week of Oct 2

[oneslybookworm]

King26, G is just now starting to really focus on objects, at around 2.5 months. Before then, his vision wasn't good enough to really focus on objects, or track with his eyes. He doesn't really reach or grab for objects yet, that's more around 4 months (I think).

As for holding his head up at tummy time, G still isn't there. Some babies are faster than others. When we hold him on our shoulder, he holds his head up really well, but he lays it on the ground during tummy time. He also appears to hate tummy time, and if you leave him there long enough he just gives up and falls asleep.

[pandora89]

((King26))

I dont know if we would ever do another IVF transfer. We still aren't out of the woods but H has mentioned that he doesnt want to do another IVF for a second child and if it happens, it happens. If not, he would be okay with it. He still really wants to adopt so we may pursue that but we are putting the cart ahead of the horse.

I found the heartbeat on the home doppler today! I was apparently looking too low or baby has moved up, I found the heartbeat a few inches from my belly button on the right side. H was there too and was so happy. He said he had butterflies in his stomach while he was listening.

[King26]

Oct 3, 2017 14:02:52 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

King26, G is just now starting to really focus on objects, at around 2.5 months. Before then, his vision wasn't good enough to really focus on objects, or track with his eyes. He doesn't really reach or grab for objects yet, that's more around 4 months (I think).

As for holding his head up at tummy time, G still isn't there. Some babies are faster than others. When we hold him on our shoulder, he holds his head up really well, but he lays it on the ground during tummy time. He also appears to hate tummy time, and if you leave him there long enough he just gives up and falls asleep.

Thank you! Very helpful!

[cherryvalance]

King26, DS's physical therapist said at this point (2 months yesterday), we're really just looking to get his cheeks to the floor during tummy time for good neck stretches. If he picks up his head, awesome. He has more luck picking his head up if he's lying on one of us, fwiw. Otherwise, he either cries or falls asleep, like oneslybookworm said.

[loira]

Oct 3, 2017 13:53:40 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Oct 3, 2017 9:28:45 GMT -5 loira said:

Our health authority was big on this, too. It's a huge campaign here to reduce shaken baby syndrome. The babies go home from the hospital with purple hats and everything.

I love this. I wish I was familiar with it last year.

I think you mean almost 2 years ago? How did our girls get so big?

I wish you'd had more external support, too. I wish I had been in a non-newborn-fog place to ship you the "purple crying" dvd that they gave us.

[loira]

King26, A never wasn't big on toys until closer to 3-4 months. She was happy just to sing and interact with us. My parents don't have a ton of space, so she's never really had a huge number of toys. She loves books, and she's got building blocks, and she's happy to find new ways to play with things. I think in the early days she played a LOT with cloth books that had different textures. She also didn't sit up well on her own until about 6 months. She's always been on the later end of the physical milestones.

[konapoppy]

Hugs to everyone struggling with the decision to try for another. Fate took care of that for us, but I still haven't really come to terms with having twins (even though they will be here in the next six days lol). We will have to decide what to do with our one remaining possibly normal embryo.

[knx9211]

King26 , we started laying P on his kick and play mat really early. Most of the time, he'd just lay there, but whatever. He started to have a ton of fun with it after a while. Tummy time only just recently stopped sucking. Like oneslybookworm 's son, he would do SO well picking his head up while we held him, but SUCKED on the floor. When he got better on the floor, he still hated it. Now he'll do it for a while before he starts whining. He loves to touch things now (he's been doing that about 2 weeks) and will grab at the things and hang onto hanging from his mat for around the last month. Since he learned to grab things, he's also taken out giant chunks of my hair, so that's fun. He can wrap his arms around those stuffed animal/blanket hybrid things and bring them closer to him (mostly to shove them in his mouth), but isn't yet great at picking things up/holding toys unless I put them into his hand and wrap his fingers around it. He's getting better though.

As for the discussion for a second? I just turned 32, DH is 36. Current plan is to go back to the RE when P is a year old. We're not using protection but do not believe we have any chance of getting pregnant on our own. We're not really going to do anything to prevent it starting in a couple of months though.

[thoseareradishes]

We're finally done with appointments for the week - we had speech, OT eval, pedi for flu shot, and gastro. I'm exhausted and so is E. Monday she has a hearing test that she has to be asleep for, so I'm not looking forward to that. After that we should be done for the month aside from OT and another pedi visit. We're had 1-4 appointments a week since we got her home from the hospital and I'm ready for a break. It's so hard to continually adjust her schedule and deal with her being overtired and/or hungry as a result.

[King26]

Oct 5, 2017 19:15:54 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

We're finally done with appointments for the week - we had speech, OT eval, pedi for flu shot, and gastro. I'm exhausted and so is E. Monday she has a hearing test that she has to be asleep for, so I'm not looking forward to that. After that we should be done for the month aside from OT and another pedi visit. We're had 1-4 appointments a week since we got her home from the hospital and I'm ready for a break. It's so hard to continually adjust her schedule and deal with her being overtired and/or hungry as a result.

That's a lot of appointments. How did they go?

[King26]

J likes his kick n play Piano and bats at the things hanging there he doesn't hate tummy time either. He will rollhis head. Side to side once or twice and will try to pick it up but has trouble with that.

I had my 6 week pp appointment. Physically I look great but emotionally not so much. She said i have pp anxiety/depression and wants me to start zoloft. Any experience with it? I knew I was anxious but didn't think it was that bad. Maybe this will help. She's also writing Me out of work for longer because I'm struggling a bit.

[cactuscookie]

King26, I'm glad your doctor is being proactive. I hope this helps. So many hugs. I've been thinking of you a lot.

[sassafrass]

Oct 6, 2017 2:53:11 GMT -5 King26 said:

J likes his kick n play Piano and bats at the things hanging there he doesn't hate tummy time either. He will rollhis head. Side to side once or twice and will try to pick it up but has trouble with that.

I had my 6 week pp appointment. Physically I look great but emotionally not so much. She said i have pp anxiety/depression and wants me to start zoloft. Any experience with it? I knew I was anxious but didn't think it was that bad. Maybe this will help. She's also writing Me out of work for longer because I'm struggling a bit.

Old graduate here but your posts remind me so much of me. My Hazel was a tough, colicky baby and I had a really hard time. I talked myself out of seeing the doctor until she was 8 months old and then finally went on Zoloft and life was so much better. I wish I did it earlier. I feel like I missed so much time with her because I was miserable and didnt enjoy any of it.

[loira]

I'm sorry King26. I was undiagnosed, but pretty sure I had PPA which has lingered on to my anxiety now, which I recently posted about. I feel like I could never enjoy my newborn time with A. I would get irrationally angry with my H for not washing bottles the second they got dirty (because I never, ever felt on top of things), I didn't leave the house much because I was afraid she would cry and I wouldn't be able to meet her needs and I'd be judged for it. I also had trouble sleeping because I was terrified of various things completely outside my control. I hope you get the help you need. In retrospect, I wish I had.

[King26]

Oct 6, 2017 13:51:01 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm sorry King26 . I was undiagnosed, but pretty sure I had PPA which has lingered on to my anxiety now, which I recently posted about. I feel like I could never enjoy my newborn time with A. I would get irrationally angry with my H for not washing bottles the second they got dirty (because I never, ever felt on top of things), I didn't leave the house much because I was afraid she would cry and I wouldn't be able to meet her needs and I'd be judged for it. I also had trouble sleeping because I was terrified of various things completely outside my control. I hope you get the help you need. In retrospect, I wish I had.

Yep this describes me.  I don't want to drive to my families house 2 hours away because he might cry in the car and while we are there.  I don't want to go out in public for the same reason.  I'm so busy tracking diapers, feeds, and sleep that I'm not just enjoying him.  My parents told me to stop tracking.  Now that he is steadily gaining weight I probably can but I like the data but it's controlling my life.  I worry he isn't eating enough then I worry he's eating too much.  I track everything.

I started meds today so I hope it helps

[thoseareradishes]

Oct 6, 2017 2:49:19 GMT -5 King26 said:

Oct 5, 2017 19:15:54 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

We're finally done with appointments for the week - we had speech, OT eval, pedi for flu shot, and gastro. I'm exhausted and so is E. Monday she has a hearing test that she has to be asleep for, so I'm not looking forward to that. After that we should be done for the month aside from OT and another pedi visit. We're had 1-4 appointments a week since we got her home from the hospital and I'm ready for a break. It's so hard to continually adjust her schedule and deal with her being overtired and/or hungry as a result.

That's a lot of appointments. How did they go?

Good.  She graduated from speech, will be doing OT for about 6 weeks to address a few minor issues, flu shot went fine with no side effects, and gastro confirmed that our treatment plan for her reflux was good.  

I'm glad your doctor recognized that you are having a hard time.  I hope the meds help.  I would also try to stop tracking so much - he's gaining weight, right?  Lots of wet diapers?  I track poop diapers and how much she eats, that's it.   

[grover]

King26, I am on zoloft. Started due to anxiety/depression that came up when we found out we were looking at infertility. Went off in first trimester, had the baby in March, went back on over the summer. I just do much better on it than off of it.

Also, not sure what time of day you're taking it, but at first I found myself super tired and practically falling asleep while teaching when I tried taking it in the morning. Switched to taking it before bed, and not as tired during the day. (still tired, but it's "mom" tired and not "zoloft tired")

[kellikans]

Hugs to everyone struggling.

We got our Panorama results back and everything is low risk! And we reconfirmed that it's a boy. Still waiting on the Vistara results.

[Chrysanthemum]

(((( King26)))). And I tooootally get you on the tracking. I drive my H nuts! I still obsess over it a bit and C is 9 months old! Only recently have I let up a little. It's hard and I'm glad your doctor is helping.

[awick14]

((King26))

Sorry I haven't been around much. I've been so busy. Hopefully in about 2 weeks everything will be calmed down a little bit. (Well and then in 4 weeks I go back to work. 😳)

[awick14]

Also oneslybookworm, how is the adoption going? (Your picture, Instagram, got me thinking...)

[oneslybookworm]

Oct 7, 2017 0:41:04 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Also oneslybookworm, how is the adoption going? (Your picture, Instagram, got me thinking...)

Things are going well!! The paperwork to terminate birth father rights was submitted last week, so just waiting for the signed copy to get back to the lawyer. We have 3 post placement visits left and then we can petition for finalization in January!!

[cactuscookie]

Oct 7, 2017 0:44:54 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Oct 7, 2017 0:41:04 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Also oneslybookworm, how is the adoption going? (Your picture, Instagram, got me thinking...)

Things are going well!! The paperwork to terminate birth father rights was submitted last week, so just waiting for the signed copy to get back to the lawyer. We have 3 post placement visits left and then we can petition for finalization in January!!

And...I'm greedy. More pictures on Instagram?! He's so cute, and I want to see your being your mothering self!

[oneslybookworm]

Oct 7, 2017 17:13:42 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Oct 7, 2017 0:44:54 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Things are going well!! The paperwork to terminate birth father rights was submitted last week, so just waiting for the signed copy to get back to the lawyer. We have 3 post placement visits left and then we can petition for finalization in January!!

And...I'm greedy. More pictures on Instagram?! He's so cute, and I want to see your being your mothering self!

Hahahahaha, I’ll definitely get on it! I’m so nervous to share anything! Just paranoid it’ll all fall apart.

[pandora89]

oneslybookworm - saw the picture on Instagram and he is adorable. FX and thinking of you that the paperwork gets sorted out quickly.

My RE had me come in yesterday for another/final ultrasound at 10 weeks. Babe measuring a day or 2 ahead, heartbeat was up to 179 last week and down to 170 this. I was kind of worried that that was a fast drop over 8 days but I know it’s just leveling off. I feel like I am looking for something wrong. But I’ve also started to slowly let myself into believing this could be happening. Being able to hear the heartbeat on the doppler is really helpful too.