Mixed thoughts

[pipsqueak]

Xh is scheduled to be released in roughly 2 weeks.  It causes a moment of anxiety that sort of alternates with almost apathy....it's a weird mix of fear and fearlessness. 

[freezorburn]

I can't imagine.

Are you okay? Do you feel safe?

[pipsqueak]

I'm okay. I feel like we've done all that we can do to prepare - except move. I wanted to move and set up a PO box for all of our mail so that the public record websites wouldn't get our physical address but that didn't happen.

[beachbum22]

I don't know the history, and I'm not going to pry, but do you think there's a possibility he might cause trouble for you? Is there anything you can if he does try?

[pipsqueak]

Do I think he will cause trouble for us: He's not predictable. He's the type the USAF OSI agents hated. When I expected him to get angry, he barely reacted; when I expected him to be calm, he threatened me with physical violence. The children he fathered are 25 and 21. Fortunately for us, he is in AZ and will be on GPS monitored sex offender probation for the next 15 or so years. We are in the Midwest US. I hope the distance is great enough that should he slip the GPS monitoring, that he'd be caught before he reaches us.

Is there anything we can do if he tries: work with the police.

Beyond physical or psychological attacks there's really not much trouble he can cause for us - unless there is a vulnerability I don't know of.

[beachbum22]

Well that's a relief that you live somewhat far away. I truly hope he doesn't cause any trouble for you.

Since I'm in AZ too, I'll pray that someday he's stuck behind me when I take too long at a green light, or that his windows are open when a dust storm rolls through.

[pipsqueak]

beachbum22, where in AZ are you? We were in Tucson for 3 years.

[freezorburn]

Well I hope he leaves you alone.

How are DS1 and DD handling things?

[pipsqueak]

They have moments of anxiety too, but mostly trying to avoid thinking about it. My mom and dd are living in a small town about 5 hours north of us and Mom has checked in with their local sheriff's department and given them a heads up and so those 2 are calmer than before the chat with the sheriff.

Ds1 is relying on his dog to keep him calmer for sleeping right now. (If Ember doesn't react/bark then the noises Z hears are okay) Of the 3 of us he has always run more anxious.

[beachbum22]

pipsqueak, I'm in Chandler, close to Phoenix. I haven't been to Tucson yet, but maybe someday

[pipsqueak]

This is the time of year I miss AZ. Summers there I do not miss at all.

[DGM]

Thanks for sharing, pip. Your family is in my T&P.

[pipsqueak]

I finally got a bright idea. I contacted victim services to get more information about what happens when xh is released and how able he will be to leave AZ.

He will be released homeless on GPS monitor in Tucson. He will be on GPS monitor until something like 2034. As of today he has not requested being allowed to transfer to a different state.

After his sentencing in 2009, I told the kids that his real punishment would begin when he got out of prison - looks like I'm more correct than I thought.

[freezorburn]

Good for you, for tracking that information down. Would they notify you if he were to request a transfer?

[pipsqueak]

Idk. The victim advocate gave me a couple of phone numbers to call for more information regarding future notifications - I just have not called them yet today.

I haven't been in contact with any of his family since 2010 when his mom refused to attend/acknowledge dd's high school graduation from a high school an hour away from her. TBMK she lives less than 5 miles from us and we haven't seen or heard from her (or xbil living with her) in the 6+ years that we have lived here. (Which isn't too surprising I suppose since I have an aunt and uncle that lived about 7 miles away and I've only accidentally run into them once - at a medical clinic of all places - in the same 6+ years) Benefit of city living?