Monday Vents & Celebrations

[erinshelley21]

Let me go ahead and start this...

DH was sick all weekend, so that killed our plans. The most exciting thing we did was go buy DS a new coat. We needed a lazy weekend though. However, on Saturday I heard from a friend that my aunt is listing her farmhouse. You know the aunt that I went to talk with after everyone in town kept telling DH and I that we should buy her farm. The one that put her lawyer as a higher priority than me. The aunt that has called me twice since then to let me know she still doesn't know what she is doing and I keep telling her to let me know when she figures it out because we are still somewhat interested. The one that STILL after 3 conversations about said house and farm didn't bother to have the decency to let me know that she was finally ready to sell it even though I told her this was our dream property.

This basically set DH off and he's sulking still. Between that and his workplace not being very fulfilling he is really struggling right now. 

[supertrooper1]

erinshelley21, you should put in a low ball offer for your aunt's farm, just to piss her off. That's a shitty thing she did.

My weekend was just ok. The highlight was that DS and I went to my parents' house for dinner last night and DS got to pick out a pumpkin they grew for the grandkids. I found out that Thursday, my dad had a routine heart stress test because a heart murmur has been causing him problems. He ended up having problems during the stress test and they had to shock him. He spent the night in the hospital for observation and seems fine now.

[akafred]

erinshelley21, I am sorry your H is sick and struggling and that your aunt is inconsiderate. But if she hasn't listed it yet, maybe she didn't forget you guys, just hasn't told you yet? At any rate you can still buy it!

We had a pretty nice weekend. I still haven't had my day to decompress and be an introvert yet though lol. Yesterday I spent the day with DD and a friend from the old neighborhood. LOTS of driving. DD still has no sense. I let the two of them go in the bathroom at the park to get water from the sink since the water fountains were closed for the winter I guess. I watched from outside the bathroom. DD comes out soaked to the skin and carrying a cup of water. I asked where the cup came from. The garbage. First she tried to drink it sideways straight from the faucet and got soaked, then she dug a voluptuous from the trash. Meanwhile her friend cupped her hands like any sane person would.

[akafred]

supertrooper1, yikes! I hope your dad is ok.

Hey I meant to ask you. DD and I were at a gas station the other day and I saw a guy at a pump behind me take about 6-8 empty beer bottles out of his car and throw them in the trash. Looked like they came from the floorboards. He probably did this because there was a state trooper getting gas nearby who had gone in. I didn't know if I told him if he could do anything or not. I ended up dragging DD in there to tell him but I felt bad about it because he probably can't do anything anyway.

[erinshelley21]

akafred, I don't think its that she forgot about us. She's just an asshole. I really think she just doesn't want us to have it.

[erinshelley21]

supertrooper1, I hope your dad continues to feel better.

[supertrooper1]

akafred, you did the right thing telling the trooper. Depends on your state's open container law if he could do anything about empty bottles. But he could perform a sobriety test to make sure the driver wasn't under the influence. Chances are, you witnessing him throwing away beer bottles would give the officer probable cause for the sobriety test. If not, the trooper is trained well enough that just walking up to the driver and having a conversation would probably be enough for him to determine if he should take it further or not.

My dad is fine now. He said he may have to have surgery to repair the heart murmur down the road.

[covergirl82]

Celebrations: I had a great time at the retreat/overnight with ladies from my church. The kids survived with MIL for a few hours. I surprised them and called the kids' Gizmos while DH was gone helping his grandpa move, and it sounded like everything was going ok.

DH and I leave on Thursday for a long weekend away. We're going to Disney World for the Food & Wine Festival. I can't wait!

erinshelley21, hope your H is feeling better now and that everyone stays healthy for a while!

supertrooper1, sorry to hear about your dad. I hope they can find out why he had an issue during the stress test.

[twinmomma]

akafred, I would have felt obligated to say something too! At least they can watch for that plate number, right? And it's off your conscious if something were to happen.

Our weekend was nice. We had a chance to really deep clean the playroom, the kitchen/living room, and the girls' bedroom, including sorting clothing by size and season. It feels really good to have our house mostly back to normal. Tonight I'm tackling our bedroom, since I ran out of time for that yesterday.

We went to see the show Fun Home yesterday and I loved it. It was a really beautiful piece, and totally different from most musicals. Darker, sadder, really emotional, and really well done. Definitely recommend it!

I'm feeling good about this week. I think it's because I have a full week in the office, with no events in the evenings. We get to just have a normal week!

[rere]

Celebrate: football practice is cancelled today!

Celebrate : the kids had a great time camping and Dd has way too much candy.

Vent : Dh and I had a blowup Saturday night. There was a dance Saturday night. This has been what I thought was a family friendly event. We went to a friends camper next to the dance to be close. Dd and her little friends were just dancing away and having a blast. Ds was up close to the stage with the teens. Well there some much older teens there. I went to check on him and he had a befuddled look on his face, an I look over and there were some girls with not much clothing on bumping and grinding on some much older looking guys. He decided on his own, that that wasn't his scene and went back to our camper. I stayed to watch Dd who was oblivious in the back and having fun.

I told Dh when the dance was about over to watch Dd and get her when the dance was over bring her back to our camper, I was going to check on ds and talk about what he saw. Well I'm cooking ds a hotdog and Dh comes back, no dd. He said she was walking back with a friend? ! I freaked because she was not back, and because of some of the characters I saw at the dance. A friend brought her back in minutes, but Dh kept saying chill out, quit getting bent out of shape, and I am embarrassing. He has always been laid back, nothing will happen, where my mind goes to the worst. I just completely lost it on him. I hope no one heard.

Now I just feel off and maybe I did embarrasse myself. I tried not to get mad because it ended up them miscommunicating. She said she was going back with a friend, but then went in the camper first, and got left back. I didn't get mad until he kept prodding to chill out, which had the opposite effect.

[mommyatty]

Saturday was good. Sunday was pretty sucky. Maybe I’m being unreasonable, but I’m seriously frustrated that DH gets absolutely nothing done in the 40 hours he’s alone at home every week. Then, on weekends, I get to solo parent while he does all the shit he could have gotten done while the kids were at school and I was at work. So yesterday, he went to the grocery store (fine as we normally go together but kids didn’t want to) then the hardware store for over an hour. Then he did heavy-duty yard work for 3 hours while we were supposed to be going out to a nice dinner.

I ended up making the kids chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese because it became apparent that he had no intention of making dinner a oriority. He came inside two full hours after I told him the kids were hungry.

So now I’m leaving town still pissed at my husband.

And I hate my job right now. The travel is killing me.

[justcheckingin73]

We had a really good weekend. On Saturday, my FIL and SMIL came to visit for the day so we went to a pumpkin patch near us. It was a beautiful day and except for DS being a little cranky, the kids had a lot of fun.

Yesterday, I took DD to get some basketball shoes and shorts (Men’s shorts because apparently women don’t play basketball?? So frustrating) and I got some new running shoes to replace the new running shoes I just got. I never realized how much a heel to toe drop would affect my running but I’ve bought 2 pairs of shoes in the last couple of years that have a different drop and I end up having major calf and Achilles issues. I guess I have to stick with my Nike Pegasus. 

We also carved DS’ pumpkin, made some dipped pretzel rods and cooked food for the week. Since it appears that our balmy fall is over in the Chicago area, we got the winter coats and clothes down from the attic. This led to a spontaneous cleaning out of my closet. I had been hanging on to clothes that are too small for me or ones that I don’t wear anymore and it feels so good to just get rid of them. If I need new clothes, I will just buy them. It’s so much easier to get through my clothes too, knowing everything fits and I wear it.

[k3am]

Because my financial luck just keeps getting better, my phone completely ate it this weekend. After spending far too much time at the Apple store, I ended up getting a new one. New car brakes, new dishwasher, new phone, all in under 30 days. Way more money than I had planned on spending. DH keeps reminding me to just be grateful for the fact that we're able to roll with the financial punches without much worry, but I still cringe when I think about how much we've had to spend lately.

FWP, I had kind of been flirting with the idea of holding out to get an iphone X, since my phone was on its last leg. The timing made that choice for me.

[justcheckingin73]

rere, my dh has the same attitude toward me about things like that. As if I’m overreacting. Maybe I am in certain cases but I don’t take my kids safety lightly and I don’t blame you for your reaction. I would have been concerned too. 

erinshelley21, I’m sorry about your aunt. I hope something gets resolved with your house decision soon. 

supertrooper1, I hope your Dad continues to improve. My dad had a fainting episode and did a tilt table test to figure things out. He ended up passing out again and his heart stopped. I can’t remember if they had to shock him but his diagnosis was a-fib. It was scary to hear about. 

[xctsclrx]

Celebration: I paid of my student loan!!!!!! I am so excited. I had some extra money come in and I wanted to be done!

Vent: Well now I am broke until Thursday.

[polecat8]

This weekend was nice. DD's softball game was cancelled on Friday, but she still had a double header on Saturday afternoon. At least the weather was beautiful. I also made it to the gym on Saturday morning for an awesome workout. I did P90X and it really kicks my butt. I'm still a little sore today. Yesterday, we went to the local pumpkin patch for a little bit. The kids had a good time, but we were exhausted.

Today, I'm working from home until lunch time and then I have to go to training for the local elections. I'm running one of the polling locations this year and I'm a little nervous. I have worked the polls before, but I wasn't the one in charge.

DD is supposed to have another softball game tonight, but I hope it gets rained out. The heavy rain is supposed to move in around 4pm. She has her last game of the season tomorrow evening. That one might get rained out too.

[mae0111]

Vent: DH and I were supposed to go to an NFL game next weekend with my family. Sitter bailed. I texted my mom (who I never ask and who never offers) to ask if she would watch the kids, unless she was planning to go to the game. Silence. Texts back about other things. So I ask her face to face, and she agrees.

Then she mentioned that she and my sister, now living several hours away, are planning to go shopping this week. So I said, "Oh really?? That sounds fun. Maybe I can meet you for a little while!" She got this look on her face like she sucked a lemon and said, "Oh. Well. I guess so. " um... never mind. 😳

Gets better... she texted this morning and said she's changed her mind, is going to the game (has never watched a game in her life) and I need to make other arrangements for the kids.

So now DH is staying home while I go to the game. I was going to bail too, but my sister begged me to go.

Just another in a long line of disappointing family things.

Celebration: I'm going to a football game this weekend!

Celebration: things seem to be moving in the right direction for me to get a part-time, WFH consulting gig. Would be great to have some disposable income again.

[erinshelley21]

I've calmed down now. I needed to vent about my aunt to someone other than DH since he's obviously having monumental feelings about this. I do still think she's just being a bitch and really does not want us to live there, but I'm trying to remove all of the emotion from it and keep it as simple as: it's an awesome property and house, we would be happy there and we should probably try to make this work.

[mustardseed2007]

Oct 23, 2017 10:16:33 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

Celebration: I paid of my student loan!!!!!! I am so excited. I had some extra money come in and I wanted to be done!

Vent: Well now I am broke until Thursday.

OMG!!!! I am SO excited for you!! Hooray, great job!!!!!!! 

[k3am]

Vent: I'm writing this from home. Because I got an email from another department that I rarely deal with that was so infuriating, my options were cry at my desk, cry in my car, or go apeshit in their office. I chose option B, which turned into me just driving home. No wallet, nothing. Out of there. I've anger-cleaned the living room and kitchen and am getting ready to go back to the office. I think I've worked through enough of the agitation to have a civilized discussion with them.

[mustardseed2007]

Good but tiring weekend.

Soccer game + Birthday parties + I got my hair done and then took the kids to get a haircut too. On top of that I worked out and we all went out for sushi on Sunday.

One of the parties was for the sweetest 5 year old girl (turning 6) who asked for no presents. I'm just really impressed when I see kids her age doing stuff like that. And then I think, maybe I should be trying harder to make my kids less materialistic. But then I get kind of tired just thinking about it.

oh, and the ASTROS WON THE PENNANT! So nice. I hope we make a decent showing at the World Series

ETA: And if it isn't obvious, things at work are suuuuuuper slow right now b/c my boss is traveling and the only thing on our schedule was a 10am conference call that generated no action items. I wish I was hanging out with my kids right now. Or cleaning my house. Or doing some more productive than sitting here. 

[mustardseed2007]

Oct 23, 2017 11:28:43 GMT -5 k3am said:

Vent: I'm writing this from home. Because I got an email from another department that I rarely deal with that was so infuriating, my options were cry at my desk, cry in my car, or go apeshit in their office. I chose option B, which turned into me just driving home. No wallet, nothing. Out of there. I've anger-cleaned the living room and kitchen and am getting ready to go back to the office. I think I've worked through enough of the agitation to have a civilized discussion with them.

The "like" was for solidarity. That sounds really big - I'm sorry. 

[mustardseed2007]

erinshelley21, I'd hire a broker and make an offer to buy it. She's so dumb. She should sell to you so she doesn't have to pay a listing agent.

[186momx]

Vent: Yesterday DH and I split the errands so we could go to the farm in the afternoon. DH had to go to Cabelas to make the CC payment and see if we could reset the online aspect. Card is in DH's name so I can't do it and they have added a bunch of security stuff so no more show them the card and hand them a check and be done. He called me twice while at Cabelas because he couldn't remember what he needed to ask and did he make the minimum payment or balance. Then he calls me while at Coastal getting dog food asking about pumpkins. All I wanted to do was shop at Fred Meyer alone! The point of splitting up was so we got stuff and I didn't have to do it all.

Celebration: It stopped raining buckets! Tax school was actually interesting and it was warm in the building enough that I was able to take my coat off!

erinshelley21, if you like and want the house your aunt is selling and she wants to waste money on a relator then that is her choice and its your choice if you want to put in an offer or not.

Monday update: My mom's biopsy came back positive for cancer and her doctor is working on getting her into a dermatologist so she can have a larger procedure to remove more tissue. My mom Dr. Googled what the doctor told her and is spiraling with a bunch of what ifs. So far she isn't talking to us kids about anything so I'm getting info from my dad.

[186momx]

k3am, Hope the conversation goes well when you get back to work. I stress clean too

[supertrooper1]

186momx, I'm sorry about your mom. Hopefully it's an easy procedure with the dermatologist.
BTW, does your Fred Meyer have Clicklist? It's awesome and such a time saver. I don't use it too often because I like to grocery shop, but for those times when I'm too busy it works out great.

[covergirl82]

186momx, sorry to hear about your mom. Sounds like skin cancer (I may have missed an earlier post)? Do you know what type? Just curious as I had a basal cell carcinoma removed from my arm 5 years ago.

[k3am]

186momx, Dr Google is a mindtrip. But for some people, it's helpful. I spiraled after both of DD's diagnosis, but I really feel it helped me be more prepared for what came next and I was able to deal with it better. People cope how they can.

[k3am]

Please provide feedback to me and let me know if I should just consider myself an idiot.

My client requested XX. XX is serviced by another department. I am not super familiar with their product offerings and their documentation is confusing, so I sent about 283742 back and forth emails with their liaison, explaining what my client's end objective was and how we would go about getting them what they wanted. Today, after almost a MONTH, their liaison lets me know that it's out of her authority and needed to be escalated, that the client applied for the wrong product on the wrong form, etc.

I responding sending everything requested to the escalation person, saying apologies, I didn't realize it needed to be escalated, etc., how do we move forward from here? The response I got was... yeah. And it ended with a (what I view to be) condescending "do I need to conduct a refresher course??"

Is it wrong of me to expect that their expert provide me guidance on something like this? For them to have said at any point in the last 30 days, "By the way, make sure you get this escalated to M?" or "Oh hey, that product won't work for your client, you need to use YY."

And is there any polite way for me to say "no, I don't need a refresher course because there's no chance I'll even attempt to sell your product again" ? Or do I just ignore the offer for a refresher course? Or suck it up and do the refresher course even though it's a waste of time? Because I'm not going to sell it again. "Sorry, we're a bank, but no, we don't offer that very common banking product."

[erinshelley21]

Oct 23, 2017 11:33:30 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

erinshelley21, I'd hire a broker and make an offer to buy it. She's so dumb. She should sell to you so she doesn't have to pay a listing agent.

I think this is what I'm going to push for with DH.