Grief is so weird.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine but my husband lost his father a few years ago. It is very hard and completely normal to feel this way. Even now he has tough days, we talk about him often which I think helps H. <3

[eddy]

I can totally relate. I lost my mom in June. For me, what hits me the hardest is when I have a realization of one more thing I won't have her around for. Like the other day I realized she won't be here for the boys graduations, weddings etc.

Most days I can operate as usual. But then every once in awhile i have to take a deep dive into the sadness and I can't always predict when that will happen. I think our minds/bodies sort of does this on purpose. Allows us to function, but knows at some point we need to slow down and acknowledge our grief. I have processed through so much related to how sudden she died in the past couple months. And it normally is not a purposeful thing.

Hugs to you. 2017 can go fuck itself. that is my motto. :-)

[boxertdog]

It's been 2.5 years since my dad died. I don't miss him any less but I rarely hyperventilate-cry in the car anymore. Hang in there. I'm so sorry.

[lexxasaurus]

I lost ny dad March 31st and since I'm executor of the will, I spend most of my time thinking about him by dealing with estate affairs and an attorney and not processing grief and I think I feel fine. It hits me hardest when something happens, or I have a bad day and I think "I should call my dad about this."

I'm so sorry. Grief is a total rollercoaster. Lots of hugs.

[sineadorebellion]

It hits me in waves. I'll be totally ok and then boom I'll be crying in my truck.

[cleo29]

I don't have much to say, but to just be kind to yourself and I wish I could give you a big hug. Sometimes that is all you need; a hug and a good ear.

[flex]

It'll be 10 years on October 6 that my DH passed away. The first 13 months were horrendous. I still miss him terribly and I think about "what if?", but I'm so happy for all the time I had with him. I cherish those memories.

[Monica Geller]

We lost my FIL a year ago on Labor Day Weekend. Like you said, it's a roller coaster. And while he wasn't my dad, we were close. I miss him terribly and there are still days when I want to tell him something and can't that leave me in tears. ((Hugs)) to all in this thread that need them.

[bronxgirl]

Hugs, @kizmet,. I haven't been there yet, but my dad is not doing well.

[pantsparty]

The 8th anniversary of my brother's death was at the beginning of the month. Some years I'm okay; this year I sobbed in bed for a good 15 minutes while my H held me.

I remember reading a line that said, "You will never stop grieving because you never stop loving." It's true. I feel like once the shock of a loved one dying wears off it's less that you are grieving actively but that you build your life around that grief. Not that you SHAPE your life around it, but it's something that is simply always there. Sometimes it's harder, sometimes it's not, but it is always there.

Sending hugs. Be kind to yourself.

[textbookcase]

Oh, hugs to you. I totally feel ya. Some days I am totally okay and others I'm a mess. I'm glad I was there helping while he was sick but I REALLY feel like it traumatized me pretty badly, too. My anxiety has gotten much worse and I have bad dreams a lot more often. The other day I had a dream that was just a normal day type dream, but he was still alive. When I woke up I was messed up for awhile. We haven't shut his phone off yet and sometimes I call just to hear his voice, which is nice. We cleaned out his closet and everything but for some reason we haven't moved his shoes from right next to his spot on the couch, which is kind of comforting to see. Grief is totally weird. ❤️❤️

[Linie]

It's my birthday today and my dad always sends me stories of the day I was born. We lost my mother when I was 14 and this day feels more about her than about me.

The grief is still very much there, even after 32 years.

Hugs to all!

[purpleme]

I lost my Dad last year in July and today I'm totally missing him.
I have some voicemails on my phone and I sometimes take a listen.
Some days I'm okay and other days I swear I see his twin at the store I'm shopping in.
I agree grief is so weird ...

[bugandbibs]

Peace be with you.