Two things - we bought both skids cars - DH at least waited until they were 18 to decrease our liability for his ex...but EXACTLY what I predicted occurred. SS let his insurance lapse and wrecked the car. He had the audacity to hit DH up for money for repairs. Luckily DH said no.
Also, SD is ... vain. She has perfect teeth but has always wanted a second set of braces. So...a couple days before Christmas DH is taking her. DD has been waiting while we balance other medical expenses - we can’t afford a second set at one time - and DD’s are medically necessary because one of her teeth hasn’t descended. Also, because DH is taking SD to her appointment he can no longer be in town the week prior and can no longer take DS to the dentist or DD to the urologist as planned. So I get to do that, when he scheduled these two appointments to suit him in August and committed to being there. I would never do these things the week prior to Christmas break.
H has been on good behavior lately. He did bite my head off because I turned off the fan to the stove while he was fixing the cabinet knob that the kids broke. He always yells and acts so irritated when fixing things like I had anything to do with it. Anyone else's H yell or more like get snippy when doing projects/ fix things?
Other than that, he told me to get out of the house while I was PMSing. I was annoying him probably, so it was a win win. I got me time and he got rid of me for a few hours and hoped that I was less stressed when I came home, which I was marginally.
2chatter, I'm sorry I am confused. Why are you guys agreeing to an expensive not necessary procedure? I would put this second set of braces the equivalent of a nose job. This would be great lesson of if you want something pay for it yourself.
My SOS. My husband is being a jerk. He told our step kids about the baby without me. I know it is his news to tell as well, but I really wanted to be there too. I am also having horrible morning sickness and I am getting more sympathy from my 3 year old. DH is pissed off, because a baby wasn't the plan and he is taking it out on me. It's very passive aggressive and it hurts a lot.
Post by erinshelley21 on Nov 13, 2017 15:48:40 GMT -5
waverly , my H gets very snippy. When he was putting the laminate down he got so snippy and loud that DS and I left for the day. I was more worried about the new words DS would pick up because it makes me laugh when he gets irritated during projects.
waverly - yes - projects way shorten DH’s fuse. I do most of the projects and he gets really mad if I recommend something, too. So it takes him way longer, which is then my fault.
xctsclrx - that sucks on DH sharing that news without you. I didn’t agree to these braces...but DH did. This is our constant argument - he throws money at his kids (on his Amex, like this weekend, I have no idea what he spent because I can’t see his Amex)....I budget and discuss. And I don’t just say yes. I will bet money SD has a new TNF and other clothes after this weekend (also not in the budget) but I will never know because DH used the Amex to gaslight me. “I don’t know why my check and the Amex payment don’t match. They did when I looked.”
waverly, I can't be around DH when he's trying to fix something. He's very handy, so can usually handle any time of "around the house" job that needs to be done. But while he's doing it, there's usually cussing, yelling, banging, etc. And don't even set foot in the garage while he's working on a vehicle.
Dh is in vacation due to deer season. I am sick of hearing it. I am sick of him coming home acting like it is Saturday night and everybody should just hang out. We are not all on vacation. You chose to take vacation for an activity you do alone. So you can hang out by yourself. Ds has homework so quit talking to him. I have things to do and if I don't, I'm going to watch tv and relax because it is not my day off, so quit talking to me. Dd is hormonal, so she doesn't like you much anyway, so quit talking to her altogether.
waverly, we both get snippy when there is any kind of home repair going on. When we first moved in, we had to replace an outlet, at which point I determined there would be no DIY projects in our future if we wanted to stay married.
I'm so annoyed with DH lately. I have been handling our finances since we got married and it's gotten to the point now that I can't get DH to do anything. We changed bank accounts like 2-3 weeks ago and he still hasn't activated his debit card for the account.
We are trying to aggressively pay off my student loans and I suggested that he adjust his contribution to our joint account. He gave me this whole speech about how he's not going to have an allowance like some men. He's a grown man that works for his paycheck and deserves to see that money (or whatever). I'm so pissed because if we work TOGETHER we could be debt-free except for our mortgage within a year. But he's not willing to sacrifice anything to help make that happen. He's making it seem like I'm taking his money from him. I just don't know how to get him to engage in our finances and understand the light at the end of the tunnel that I'm seeing.
Post by sweetptater on Nov 13, 2017 16:24:46 GMT -5
waverly, YES. And DH insists on doing everything himself and not calling in professionals. So I stand there and watch because I have no idea what to do, which apparently doesn't excuse me from not being able to read his mind and figure out whatever he THINKS I should be doing. Oh the arguments we have...
welly01, I understand. H loves to borrow money and says that it is lower than inflation etc. That is when it is zero percent maybe. He refused to save up money for anything and wants to borrow everything. Well not everything is going to be 0% and if I run our interest payments (less now because we paid off a card) they are going to be higher than cash back and inflation. But he has an MBA and knows accounting and taxes and finance, but not common sense apparently. He likes to bring up our disagreements to our financial advisor who sides with me anyway ha ha. He brought up that I made him return his drone. You have a lot in CC debt still (even if some is 0%) no one cares that I made you return a drone that you shouldn't have bought anyway. I am sure the financial advisor agreed with me, but I just ignored DH and kept on with the other conversation.
welly01 and waverly my DH is the opposite and it is also annoying. He is a major saver, and super duper frugal and obsessed with the idea of having "FU" money so that he could just quit his job one day if he wanted to. He would live on ramen and never go on vacation or out to eat if he had it his way.
So the deer hunting shenanigans get even better. Dh was supposed to get ds to church. I was going to take dd to noon mass when I got home. I asked if they went. Yes. So I heard there was a guest speaker. So I asked. Neither one knew. Now our regular priest is a black man from Nigeria. The speaker was a white man from here. Apparently, Dh dropped ds off 15 minutes late and left early and didn't even go in himself. While the boy was in there he didn't pay enough attention to tell a black priest with a Nigerian accent from a white one with a southern accent. He said he was praying too hard for being late. Dh says it doesn't count because he was technically supposed to be at work. Pretty sure God doesn't buy those dumbass excuses because I don't.
We finally got DS into an aftercare program a few days a week (I wanted to sign up in January when they had spots, DH said that he would cover all the days after school, we ended up hiring SIL a few days a week -and it has all be bad). DH was still wavering when we took the tour, and I was ready to sign the check for whatever days we could get. Thankfully we took DS with us on the tour, and he wanted to go play with his friends who were there, instead of taking the rest of the tour with us. Which finally convinced DH that we should sign him up. What kills me is that this isn't very much money, like $250 a month, which compared to what we paid for daycare last year is nothing at all.
Spoiler alert: If he wasn't going to want to sign him up that day, I was going to sign DS up anyway, because I have had to cover a bunch of the afterschool stuff. And wouldn't have had to if he had just signed him up when I wanted to.