I actually step back from weird hugs. It’s no more awkward to step away and makes me feel better. DD recently told a grownup “I don’t really know you so I am not going to hug you, so, yeah, you know, I am just going to step back.”
I was so proud of her! I do and will hug people I know well/love.
Post by freezorburn on Nov 7, 2017 16:49:33 GMT -5
1. I don’t know if I’ve ever had A Person. I’ve stayed close to friends from college but we have all pursued careers in different cities, so getting together is rare. I have a pretty good network of friends currently, from grad school and mom groups, and I can usually find someone to hang out with when I need to.
2. Friday night, wound up hanging out with a bunch of my single mom friends. Had a great laugh over a story about a recent date. Single mom humor ... it’s a thing.
1 I don't have one particular person. I've had a lot of great friendships but I am weary about the worthiness balance, if that makes any sense. Sometimes I value people's friendships more than they actually value mine. I've been burned a lot by people, so in the past few years I've really only fully put my trust in my husband and not others.
2) tonight I gave my little kids (6 and 2) and bath and we were all hooting and hollering. I really want them to stay little like this forever, I can't believe that will be gone one day.
1. My mom or dh. I’m so lame and don’t think they really count. Maybe one coworker but all of her family is local with lots of get togethers (3+ per week) so it’s not mutual. 2. Ds1. He won something at school for good behavior and told me in our kitchen. I ran over and hugged him and was excited for him. He said “whoa. Mom. Mom. Just calm down” like he’s 16 instead of 5.
1. I had a really close best friend most of my life but we are living two radically different lives now so I don't talk to her as much anymore. DH has filled about 75% of the void. I have another longtime friend that I chat with from time to time that fills the other 25%.
2. Yesterday when I found out who DH's new acting boss is. #2 in the organization so this job is beneath him but he is already a crazy micromanager so it kind of makes sense. H is now in a hurry to get a bunch of administrative actions completed before he officially reports to this guy.
1. My friend J who I met 12 years ago when I relocated to this city. She was initially a drinking and concert-going buddy, but we took our friendship to the next level when we mutually went through some crazy relationship stuff. She is also the artist I always wanted to be, and I have gotten endlessly inspired by her over the years to work on my own creative endeavors. Our relationship took a bit of a hit when I got pregnant, but it has gotten better again in the past year or so.
2. I got sucked into watching old videos last night. I was both chuckling and feeling bittersweet at how fast my D's first few years have gone by.