greenmonkey1, I won't do more than once a month horseback riding lessons because I just don't want to commit to an activity for my little kids. When they're older, and maybe care and ask, I'll deal with it. But I feel bad that the only reason they don't do sports and things is because I just don't want to deal with it.
The screen time. Oh, the screentime. It's the thing I love to hate about myself. Why didn't I delete the YouTube Kids app the first day DH installed it? Why don't I delete it now? Can't I just muster a little more energy to take the tablet away from DD and play with her till bedtime???
I feel guilty that I don't want to sit and watch DD and gymnastics. I'm so tired of sitting through practices and extra open gyms. I've been super cranky with her and just annoyed. I know by the end of February I will be wishing to sit and mindlessly sit through a practice and will be counting down the days until tax season is over and I can go watch but right now the last place I want to go is the gym.
I also am extremely paranoid that DH's undiagnosed learning disorder, I think he may have a mixture dyslexia, auditory processing disorder, and maybe Asperger. His parents refused to have him tested when in school and he was just placed in special ed but the more I research his symptoms the more I see them in DD. I've been noticing some major red flags when she is reading. The problem is all anyone see is that she is a very smart, bright, articulate girl who holds herself above her peers. Most people think she is 8-10 and very petite instead of her 6 years. I don't know if I'm comparing too much or just seeing things that aren't there but I feel lost.
Post by erinshelley21 on Nov 14, 2017 21:52:03 GMT -5
meagain that is A LOT to handle. I hope you catch a break soon. Sometimes surviving is all you can do during hard times and you are definitely experiencing them.
I feel slightly guilty that I quit bf'ing so I could get back on my medication. It was going well, I don't think DD was ready, and it is now cold and flu season. I'm also enjoying the other benefits like DH can get up with her and if she's hungry when we are ready to go somewhere, I can give her a bottle and off we go.
Tonight she cried for the hour and a half I was gone at crossfit. DH is working so I had our 17 year old nephew babysitting. I felt so bad when I got home. He didn't care but she was so tired that she literally just passed out right when I walked in the door. He was still holding her and she's been asleep since.
186momx, look up Stealth Dyslexia. And before you get an eval, find someone with experience with 2e (gifted plus learning issue). I may be traveling to Lexington, KY (4 hours) to get DD evaluated. Also, it's important to note that APD (also called CAPD) is usually not dx until around 7 or 8 because those "skills" are still emerging until then. Also APD and dyslexia are actually very common together. I read an article this week stating that dyslexia may be linked directly to hearing issues.
DD got the audiologist eval yesterday. They still have to score all the tests and write the reports, but she stated verbally that she felt DD would come in "at least borderline." We'll see how severe when the tests are scored.
DH sent me a video of DS2 walking behind a laundry basket. He also sent me two pics of the boys being really sweet to each other. And I haven't seen any of the kids since Tuesday evening since I had to teach class last night.
I feel guilty that I don't want to sit and watch DD and gymnastics. I'm so tired of sitting through practices and extra open gyms. I've been super cranky with her and just annoyed. I know by the end of February I will be wishing to sit and mindlessly sit through a practice and will be counting down the days until tax season is over and I can go watch but right now the last place I want to go is the gym.
I also am extremely paranoid that DH's undiagnosed learning disorder, I think he may have a mixture dyslexia, auditory processing disorder, and maybe Asperger. His parents refused to have him tested when in school and he was just placed in special ed but the more I research his symptoms the more I see them in DD. I've been noticing some major red flags when she is reading. The problem is all anyone see is that she is a very smart, bright, articulate girl who holds herself above her peers. Most people think she is 8-10 and very petite instead of her 6 years. I don't know if I'm comparing too much or just seeing things that aren't there but I feel lost.
I'm going to +1 trust your gut. A friend of mine -adult obviously-was recently diagnosed with aspergers. It absolutely was something that was undiagnosed back when we were kids.
Her daughter has now been diagnosed with autism, but her exact place on the spectrum has yet to be determined. She'll do things like, if you ask a question she just repeats the question back to you. At the same time, she's somehow picked up the alphabet in Russian.
greenmonkey1 , I won't do more than once a month horseback riding lessons because I just don't want to commit to an activity for my little kids. When they're older, and maybe care and ask, I'll deal with it. But I feel bad that the only reason they don't do sports and things is because I just don't want to deal with it.
Dealing with activities is a pain. I do it and I see that it benefits my kids but if yours are clamoring for it then not doing it is completely 100% fine. I've really liked the enrichment I can add on to after school. The program quality is pretty good and I don't have to be involved in the logistics.
Post by librarychica on Nov 17, 2017 8:38:42 GMT -5
I was planning on skipping my oldest’s turkey fun run at school despite having the day off. I have always run it with her but I’ve been working a lot and needed to catch up on some things, like dropping off her holiday camp paperwork for the first week in January (why are they off until 1/8?!?!) and doing 300 loads of laundry and checking on my mom. Explained to kid, kid was cool with it. Told her I’d watch them kick off and then go.
This morning I start to load them up and H swoops in to take them and announces that he took the morning off for the turkey run. He will run with her. Cue the guilt. He’s also doing both kid school thanksgivings Monday because my dept has a new employee starting and my boss is on work travel so I said I’d settle her in and kick off her training. So basically I’m skipping all my kids events. I didn’t feel guilty before but now it has crept up on me! Nevermind That H is traveling basically all of January and has no problem covering kid events while he is in town and the girls are perfectly happy to eat run like turkeys and also eat turkey with Dad. Guilt is illogical.
Post by librarychica on Nov 17, 2017 8:41:05 GMT -5
I will say that i never understood activity guilt, probably because my older kid is a homebody and fought most outings let alone something like kid soccer or gymnastics. My 3yo? Eats it up. She loves organized activities. I signed her up for one and I set my limit at one but, man, I know it’s going to be tough when she gets old enough to ask to do things. I think she’s going to want to sign up for ALL THE STUFF and I’ll say no. Anticipatory guilt.
librarychica - no guilt! You and DH are a team and let him do all the things so you don’t have to! And your little one’s joy may motivate you - my middle is wildly social, a total joiner, and inventor of things — I am shocked all the time at some of the things I do outside my comfort zone because she is ALL IN. No preemptive guilt - cautious excited anticipation?
Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 17, 2017 10:18:45 GMT -5
Last night, DS said he wanted to stay home with me all day today. He's been extra clingy lately. If I didn't have a big project going on at work, I would have considered calling in sick to spend time with him. At least I have next week off to spend time with him.
Out of 26 kids recognized this morning, my kindergartener was the only one who didn’t come up to get his ribbon. When I started the presentation he was right in front of me - he moved to sit by friends. No clue why he abstained. I was freaking out trying to figure out where he went. The anxiety continued for over an hour. I feel weird about him doing that — then I feel bad for feeling weird.
But of the 26 only my two knew they would get ribbons today. So fifty percent failure rate?
DS (who is 6) has now decided that he's a vegetarian, for the last week or so. While I am happy to respect his feelings, it just feels like more work for me, as the main shopper and preparer of food. I asked him about the motivation behind his decision last night, apparently he loves animals and doesn't want to eat them. Although (which was pretty funny) he does not like cows because they are big and smell bad (his class had a trip to a dairy farm), but still does not want to eat them. What would you do? This may or may not be a phase, and historically he has been a pretty picky eater, so I'm not sure that this will really change how much food he eats.
Post by librarychica on Nov 17, 2017 22:00:18 GMT -5
New guilt! My barely 3yo fell down an escalator today. I don’t have runners except evidently I have one now and she decided the escalator was the place to start — and fell down three steps. She is fine, will have some interesting bruises. I have never seen a store manager run so fast ...
meagain is there any way you can get into counseling? I know it sounds impossible to add one more obligation, but that can help you get to a new start. You have a ton of really hard stuff going on. I'm glad you are talking about it with us. But I hope you have a support system in real life too.