Monday morning

[chalupa]

Anyone? 

That horse I was talking about Friday morning, that I thought would sell before I could get out there to see him? Well, by Friday afternoon I decided to say hell with it, and called the seller to offer to buy the horse SIGHT UNSEEN. Like I said "I can be there in 3 hours with cash and a trailer"...and I was not the first one to say that   I'm now waiting to see what happens - the other buyer is in FL and is supposed to send the $$ via wire transfer to the seller. If they don't send money by the end of today, I am next in line. I feel like an asshole, but I hope the FL people weren't able to move enough money around their accounts on Friday to make that transfer today. Or maybe they found a horse in their own state over the weekend and won't want him anymore? Gah, either seems unlikely to happen. 

In my funk at missing out on the adorable horse, I did a ton of yardwork over the weekend. We have over 70 huge ornamental grasses - taller than me and about 4x wider. I didn't get to all of them, but I at least started cutting some of them back for winter, and stored the patio cushions and such away for the season. 

[doglove]

Fingers crossed they fall through chalupa.

We got all moved, mostly. A has one more load to move and to finish cleaning his kitchen (I agreed to be no part of that project) and I just have to clean up my place. Everything feels like a disaster in the house, but box by box, we're getting there. His grandfather passed away over the weekend so he'll probably be heading home sometime this week for the funeral. He was 98 and died in his sleep, so it wasn't completely unexpected.

I HAVE to find some running clothes at lunch, I need a run like woah. I wish I had another weekend to recover from my weekend, but luckily this shouldn't be a difficult work week.

[bullygirl979]

chalupa, oh man. I hope it works out the way it's supposed to!

[bullygirl979]

We went beer tasting on Saturday with another couple which was grand fun. P also started painting the great room. I LOVE the color and I'm so happy to be done with the fugly peachy off white that was in there. We also decided to start our bedroom make-over, which includes upgrading to a king sized bed. WHEEEEEEEE! We met with the designer that helped us with the rest of house and we love her ideas for the bedroom. I'm getting really excited for this.

For your viewing pleasure, the demise of the peach. Blech.

[chalupa]

bullygirl979 I have that peachy beige throughout my whole house right now Eventually I'll just pay someone to convert it all to warm greige, charcoal, and/or navy.

[chalupa]

Update: That horse seller just changed her listing from "Pending Sale" to "Sold". Guess that horse is FL bound

[doglove]

Nov 13, 2017 10:11:22 GMT -5 chalupa said:

Update: That horse seller just changed her listing from "Pending Sale" to "Sold". Guess that horse is FL bound

 aww booo. 

[bullygirl979]

chalupa, I'm sorry. I hate to sound cliched but I really feel things happen for a reason. You have to trust that the horse wouldn't be the best fit for you or else it'd be coming to your stable.

And, thank you for feeling my pain. The rooms we haven't hit area all off white or peachy beige with brass everything. BLECH. I have to say, I love the color we painted. It's a beautiful greige from Benjamin Moore called Revere Pewter.

[chalupa]

Nov 13, 2017 10:18:42 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

chalupa , I'm sorry. I hate to sound cliched but I really feel things happen for a reason. You have to trust that the horse wouldn't be the best fit for you or else it'd be coming to your stable.

And, thank you for feeling my pain. The rooms we haven't hit area all off white or peachy beige with brass everything. BLECH. I have to say, I love the color we painted. It's a beautiful greige from Benjamin Moore called Revere Pewter.

Thanks, but I'm pretty sure that horse was perfect for me. Just like houses, I think there are multiple options that suit someone's needs, but he was just right. The horse market is absolutely insane right now - usually it's like the housing market - busy in spring, and a buyer's market in fall/winter. This year is absolutely upside down and I've lost out on multiple horses now that sell same-day with no vet check. Absolute craziness! 

I mean, LOOK AT HIS CUTE LITTLE FACE

[bullygirl979]

chalupa, ugh. He is cute. I'm sorry I hope you find one that is just as cute that you love.

[doglove]

Oh chalupa, he is so cute.

[udscoobychick]

chalupa, I hope you find a horse you love soon.
doglove, I'm sorry for A's loss.

We ended up having a relatively quiet weekend--DH's back was bothering him by the time he got home from gliding on Saturday, so we skipped the party Saturday night. I did still have fun wine-tasting with friends/co-workers on Saturday afternoon, though. And I was at the studio for several hours on Sunday, but I got to go out to dinner with a friend. And I had half my leftover burger for breakfast this morning, so that was a good start to my Monday lol.

[tiramisu]

Boo, I'm sorry about the horse chalupa.

doglove I'm glad you're moved in. I'm sorry for A's loss.


Today I go to court! This morning I'm going to the chiropractor and buying more coffee beans. Those are my only plans before court, so getting ready shouldn't be too stressful.

This weekend was a blast! My BFF and her husband were in town and we ate our way through the city, did some great boutique shopping, and had some fabulous drinks. It was so nice to have them here. We even rode a small train and a carousel together.

[doglove]

Good luck today tiramisu. Fu@k that lady.

[bullygirl979]

tiramisu, GL today!

[bullygirl979]

doglove, that is sad about A's grandfather

Did you make a decision about your washer?

[tiramisu]

Oh! I also have a bad date story!

I met a guy from Coffee Meets Bagel at a local bar last night. He was awkward and shy, which is okay, but there was clearly just no chemistry. I forget how we eventually got on the topic, but it was right after I was telling him that I'm an introvert but he's meeting me at full charge that he then asked me if I've ever crossed over. My response: "crossed over? Like to being an extrovert?.............a lesbian?" And then he allotted he was asking if I'd ever done anything with a woman. He also asked if any of my BFs (that's how he said it) ever tried to get me to invite anyone else in.

I got the vibe that he was looking at me like a dumb blonde/ good-time gal in part because he kept being surprised that I understood the things he was bringing up or could even add to the conversation on them. He also asked if I thought the university I went to was overrated and I think might've made a snide comment about where I got my grad degree, but I wasn't listening closely enough to him to hear that.

He tried to get me to hang out with him after! He asked about us watch a show I like together (Forensic Files). I turned him down, we left, I sat in my car for about 5-10 minutes, then I went back in the bar solo for a drink under my own power. Spent the night there talking with the bartender and other people there, laughed about how terrible the date was with the bartender, because he heard everything. He put my tab under "tinder 3sum" and I about died laughing when he told me that. So the night still ended well!

[spindle92]

Sorry about the horse chalupa.
And Sorry about A's grandpa doglove. Even at that age, it is still hard to lose someone.


I need to take a midterm today. My plan was to get up early and do a few hours of studying and then take the damn thing around 10am. Well my bed was way to comfy this AM to get out of so I slept in.
Now I am having a really hard time even opening any books. Guess I will be taking this midterm tonight some time. (My classes are online, so I can take it whenever is convenient for me.)

[doglove]

Nov 13, 2017 11:30:52 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doglove , that is sad about A's grandfather

Did you make a decision about your washer?

Not really I don't think for him, he expected it and was relieved it happened in his sleep.

I moved with my washer. I sent the apartment manager an email last week, but got no response. Either way, it was documented in my file that the apartment washer was removed before I moved into my until so I'm just not worrying about it. The burden of proof that they provided me with a washer that I would have taken from the apartment is on them and they can't prove it. 

I at least get the last laugh maybe because this dumpy company has come in and removed ALL the vegetation/shrubs/bushes around the buildings and HVAC units. For no reason, the landscapers advised them not to do it and it was no extra charge to maintain them. The apartments look terrible now and of course they did it when it rained last week so everything was a mud pile everywhere. And it exposes all the trash around the complex that they are not picking up anymore. Our landscaping ordinance for the town requires all buildings to be screened around the HVAC units and they are now out of compliance with that as well as their approved landscape plan. Of course - I told our planning department, but they have already ripped out the majority of vegetation. GOOD LUCK PAYING TO REPLANT THAT $HIT. 

[bullygirl979]

tiramisu, I am gobsmacked that someone would ask you on a first date if you've done that. Wow. Although, bartender is hilarious!

spindle92, GL on your exam!

[doglove]

WTF tiramisu? Why is it so hard to be a normal person on a date who asks normal questions about life.

Good luck spindle92.

[bullygirl979]

doglove, I'm glad you took the washer. Hopefully they don't make a stink.

[bullygirl979]

So I have a WWYD. I will be working full time at home starting in December. When we were looking for a house, P's only requests were a three car garage and an office; I had issues with neither request. We bought a house with a 2 car garage, and planned on making it to a 3 car. For various reasons, I don't think it'll happen. We bought a 3 bedroom: Master, P's office, guest room.

We are trying to decide where I should "work from". I have a docking station, laptop and two 24" monitors. I can't share a desk with P. He offered to move in to the basement (which is partially finished as it is painted and is carpeted) but I don't want him to do that because he only asked for 2 things with this house and I doubt one will happen. So, would you: 1) try and cram another desk in to the existing office? 2) try and get a slim desk to fit in to the guest room and just downsize what we put in there (i.e. no dresser, side chair, etc. It would just be a bed, nightstand, bench at the end of the bed and a desk)? or 3) move in to the basement where there is a lot more space, but no windows?

ETA: FWIW, we've had 1 person stay 1 night in the guest room so it isn't like we have guests on the regular. Also, the guest room isn't complete so it isn't like we'd be getting rid of furniture.

[spindle92]

bullygirl979, my bff's husband works 100% from home and had the exact same issues as you.
He eventually decided to move to the basement and his setup is awesome. He has all the space in the world and just has lots and lots of light so he doesn't feel like he is in a dungeon, so to speak.

Some people do not mind cramped space but I am one who would prefer more space over a window, but that is just me.

[bullygirl979]

spindle92, the one nice thing is having the laptop, I can be mobile if I'm not doing big projects that require dual monitors. Heck, I could even work outside in the nice weather.

[doglove]

How come y'all can't share a desk bullygirl979?

Is there a common space where you could put a desk? I don't think I'd like to work out of a bedroom or a basement. If P isn't using the room as an office on an every day basis, why do you feel bad if he moves his stuff to the basement?

[chalupa]

bullygirl979 I vote you use the basement, with some painting/mirrors/flooring to make you feel like you're in a finished space. I HIGHLY suggest you have dedicated space so that you can deduct expenses for WFH on your taxes.

[bullygirl979]

doglove , has a laptop and a 24 inch monitor for himself and his laptop can't connect to a docking station. So, it'd be a major pain to hook and unhook equipment every time one of us needs to use our stuff. He suggested having an office in the hearth room but I work in healthcare. I deal with a lot of PHI and I don't want to feel like I need to be anal about locking in up just in case someone comes over. When people come over, they never go upstairs so I wouldn't worry about leaving it out in the spare room.

I feel bad because we bought the house more because I liked it more than he liked it. Don't get me wrong, he likes the house, but I loved the house. And, he does use his office daily. He has an armchair and an ottoman in there and he goes in there daily to read, research, etc. It's his space, which I'm totally cool with and on-board with. Plus, I know how I'd feel if I asked for two things in a house and ultimately ended up with neither. He will willingly move, but I don't want him to.

[tiramisu]

Nov 13, 2017 11:42:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

WTF tiramisu? Why is it so hard to be a normal person on a date who asks normal questions about life.

His PhD in chemistry maybe? And his weird upbringing where his mother was constantly afraid something would happen to turn him gay so she never let him go on field trips or even go away to college. I should've billed him my going session rate! He also got distinctly uncomfortable every time I turned one of his weird questions around and asked it back. That part was kind of fun.

[bullygirl979]

Nov 13, 2017 12:06:17 GMT -5 chalupa said:

bullygirl979 I vote you use the basement, with some painting/mirrors/flooring to make you feel like you're in a finished space. I HIGHLY suggest you have dedicated space so that you can deduct expenses for WFH on your taxes.

Crap. I forgot about this. I'll have to look at the laws and see if we can make it work. Thanks for the reminder.