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[mustardseed2007]

xctsclrx, I already said congratulations. But you're husband not being there, that's hard. I'm sorry. (((((Creepy Internet Hugs))))

You can handle it, of course. But it's just really hard that you have to and I'm sorry.

[mustardseed2007]

Oct 27, 2017 10:05:54 GMT -5 2chatter said:

waverly - holy wow - that’s a lot. I think we heard it in small pieces occasionally but all together - awesome work. You probably don’t need an atta girl but this so warrants it. Parenting is HARD and it’s WORK!

+100

Figuring out how to address stuff is just hard. Figuring out who to go to is hard. You're doing the most! 


 

[2chatter]

xctsclrx that is so hard. One of my BFFs has been there and she connected with the Natl Guard family support officer who connected her with other moms in her area, despite there being no base etc and it so helps. I think having at least one or two local military spouses around would help if you can score the connections. Hang in there!

[k3am]

xctsclrx, congrats!

In regards to help, don't be worried/ashamed/whatever to ask for help. Or to take it if someone is offering. If someone takes you up on your request or offers to help on their own, they're doing it because they WANT to help. There are a handful of shitty people who make the news, but in general, people average/ordinary/every day people are awesome and kind and amazing in general.

[shakinros]

Congrats xctsclrx !

[ilovelucyvv]

xctsclrx Congrats but I don't blame you for wanting to cry. If i were you i would probably try to temporarily move in with another family member or have a family member move in with you shortly after the baby is born temporarily if that's a possibility... even if that requires relocating yourself quite a distance

[supertrooper1]

Congrats xctsclrx!

sudokufan, I added deep purple highlights to my hair 3 weeks ago and love it. They have lightened up some. I have never had so many comments (positive) about my hair. Have fun with it!

[waverly]

xctsclrx- congrats! I would be scared too. I know you don't have a great support system but keep in mind even daycare, teachers, neighbors, doctors are part of your village. If you could find a neighbor teenage girl to be a mothers helper that would be amazing.

Even post here or on a birth month board for middle of the night stuff - most will be sleeping here but some might be up, for that online support when baby won't stop crying.

[judyblume14]

xctsclrx, I missed the second part of your news. Now I'm REALLY getting the stress of it all.

[xctsclrx]

judyblume14, There is so much to this. I had major complications when I had DS and almost died. DH is terrified of that part. The deployment is new news and just adds to it. When I think about all of the what ifs I shut down. I can't really do that so I have gotten very good a compartmentalizing right now. I think about it when I have to, but I am trying to focus on the fun stuff. We have been discussing names and talking about how DS is going to handle being a big brother.

I need to find someone who is willing to get up in the middle of the night when the baby won't sleep.

ilovelucyvv, moving is 100% out of the question. There is no one I could move in with let alone leaving my full time job. I do have a couple of friends that have done that, but both are SAHM.

My mother is talking about staying with me for a few months. From about July to October. She wants to get my brother settled in college before she meets my dad at their new duty station which is overseas. That is a very possible arrangement and would be extremely helpful. Right now I am in limbo because we don't know when everything is going to happen. Makes planning tough.