Sex Drive Questions

[amaranth]

*poof*

[katespade]

My response is with the assumption that these changes weren't caused by a traumatic event or marriage issue:

I definitely think a GYN would be a good place to start, if she thinks it's a physical problem.

I would also highly recommend she find a therapist to have individual sessions with. I used to have physical problems with sex (pain/swelling/misery) and it definitely affected me mentally. She may be embarrassed to talk about it in front of her husband, but she should talk to someone about the mental/emotional aspect.

[amaranth]

Sept 5, 2017 15:11:20 GMT -5 katespade said:

My response is with the assumption that these changes weren't caused by a traumatic event or marriage issue:

I definitely think a GYN would be a good place to start, if she thinks it's a physical problem.

I would also highly recommend she find a therapist to have individual sessions with. I used to have physical problems with sex (pain/swelling/misery) and it definitely affected me mentally. She may be embarrassed to talk about it in front of her husband, but she should talk to someone about the mental/emotional aspect.

No known trauma, however, a lot of their issues stem from trauma she experienced as a child. Perhaps talking about it in therapy for the first time is causing effects now that were just buried before? I don't know how that works, but you may be on to something there.

I will suggest the individual session as maybe an easier way to talk it through. I'm the only one she has told, and unfortunately I didn't have much more than hugs to offer She is definitely embarrassed, so maybe a solo appointment would be better at least to begin with. Thank you!

[melsamoony]

I think individual therapy and a gyn visit would help. I would start with individual therapy first especially if there was a recent discussion regarding past childhood trauma.

[luv2rn4fun]

Sept 5, 2017 15:47:42 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

I think individual therapy and a gyn visit would help. I would start with individual therapy first especially if there was a recent discussion regarding past childhood trauma.

Ditto this. Prayers for your friend. I hope she is able to work through this and enjoy a healthy physical relationship with her husband.

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Sept 5, 2017 15:47:42 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

I think individual therapy and a gyn visit would help. I would start with individual therapy first especially if there was a recent discussion regarding past childhood trauma.

Thirded. These kinds of issues are not always due to a physical cause. I hope your friend works through it, amaranth.

[awick14]

Hugs to your friend. I hope she can figure out why she feels this way.

[MrsMB]

What katespade said. So many hugs to your friend.....I hope they are able to find her some answers.