Monday things.

[kaneen]

Sept 25, 2017 10:04:42 GMT -5 doglove said:

Sept 25, 2017 9:52:45 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doglove , I think we all deal with things in positive and negative ways. I'm a stress eater...is it healthy and good for me? No. But sometimes I eat a crap ton of chocolate. Sometimes I deal in healthier ways and I go for a run. It's good that you are seeing it, but hopefully it's an isolated incident and isn't a trend.

Yes, I get that and also have my own struggles as well, I've just really yet to see him have a healthy coping mechanism (in 8 months of dating). Before it was drinking and impulse shopping and now since he can't impulse shop due to the house closing next month, it seems like it's shifted to a lot more drinking. I am trying not to judge, because I don't want someone policing me about my actions (I know how that feels after being in a marriage where ALL my actions were policed). I had a hard time this weekend though because it was to the point where he could barely walk/talk both nights I stayed there and missing memories of conversations we had (I did tell him this, he said it was because of stress). 

I just really don't want to end up in a situation where I'm with another person who is checking out again. 

This is the part that would really both me.  If someone were getting to the point they could barely walk/talk due to alcohol, it wouldn't matter to me why they got that way, just that they did.  I mean, I drink, you all know that and probably some would look at how much I drink and raise an eyebrow but I never get to a point where I can barely walk/talk.  I suppose if it's a VERY VERY rare thing I wouldn't worry but if it keeps happening...

[chalupa]

Sept 25, 2017 10:58:08 GMT -5 kaneen said:

Sept 25, 2017 10:04:42 GMT -5 doglove said:

Yes, I get that and also have my own struggles as well, I've just really yet to see him have a healthy coping mechanism (in 8 months of dating). Before it was drinking and impulse shopping and now since he can't impulse shop due to the house closing next month, it seems like it's shifted to a lot more drinking. I am trying not to judge, because I don't want someone policing me about my actions (I know how that feels after being in a marriage where ALL my actions were policed). I had a hard time this weekend though because it was to the point where he could barely walk/talk both nights I stayed there and missing memories of conversations we had (I did tell him this, he said it was because of stress). 

I just really don't want to end up in a situation where I'm with another person who is checking out again. 

This is the part that would really both me.  If someone were getting to the point they could barely walk/talk due to alcohol, it wouldn't matter to me why they got that way, just that they did.  I mean, I drink, you all know that and probably some would look at how much I drink and raise an eyebrow but I never get to a point where I can barely walk/talk.  I suppose if it's a VERY VERY rare thing I wouldn't worry but if it keeps happening...

This is how I feel. If this is an isolated instance, well, I've certainly had too much to drink before, so who am I to judge. If this is the new "splurge" after a long work week and house buying stress, I'd be having a conversation.SaveSave

[doriswe]

Weekend was pretty good. Friday was a chill at home night with DS. Saturday was my BFF's DD's birthday party, and it was nice to just chill with that crew. Didn't get much face time with BFF but that's okay because we're surprising her with a girls sleepover for her birthday! She was complaining about how we didn't get to talk and I'm all "I hear you and I'm busy the next few weekends, so let's plan a weekday." Her sister is picking her up and a few of us will be at the house to surprise her! Comfy clothes, tasty food/drinks and catching up sounds heavenly!

Yesterday I went to church with my friend and then DS and I went to the movies.

I had a wellness assessment done on Friday and I'm trying to reframe my thinking. I've got to get my ish under control. So I'm toying with going on the keto diet. I'm also thinking of joining a gym.

[doglove]

I’ve seen him heavily drinking before, but not like this (the unable to walk and speech slurring) and it hasn’t been an issue in the past because we both do enjoy booze. Seeing him like that this weekend was a little worrisome to me. I also enjoy drinking and trying to not be judgmental because if we’re not driving or being irresponsible - like y’all said, who cares? The impulse spending wasn’t an issue because he’s not financially irresponsible. Pays all his bills, saves money and he’s comfortable, I’ve just noticed as he’s curbed that, the alcohol drinking seems to have increased, he said due to the house and animal stress.

I hope it’s an isolated incident.

[udscoobychick]

doglove , that's tough. I guess I'd wait to see if he tones it down once the house-buying stress is over? I think sometimes stressful events last for a few weeks, rather than just having it hit you one night, but I think it would be telling what happens once things calm down. As someone who is most definitely on the heavier end of social drinking (it's nothing for me to kill a bottle of wine on a weekend night), the slurring/stumbling part is worrisome...I can count on one hand the number of times in my life I've gotten to that point, and they're spread out over years.

[cuddlyevil]

doglove, I hope it's just stress and not a trend. It's hard when there's so much going on.

My weekend was good. I worked late Friday because I became the on site point of contact for IT. I went home and made poor food choices and drank a strong beer. My night ended with my friend drunk texting me (we were commiserating about our crappy days, he drank more than me). Saturday, I worked and then went to geek prom with my friend (drunk texters wife), we had fun but the event was way too long.
Sunday I relaxed, the kids and I went for a walk then hung out.

[doglove]

Thanks guys - I hope so too.

[gault]

My fucking boss lost a check and is blaming everything else but herself. It's for a project I've been working on for months and will result in someone losing their fucking house if it doesn't get to its location. It was hand delivered to your desk, don't fucking tell me you don't have it.

I'm so so mad. She doesn't even care.

[gault]

Omg, she gave it to a random manager. Luckily he still had it and we were able to send it where it needs to go. I almost had a heart attack.

[cuddlyevil]

Holy shit gault. I hope you get out of there soon.

[RamblingRose]

Guess what I found yesterday? My prescriptions!!!!! I was going through my closet to purge shoes and found them tucked into the toes of some loafers in a hanging shoe pocket thingie. That was the only positive in my whole weekend. But it's a big fucking deal.

[Deleted]

Great weekend here! Vegged out with C on Friday, got up took his dog for a walk then I got to go meet my friends new baby! Who is seriously the cutest little thing ever. Then I hung out with another friend that evening and had some tater tots and wine. Yesterday was awesome! C and my friend and I all went to see the camper then went to Camping World. We had some Sunday Funday drinks and just laughed and laughed. Then C and I ordered pizza and I in typical fashion fell asleep on the couch.

I have several friends who have been in long-term relationships and recently broke up with their SOs. I've been single for seven years and have always been a great go to when people break up because I'm single and ready to single it up with them. However now I'm in a serious relationship and it's weird. I feel guilty and like I'm a traitor a bit. Obviously I'm still there for them, I've never been one of those girls who spends everyday with their SO. But it's a weird position to be on the other side of this. Normally I always have the right things to say, but now it almost feels awkward. I think I'm just having a really difficult time adjusting to not being single. Don't get me wrong, I'm THRILLED to be in this relationship, but it's just a really weird feeling to not be single.

[idahome]

Weekend was good. Mainly focused on relaxing from my vacation and mentally preparing myself for work today. Spent lots of extra time cuddling the pups, so that was great.

Today was okay. Caught up on everything I missed while out of the office. Still not feeling great about how things are being handled across the organization and really think it's time to start figuring out my next steps.

Right now one of my pups is snoring in bed. I love that sound.

[RamblingRose]

Sept 25, 2017 18:38:32 GMT -5 idahome said:

Weekend was good. Mainly focused on relaxing from my vacation and mentally preparing myself for work today. Spent lots of extra time cuddling the pups, so that was great.

Today was okay. Caught up on everything I missed while out of the office. Still not feeling great about how things are being handled across the organization and really think it's time to start figuring out my next steps.

Right now one of my pups is snoring in bed. I love that sound.

I love the snoring, too. My pug is very soothing.