Tuesday GTKU

[mommyatty]

1. Tell me about your person. The Christina to your Meredith, if you can forgive they Grey’s Anatomy reference. 

2. When is the last time you laughed? What made you laugh?

[twinmomma]

1. I'm lucky that I have two, from different stages of my life. First, a friend I met in first grade. She's always been there for me, and I've always been there for her. I've been with her through several of her husband's deployments and she's the one who talked me through dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and basically held my hand through all of it. We started to grow apart in college, but at the same time, either of can call the other at any second, and we make it happen.

The second is my BFF that I met in college. We met through a mutual friend and quickly hit it off- we were roommates, maids of honor for each other, and just generally best friends. Doesn't matter how long it's been since we've hung out, it's like it was yesterday. She's been dealing with infertility and I've honestly considered offering to be a surrogate for her, which seems insane, but DH doesn't even flinch when I've brought it up. He gets it.

2. This morning on the way to work. I listen to the West Wing Weekly podcast during my commute and they crack me up.

[HeartofCheese]

1. You're asking about my BFF, right? She's independent and caring. She sincerely cares about doing the right thing and being the best person she can be. She can also take a joke - which I make all the time at her expense because she's really short and dances like a bug high on crack.

2. I read a thing on FB about the best Twitter feeds. Some things in there about a "none pizza with left beef" and Sesame Street. Hilarious. I'm just going to put it here.

[sweetptater]

I don't know that I have an answer to #1, but the last time I laughed was definitely reading the link HeartofCheese posted. I can't stop.

[waverly]

1. Sadly I have lost my BFFs. There are a couple I could always still go to but we don't see each other anymore. One turned out to be just plain mean.

I have some new friends but adult friends are probably never going to be as close as high school friend type closeness. One is from college so we have that shared history but we weren't as close in college as now. So I don't really have an answer for this question as now I have all regular friends rather than BFFs. I think people as they get older change their idea of friendships too.

2. I was just watching that video on FB of the woman singing the Mariah Carey song with the lyrics all wrong.

[judyblume14]

1. I also have 2. My BFF from growing up who is the complete opposite of me. We've been friends since second grade and have had waves of spending every day together, and not being around one another for months. Aside from our core group of childhood friends, we run in very different circles. But we are always each other's first phone call when something big happens, be it happy or tragic. She doesn't have kids, but has been a huge source of support for me as my family has grown, despite her struggle TTGP. So I do all I can to support her journey, mostly be being a good listener. She is the funniest person I know, DNGAF about anyone's opinion of her, and is incredibly loyal to everyone she loves.
My "other" is a friend from high school with whom I've grown very close since having kids. We live very parallel lives and are in constant contact - but through text. It's kinda weird, but works for us. She's far and away the best "mom friend" anyone could have. Full of advice and encouragement, and generously hands out tough love.

2. Listening to a podcast on my way into work this morning.

[justcheckingin73]

1. I’m not sure if she is solely my person but I have one really good friend (just one...lol) who is also my neighbor. She is also like a mom mentor to me since her youngest is the same age as my oldest and she also has two older daughters. We used to run together and she is one of the funniest people I know. She’s also incredibly thoughtful and completely understands my need to be alone.

2. Just now when I read the link that HeartofCheese shared. The time before that was when we got together with our neighbors over the weekend and played Cards Against Humanity.

[erinshelley21]

1. One of the downsides to having multiple groups of friends is that I don't have just one really, dependable person. I have multiple that I think would be there for me in a second, but I no longer have any friends that know me better than I know myself. In the last couple of years I've started hanging out with a friend that I THINK is that person for me, but we are both so busy we rarely get to spend time together. I also have a friend that I know if I needed help hiding a body she would, no questions asked lol. I have different friends for different things I guess.

2. Last night when DS was helping me put lotion on him after his bath. First, he lotioned his butt cheeks and I didn't think much of it. Then, he got a big glob and went straight for his junk lol. It was just hilarious to me that an almost 4 year old thought that needed lotion just because.

[Covergirl82]

1. I have a newer BFF - we met when our DDs were in a dance class together 4 years ago, although we weren't super close until about 2 years ago. She is kind, caring, and genuine. I admire her a lot because she's worked hard to get where she's at in life. We can talk about anything/nothing/everything for hours.

2. The kids and I were going through the toy catalogs to make Christmas lists, and we saw an ice cream-making toy where the ice cream is basically unicorn poop.

[kimberlybb]

1.I have lucked out in the friend department. I have three that I would consider “my people”. The first I have known since kindergarten. She knows everything about me, is incredibly loyal and has no filter. Her kids are older than mine so I rely on her for mom advice. The second I met through work. She is very direct and is never afraid to give me some tough love when I need it. I love her sense of humor and the way she loves my kids. I also met the third friend through work. I actually supervised her at one point but we didn’t have a personal relationship until she transferred to another department. She is very kind and supportive and just an awesome person in general.
2. A Facebook post. I follow living blue in a red state and they always post things that make me laugh.

[rere]

1. I don't have a person. I had some great friends in high school, but it is a struggle to get together with work and life. I have several friends, but I am not that BFF for anyone. I'd love to have a friend that you could show up at their house without a call and hang out.

2. Ds is pretty comical on the regular. The last specific one I can recall is when DD ask if the P word for a ladies private parts was puffy.

[supertrooper1]

1. I don't have that one person. The last straw with my former BFF was 4 years ago when she told me I would struggle going back to work after maternity leave and should just quit my job, when I really just needed someone to be supportive.

2. I watched the season premier of Shameless last night and that was pretty funny.

[k3am]

1. I don't have a person. I've had persons, but all of those have faded. Or burned out in a blazing ball of destruction. Not sure what that says about me.

2. Today. My kids. They're so funny without even trying.

[2chatter]

erinshelley21 - I am similar. One of my college friends is a ride or die girl - she’s the one that knows allllll the skeletons. Another college friend knows a lot of the day to day and we hang out a few times a month. A more recent mom friend (This is year 5) is my absolute day to day. I save mindless tasks at work for when she calls so I can move data around while chatting.

2. Last night watching Modern Family with my oldest. Love having a teenager who can watch real shows with me. We don’t watch any TV before the kids go to bed so this is a whole new and exciting world!

[mommyatty]

1. My BFF has been my BFF since 7th grade. She’s funny and sweet and kind and smart. The only downside is that anywhere life could hand her a shitburger, it has. So I always feel terrible complaining about anything because my path has been a smooth, straight line compared to hers.

2. Big laughs were late last week, eating dinner after I testified at a hearing. We were all relaxed, having a cocktail, just being so silly. And my kids make me laugh all the time. DS is obsessed with American Ninja Warriors, but it’s too intense, so he hides under the covers and just watches the replays. He’s also highly amused because as he says “the boys get naked before they start the course”. He pulls his shirt over he head when he explains this and rubs his tummy and chest. It’s hilarious.

[mustardseed2007]

1. My real person is my sister. We live together and I can get lost talking to her. Friend wise, the closest is another mom I know. We worked together before we both went to law school. Our kids used to go to the same school and she's a lawyer like me, so we relate on multiple levels.

2. yesterday. something my husband said but I can't remember what. It's not quite 10am so hopefully I get another chuckle in here soon about something or other.

[mustardseed2007]

Nov 7, 2017 10:15:19 GMT -5 k3am said:

1. I don't have a person. I've had persons, but all of those have faded. Or burned out in a blazing ball of destruction. Not sure what that says about me.

2. Today. My kids. They're so funny without even trying.

Although I was able to name my sister and one other person, the people I would have named 10 years ago have all gone that route. Meh. 

[186momx]

1. My BFF I've known since middle school and we have had long distance pen-pal relationship since middle of high school (her moving). We know each other's skeletons and have that shared passes so when family drama comes up we get each other. Since she has had her 3rd kid our emails have gotten few but then she has 3 kids under 5. Her oldest started K this year and since she started in August someone has been sick so I get not having time to write but I've been really missing our emails and feeling like my other half is absent.

2. Last week at gymnastic when DD and her friend were making up her beam routine and was adding in booty shakes. I wasn't the only parent giggling and a few of the optional team girls were giggling and watching very closely. It was also funny to see that they can get distracted too.

[waverly]

I think even the nicest people have experienced the fade of the burning blaze of destruction. My friends (by design) are so much nicer than the ones I had before (a couple from elementary and high school had mean streaks), and even my super nice friends have experienced it.

Having a family certainly changed me especially with a special needs child starting with problems in utero. I just didn't have it in me anymore to deal with mean, angry, competitive people.

[k3am]

waverly, DD's most recent round of tumor is what did me in with my last person I was closest to. She said something flippant and just plain ignorant and it hurt. And it made me realize that we are very, very different people. Which isn't a bad thing, but I haven't been able to forgive her for what she said and it was basically the knife in the relationship.

So with DS's call last week, the first person I told about it besides DH? Creepy internet friends. =\

[waverly]

Hugs k3am.

[k3am]

YOU GUYS ARE ALL MY CREEPY INTERNET FRIENDS, BTW. I don't actually think you're creepy, I think you're great.

[waverly]

k3am, thats why I gave you real hugs instead of creepy internet hugs.

[mustardseed2007]

Non creepy hugs k3am !!!!

[k3am]

I also like creepy internet hugs.

[traveltheworld]

Here's another creepy internet hugs k3am,

My "person" is my BFF from high school. We live across the country now so don't talk often, but do make a point of having a long phone conversation every few months. She is smart, hard-working, and has a heart of gold.

The last time I laughed was this morning, when both kids tried to get a piggy back ride with DH, and he melodramatically pretended to fall down, the wiggled around. The kids loved it. I'm not silly like that but am sure glad that DH is.

[rere]

I'm not big on hugs IRL, so Internet hugs may be my thing. A group I hang out with sporadically have taken to hugging when people leave. I find it....odd.

[erinshelley21]

More creepy internet hugs k3am.

Internet hugs are also my thing.

[waverly]

I like hugs IRL but mostly just kids and H and my mom. With friends, I am never sure do we go for the hug or not? So I awkwardly wait for them to make the first move. Sometimes we hug sometimes we don't, so I don't know. Do I just hug with these friends but not with those friends? lol

[supertrooper1]

Nov 7, 2017 14:20:21 GMT -5 waverly said:

I like hugs IRL but mostly just kids and H and my mom. With friends, I am never sure do we go for the hug or not? So I awkwardly wait for them to make the first move. Sometimes we hug sometimes we don't, so I don't know. Do I just hug with these friends but not with those friends? lol

This is why I hate hugging. It turns into an awkward thing.  Handshakes are too formal. I wish fist bumps were common place with everyone. Less germs, less awkwardness.