Venting it out

[tiramisu]

I'm going to be unfiltered and insensitive for a moment:

That stupid fucking bitch who drove drunk/under the influence and hit me pled guilty today. It's the first fucking thing she's done to take any kind of responsibility for her actions. Guess what she didn't do though? That's right, she still didn't give information on whether or not she has insurance! I know she pled guilty to a felony, so this shouldn't matter, but I wish they also charged her for driving without insurance, if she's going to continue to refuse to give that information. I'm almost disappointed that I don't get to go to a trial and testify.

I do get to give a victim impact statement, if I choose, which I do choose. I'm sure I'll go through multiple profane, intensely angry versions before I have one I can read aloud in court. This will be my one opportunity to confront that bitch who fucked up my life too and never gave it a second thought, who just hid from the consequences of her own behavior. I act like I'm fine because that's what everyone expects but I still have pain. There are still things I can't do. Now that work is demanding again I'm noticing struggles with letter dropping/switching and misspelling words or writing the wrong words again. 3+ months later. All because she couldn't just NOT fucking drive. I feel like I'm supposed to be understanding and restorative and above these things because of what I do, but I really just want to cuss her out to her face and ask the court to add on time because she made things worse by refusing to give anyone her insurance information. Adding stress and expense to my life. Fuck her.

So there's how I feel about the plea.

[cuddlyevil]

Fuck her.


I am sorry that you're still dealing with this.

[tiramisu]

Sept 19, 2017 20:24:03 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Fuck her.


I am sorry that you're still dealing with this.

Thank you. I hate her at the moment. I know that's giving her space in my brain and life, but that's where I am right now. She's had it anyway, by virtue of leaving this shit unresolved because of her own selfishness.

[udscoobychick]

((tiramisu))

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

[chalupa]

(((( tiramisu ))))

Swear as much as you want. She deserves none of your forgiveness. I know I wouldn't be able to get through reading a statement without dissolving into angry tears, so hugs and wishing you lots of strength.

[doglove]

(((((( tiramisu )))))))

[turtle1120]

You have every right to be angry. She sucks ass! Big, big hugs to you.

[margarita]

(((tiramisu)))

I'm sorry. And I don't see why you should have to feel/react differently to all of this because of what you do. You are human, and you have every right to be angry about this! Please be kind to yourself.

[Deleted]

Ugggg that sucks so much. Big hugs.

[kaneen]

I don't think you are being fair to yourself when you say that you are supposed to be compassionate and restorative because of what you do. You are human and as such you have feelings. Those can't always be moderated because of what you think you are supposed to feel. You should know better than most that you have to let yourself feel what you feel. Right now you feel angry and that is ok - normal even!

[neonpink]

I'm sorry you are still in pain. She is a shitty human being.

[gault]

Hugs to you, lady. Get angry, it is perfectly natural in this situation! I'm sorry. I'm also glad she finally admitted to wrongdoing.

[tiramisu]

Sept 20, 2017 10:17:33 GMT -5 pinkplasticdoll said:

So I take it the police don't have access to the last insurance that was used in the car registration? When I had my accident the guy didn't have his insurance card with him and his phone was conveniently dead but that's besides the point, anyway the police were able to look up the plates and see the last insurance it was registered with so I was able to give that to my insurance when I filed with them. I take it your state doesn't have anything like that? I am sorry, this is an awful situation that your in be sure to be kind to yourself and head back to the doctor since you are having symptoms of problems .

I'm surprised they don't have anything like that, or if they do that no one is giving me that info. My insurance looked her up and found info for the insurance she had last time a claim was filed, but she's no longer with that carrier. It's ridiculous.

[tiramisu]

Thank you all for your support. I really appreciate it.

[bullygirl979]

tiramisu, sending you big hugs and positive thoughts. You are MORE than allowed to be angry!

[CrazyLucky]

I'm always amazed at people who are able to forgive easily. Take your time and write down all the bad thoughts you have about her. You'll get to a good impact statement, I'm sure. I hope you start to feel mentally and physically better soon.

[RamblingRose]

Team you, I would be saying all the same things. I am so sorry this shitbag of a person is still affecting your day-to-day life.