intuition" when it comes to anything.  

Yesterday we had an incident with a mentally ill person causing damage to work property out of anger. That was difficult and scary- he punched a door and broke it.

I may have just over blown an incident at aftercare because I thought I was sending the e-mail to the lead teacher and instead sent it to someone in corporate, I guess... So now I am that mom already and school just started. Double ugh. I have no idea how they have it structured apparently. Different teachers and then there is someone that oversees multiple sites, I guess and people that oversee her... I don't know I am confused. The pre-school is always the same teachers...

I don't do well when I don't understand things. I am like the person that drives around in circles until I get my bearings and then am fine, but I am like a crazy person driving in circles before that. I don't do well with new things. And we have boy scouts which are new, and I have no flipping clue. Like there is supposed to be a camping trip, and I have no idea if my tent even works because we haven't used it in 15 years. And no idea what to pack, so I am trying to pass it off on H, but he will probably just complain about it and act like his life is ending. So then ultimately I would have wished that I just handled it all myself and it is the same day as DS's birthday party (party is much earlier in the day). I am sooo nervous that I will just look like the complete moron if I go and I will probably be the only mom except there are other moms on the council. AHHHH  Oh and my mom is coming that weekend, so it really should be H going on the camping trip.  

This week is so long and won't end already.

Oye, UGH, AHHH sums up my TWERK.

mellym - I hope your daughter gets better soon. So scary. k3am - hoping for a smooth pre-surgery week.

[2chatter]

DD's wound is healing well and I am super relieved. We have zero bad weather here but a giant limb fell from the century old pecan on the creek and landed to entirely fill the side of our backyard with the soccer goal. It's a full size goal and is totally crushed. I'm so grateful DD has those quad tears - this could have happened with her back there. No broken windows (there are 12 along that part of the back of the house) and a giant 30 pane window on that side of the great room and a French door three inches from the end of the limb - no roof damage and no damage to the iron or wood fence. Feels like a literal miracle.

[akafred]

mellym, that is so scary! If it helps, DD's bio brother had a febrile siezure as a little fellow and never had one again. They did have his adenoids out semi-prophylactically just to reduce the amount of times he might get sick. And he is 10 now (or almost 10 actually).

Not much of an update but DD is back on all her previous meds and yesterday she fell asleep at school and slept for 90 minutes. I have her a little melatonin at bedtime and she slept from 8 to 6:30 (she normally sleeps 8-7 or 7:30 so not bad). Aside from one incredibly stupid thing she did (I was talking to MIL on the phone in the car on Bluetooth when we were close to home so when we got home I kept talking for a minute with the car on so it would still be on Bluetooth. I asked DD, who for some reason was cold, to bring the dog outside. She did, and then lay down right next to or maybe underneath my freaking running car because it was warm under there. I FREAKED out, screaming hysterically, and could not get the door open since it was still running and was locked. Totally messed up. My MIL flipped too. Also I just pulled her out from under a neighbor'a car weekend before last and explained why that is so dangerous.). But other than that she was great. Hoping that the med will help her not be so incredibly impulsive. Jeez! Tomorrow we add low dose of short acting Ritalin to the mix and hope it doesn't set her off in a weird way.

[ilovelucyvv]

T&P for your DD mellym. I hope she gets over the virus soon.

[mellym]

judyblume14, yes they did so no lasting effects just very traumatic for us! She should grow out of it by 5.

Covergirl82, no vaccines recently. Her next check up is in a couple of months. It appears to be a virus with no other symptoms.

k3am, T&P's

[rere]

Thinking of everyone today with little ones medical issues!

Not a whole lot. I am still leaping out my door into my new garage since the haven't been back to finish up some small things.

We have 2 entire nights off from football thanks to Harvey coming our way. Heavy rain predicted, but nothing like what Houston is dealing with now.

I started my classes back for the year. One group seems great. The other....well...Wednesday may not be my favorite day of the week until spring.

[2chatter]

I have another one and am looking for advice/words of wisdom/etc. You guys know DD made the volleyball team. She was moved up to the A team this week. She was really unhappy with her playing time - 1/4 of the total time. There are some super strong super star players so they play full court, all game and the 5-7 other girls rotate in and out. DD feels like a bench warmer. I'm
like you are in the top ten in a super competitive school and while I get it - it is what it is. I also told her that the coach messed up the rotations (true) and things will improve (probably true) and that she has her other team for more court time (true) and NO ONE else was measuring her time on the court against other people because they were thinking about themselves and their lives and not analyzing the game (all the boys and girls she hangs out with came to watch the game plus most of the 8th grade football team). She feels like she's in a spotlight but everyone is too busy thinking about themselves to think about her playing time. What else!?! I wasn't a school sport athlete in jr high/high school so can't help her with the dynamic or social side...

Side note: I feel vindicated - you don't actually have to spend crazy money and eat.sleep.breathe a sport for your kids to excel if they are willing to work hard and you fund SOME things. Hello, proof.

[erinshelley21]

2chatter it's so hard to be patient as an athlete in middle school or high school. It's still very early in the season right? Playing time can fluctuate while the coaches are still figuring out how to play all the girls where they are strongest.

[phdmomma]

I am at work getting ready for the semester. I am taking DD for bloodwork tomorrow and then we are heading up north. DH and DS are already up there, as school starts next week, but all of the summer camps are closed this week in our area. Not excited for the bloodwork and ensuing tears (DD is 2), but excited to head up north right after, and do a solo mother daughter drive. I am looking forward to a weekend of family craziness before the insanity of the fall semester.

[186momx]

2chatter, no real advice on the social aspect of sports. Has she asked a friend to actually watch her play?

For playing time DD needs to give it some time if she still isn't playing a lot in a couple weeks she should ask her coach what she needs to improve on to play more. Not a whining why don't I get to play as much as so and so but what she can do so she could play more.

[rere]

Aug 31, 2017 15:49:30 GMT -5 2chatter said:

I have another one and am looking for advice/words of wisdom/etc. You guys know DD made the volleyball team. She was moved up to the A team this week. She was really unhappy with her playing time - 1/4 of the total tiame. There are some super strong super star players so they play full court, all game and the 5-7 other girls rotate in and out. DD feels like a bench warmer. I'm
like you are in the top ten in a super competitive school and while I get it - it is what it is. I also told her that the coach messed up the rotations (true) and things will improve (probably true) and that she has her other team for more court time (true) and NO ONE else was measuring her time on the court against other people because they were thinking about themselves and their lives and not analyzing the game (all the boys and girls she hangs out with came to watch the game plus most of the 8th grade football team). She feels like she's in a spotlight but everyone is too busy thinking about themselves to think about her playing time. What else!?! I wasn't a school sport athlete in jr high/high school so can't help her with the dynamic or social side...

Side note: I feel vindicated - you don't actually have to spend crazy money and eat.sleep.breathe a sport for your kids to excel if they are willing to work hard and you fund SOME things. Hello, proof.

I am currently coaching volleyball. If the coach messed up the line up, which is highly easy to do, that could have her sitting out much more than normal. I think it is normal for the newer kids coming up to sit more. It is awesome that the moved her up and are likely building the future team. She should learn a lot with the higher level team.

[supertrooper1]

I finally made my counselor appointment today...for tomorrow. My stomach is in knots thinking about it and telling DH about it. The counselor was nice on the phone but got a little snippy when trying to find a time that worked. After being in my office all day alone, she called when a bunch of my coworkers stopped by. She asked me why I was making the appointment and I didn't want to answer with my loudmouth coworkers in the room. Hopes she's not annoyed with me before I even have an appointment.

[sunbutter]

mellym that is so scary. I hope she feels better soon!

[supertrooper1]

2chatter, I played 3 sports all through HS and was a bench warmer at times and a starter at times. I agree with rere, because even when I was a bench warmer, it was a better experience practicing with the better players. I made the varsity basketball team my sophomore year and the coach had me play jv games too so I got playing time but practiced with the varsity. Maybe she could play on both teams?

[akafred]

2chatter, I would empathize and offer encouragement for now. If you can, emphasize that there are always growing pains, she is very young yet, and she will grow and improve more playing with these girls, which will buy her playing time in the future.