Holiday plans

[Jalapeñomel]

How are your holiday plans shaping up? I know this tends to be a hard time for folks that are TTCing.

[compassrose]

Fortunately, Thanksgiving is prett easy. I think we are having two. One at my moms and then hosting a small one on Friday.

[Deleted]

Nothing for Thanksgiving yet. Christmas Eve with my BIL and his wife. Honolulu from Christmas day to New Years Eve for a wedding.

[tacom]

We spend the holidays with my husband’s family. It’s too hard for me to get home to the Midwest since I work in healthcare - even if I have the holiday off, I typically have to work the day before or after

TTC hasn’t yet impacted our planning - but I do sometimes day dream about a family announcement.

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Rumor so far is that we're doing Thanksgiving at my parents' house. I would not be surprised if this plan changes within the next few weeks, because my maternal grandparents are in a nursing home now, and my grandmother has become more fickle than usual. So I give it a 60% chance we actually have Thanksgiving at my parents' house (with a 90% chance my grandma won't actually come, no matter what she says now)...and a 40% chance that we'll just end up taking dinner over to the community instead.

Christmas gets a little more chaotic. We always get together with the ILs a week or two before Christmas, because that's when SIL, her husband, and our nephews are in town from Texas. My other SIL (BIL's wife) is pregnant (of course), so apparently two weeks before Christmas, we're all gathering at the IL's house...having a baby shower for her...and then having our family Christmas party later that day. So I'm sure it will be both emotionally and physically draining for me, if we don't get lucky by then.

And god only knows what the Christmas/New Year's plans are for my side of the family, other than spending Christmas Day at my parents' house. I have no idea when/if I'm going to see my aunt, uncle, or cousins on my mom's side of the family. We usually/used to get together with them around New Year's, have a fancy belated Christmas party, and then celebrate the new year a day or two later. But now one cousin's family is in Minnesota and very rarely actually spend New Year's in Ohio...my other cousin is an opera singer and currently based in Oklahoma. And, again, we can never guess what my grandparents are going to end up doing anymore. So...*shrug*

That was probably way more information than anyone wanted. I just hate the uncertainty of plans around this time, because I like to know what's going on. It bums me out a little that it's so difficult to see my mom's side of the family lately, because they're the extended family I'm closest too.

Of course, I hope that by that time, we'll be able to make some sort of announcement...but I'm also not getting my hopes up too high. Which means that, yes, I'll probably be a bit of a downer (esp. at SIL's baby shower, although I'll obviously hide it for the occasion), but...whatever.

[katespade]

We usually have all sorts of Thanksgiving plans, but H is working 12 hour shifts on Thanksgiving and Black Friday this year.

My mom and I have been talking about it, so she and I are planning to go to a Thanksgiving morning yoga class and then spend the day hiding out at my house snuggled up with my dogs. A quiet day at home with my mom sounds like a perfect way to spend a holiday, and I'm really looking forward to it.

H doesn't work on Christmas Day, so that will probably be when we catch up with the rest of our family groups. We haven't made any actual plans yet, though.

[gigem]

We are in our expat country for both thanksgiving and xmas day, we’ll travel a few days after xmas and recelebrate then in the States with my fam. It will be a very new way of celebrating for us because my sis is adopting a little boy and they should arrive home with him end Nov so we’ll see him a month after and we are so excited! Im used to not being with fam on the actually holiday-day and anyways this yr i am happier to spend two wks at home in Jan rather than take my vacay days in early dec.

I would love to visit an mfm in the US in early jan and do some tests and an u/s but im know im already thinking too much about it and ill be really disappointed if this cycle doesn’t end with a bfp even if the timing seems good so far.

[Jalapeñomel]

Nov 5, 2017 14:36:13 GMT -5 gigem said:

We are in our expat country for both thanksgiving and xmas day, we’ll travel a few days after xmas and recelebrate then in the States with my fam. It will be a very new way of celebrating for us because my sis is adopting a little boy and they should arrive home with him end Nov so we’ll see him a month after and we are so excited! Im used to not being with fam on the actually holiday-day and anyways this yr i am happier to spend two wks at home in Jan rather than take my vacay days in early dec.

I would love to visit an mfm in the US in early jan and do some tests and an u/s but im know im already thinking too much about it and ill be really disappointed if this cycle doesn’t end with a bfp even if the timing seems good so far.

I found thanksgiving so lonely when I lived overseas...everyone posting on their FB, and I had to work my regular job like nothing happening! 


DH and D are heading to visit DH's family, and I'm staying here.  My niece from Pitt is coming to visit for the week though, and I've never really spent much time with her. I look forward to getting to know her more...no one from my brother's family has ever expressed any interest in getting to know me, so this is really cool for me. 

[grover]

Thanksgiving is going to be spent with MIL. It'll be the first one without FIL, and she's already dating someone, so it will feel different for sure.

Christmas MIL will be coming down here on Christmas Eve most likely. Christmas Day is at my parents.

[seeyalater52]

Thanksgiving and Christmas will both be spent with my side of the family. My in-laws are in a Zika affected area and we aren't willing to put TTC on hold to go see them so that's that. My wife isn't as close to her family as I am, so it's kind of a natural decision anyways.

This year I feel like the holidays are a little hijacked by my little sister's wedding on Dec. 2nd. Which I am excited about, but it's a lot.

And of course I can't stop myself from imagining how great it would be to get pregnant this cycle and do an immediate family announcement around Christmas. Ugh, I hate myself for even going there.

[gigem]

Jalapeñomel TG is the worst, I usually forget until some time after lunch when someone from a US time zone wakes up and mentions it is TG day. Last yr I was pretty sad/jealous because a friend living where I do who isn’t work and took her kids out of school to spend from TG to New Years at home in the States so lots of holiday pics on her FB (I don’t even have an account, I should stay off dh’s to avoid this haha). This yr will be weird to miss Xmas with family I guess it’ll pass like a normal wk day and likely I will work so my colleagues who have local family can spend time with them.

seeyalater52 I am so over thinking a holiday announcement and getting check ups done (I guess in the reverse order haha). I need to stop asap.

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Nov 6, 2017 9:22:08 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

And of course I can't stop myself from imagining how great it would be to get pregnant this cycle and do an immediate family announcement around Christmas. Ugh, I hate myself for even going there.

I'm right there with you.  I can't seem to stop myself, thinking about what cute way I would tell our families when we see them in December.  And then I get sad, because I realize the chances of that happening are probably slim.

[HoneySpider]

The holidays will be pretty low key for us. We're going to my parents for Thanksgiving and my brother, SIL and their kids will be there. We're staying home for Christmas and my parents are coming and then between Christmas and New Year's we're going to visit DH's family.