Celebrate : Great weekend. Had a Christmas movie night with the kids Friday. Got to check out a cool new restaurant and bar Saturday. Spent Sunday getting the eleventy billion leaves out of our 2 acre yard, which ended in wine, steaks and a fire.
Vent : off today, but have to take DS 1 1/2 hours away to his endocrinologist appointment. Hopefully it goes better than last time when they talked in circles for about 20 minutes without any real information. I'm making Dh go too since he always has a thousand questions after that I can't answer.
Celebration: Our long weekend was wonderful. Lots of fun time spent with my family, with a good amount of relaxing fit in too. Vent: I'm sick. Started coming down with something over the weekend thanks to my snotty kids, and now it's a full blown nasty cold. Losing my voice, headache, etc... If I could be at home in bed, I'd be very happy right now.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Nov 27, 2017 10:06:52 GMT -5
Celebration: It was a good weekend. Relaxing. I'm not even sad to be back at work. The kids were starting to drive me a little nuts b/c they were starting to bicker.
Vent: As usual, I didn't get everything done I wanted to get done before the Holiday was over. Although, if I had it wouldn't have been as relaxing as it was.
Vent: December-January brings so many bills. I'm feeling it more this year than normal b/c I'm not expecting a bonus. Which stinks. But it's what normally happens when I get a big raise, so really I should have just planned better. But the bills and money is really harshing my holiday buzz.
Celebration: I'm glad the kids are back at school so that I have a little time to myself. DH is traveling a lot in the next few weeks, so everything is on me - Christmas prep, child care, house stuff... so I'm enjoying a few peaceful moments.
Celebration: I had a really nice visit with my MIL and SIL over the weekend. It was busy and a lot of work, but it was really nice to see our kids all playing together.
Celebration: We got our tree yesterday, and it's up! The kids put all the ornaments on approximately 4 different branches, but I'm leaving them alone. They were so proud of their work.
Celebration: I lost 2 lbs over Thanksgiving. I have no idea how that happened, as I ate everything within reach.
Vent: DH and I really aren't speaking. I'm tired of having the same conversation with him, begging him to keep his drinking under control and not ditch me for the whole weekend when we're with his family. I'm tired of him not paying any attention to anything I say, and criticizing everything I do. I'm tired of him asking for my opinion on his business, then disregarding the opinion that he solicited. It's not worth discussing anymore, because we never get anywhere. He thinks I'm a nag, and he doesn't want to hear anything I have to say. So instead, we've been one step above total silence since Friday. I'm trying to find a therapist for myself, because he won't go.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 27, 2017 10:26:36 GMT -5
Celebrations: We had a nice visit with SIL and her family. It went much better than I expected and we may go back to visit sometime again next year and go to DC with them (definitely without MIL though). I also have most of my Christmas shopping done as of about an hour ago. Everyone stayed healthy over the holiday.
Vent: I was irritated with MIL by about halfway through our trip. She was a bad example and didn't wear her seatbelt in the car. She complained about not being paid enough by her friend to dog-sit while the friend is at work (the dog is not really potty trained even though it's an adult dog), to which SIL and I reminded her that she's not supposed to be working because she is on social security disability and her friend pays her cash, which she doesn't claim on her taxes (so really MIL is committing fraud), and she does laundry and cleaning at the friend's house which was not part of the agreement (friends is only paying her to dog-sit, MIL does the rest on her own because she says she "gets bored"). She also commented to SIL that SIL's DD1 is "getting big" - meaning fat - although when SIL gave MIL the look of death, MIL amended it and said she meant tall.
Celebrations: The house is decorated for Christmas and looks so pretty, DS was pretty good all weekend and H really stepped up around the house.
Vent: Our downstairs toilet is barely functional - you have to flush it super carefully and jiggle the handle just right, then hang around and make sure it stops running. But we've lived with it for 2 months because H hasn't fixed it or called a plumber (and I have enough on my plate). So of course our upstairs toilet started LEAKING. OMFG. So yeah. Why did we buy an old house? Oh yeah, the charm. Leaky toilets are not so charming.
Post by erinshelley21 on Nov 27, 2017 10:44:10 GMT -5
Celebration: I survived Thanksgiving solo. We had a great time camping with our friends. I had a really productive day yesterday! Celebration 2: Someone is coming to look at the office this afternoon!
Vent: A 4th random person has said to DH: He I saw Aunt's house is going to be up for sale. That would be a great place for you and your family. DH filled this guy in since he was good friends with my dad and he said he has never understood why aunt has treated my dad and us the way she does. So, I told DH that at least we aren't making stuff up when we think she's being bitchy. I don't even know that we want the house anymore since we've been talking to MIL about buying her house when she builds in a few years. It still stings a bit though every time someone brings it up.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Nov 27, 2017 11:24:47 GMT -5
Celebration: Thanksgiving was really nice. I worked Monday and a 1/2 day Tuesday but pretty much checked out the rest of the week which was tough because I deal with our International team and they were still working. It was great being able to spend time with my parents but there is so much work involved in this holiday that it feels like all we did was make food, clean up and start over.
Vent: My MIL decided to come up to visit even though we split our holidays with my parents. This year my parents came for Thanksgiving and we’re going to DH’s hometown for Christmas. So we had two Thanksgivings - one on Thursday with my parents and one on Friday with MIL and SIL. It all turned out fine but I think my Mom was annoyed that MIL sort of butted her way in and made the comment that it wasn’t MILs weekend which I thought was weird *sigh*. My Mom isn’t exactly “the more the merrier” type of person. I also realize that, comparatively, this is not a lot of drama but my MIL can be very loud, repeats herself until someone acknowledges what she said (even though we’re looking at her and listening) and generally likes to be the center of attention so it takes a lot of energy for my introverted brain to deal with her.
The other vent is that my DH doesn’t ask questions. We had no idea when his mom was getting here, what her plans were, how long she was staying. His response was I don’t know, rather than asking.
This week will be a bit crazy for me as I leave on Friday for our International Sales Meeting in London. I have so much to do, yet I’m so happy to have a quiet house that I’m having a hard time concentrating on work. I think I’m going to run some necessary errands so at least I can knock something off my list.
Weekend was a bust. DD fell on her head last Monday at gymnastics trying to do a front handspring. Was fine afterwards, no biggie. Wednesday night they are doing backwards rolls which she doesn't do well. Coach was helping and putting extreme pressure on her neck trying to help her roll. To the point DD was wincing in pain. Her OCC (where your head sits on your spine) is out. Chiropractor is closed till Monday and no point in going to the pedi for a headache. She spent the entire weekend with migraine type symptoms and just miserable (Tylenol and napping did help). I got her squeezed in today at 10:50.
DH came home Saturday morning from friends. No idea why he came home so early but he wasn't content to let us sit in the dark and snuggle watching TV at all and was just a PITA the rest of the weekend. I kept telling him to go away. He wasn't helpful and just wanted us to go-go-go when all we wanted to do was wallow.
Celebration- I got to spend all 4 days with DH. It went pretty well. We had a mini date on Friday. He was a bit grumpy on Sunday due to lack of sleep, but otherwise good.
Celebration- DH decided he wanted a real Christmas tree, and I said OK if you want it go get it. So he actually brought one home.
Vent- The cat last year had peed in the box that the Christmas ornaments are in. They were in a cardboard box with the top folded in, but still liquid could get in. I guess it must have been on a low enough shelf or something. The cat is a huge asshole, so this is par for the course. I had cleaned them all up last year and re-packed them in a plastic waterproof box with a lid. When I got them out, I had totally forgotten what happened a year ago, and they all still smelled horrible. I tried to wash them again, and couldn't get the smell out. So I threw away 90% of our sentimental ornaments, and H ran to the store for more ball type ornaments. It's a bit sad, but our tree looks better since it's not all a hodgepodge of stuff.
Vent- I've already vented numerous time on SIL. She got in a fight with her dad. MIL has a cold and impeding surgery, so talking to her was like talking to a bump on a log except the time she interrogated me about DS going to OT demanding all the answers. SIL has decided that since she will have a stepchild, that she is now an expert in parenting, and DH and I know nothing apparently. She has decided in her little mind that she knows everything. She has decided that we are too strict, and every time DH or I spoke to the kids she interjected on how what we were saying was not appropriate. Things like me asking if DD should be carrying around a chocolate cake while playing (at her relative's house). I am thinking DD would smash it into a wall because kids you know. And she tried to make me feel bad about that.
Or when we asked the kids to stop at the stop sign and look both ways, we were told the 7 year old should know better. Or the time I was in the pretty much pitch black field and DS kept running, and I wasn't sure if he was going to stop, so I yelled for him to come back. She decided to give me a risk analysis of the situation and how it wasn't risky. It wasn't risky, that is true. But it was pitch black, and he has hearing loss, and I didn't want him out of total range of hearing us since we were leaving after this anyway. So apparently she is a saint who knows everything, and we are terrible parents for providing appropriate boundaries.
Post by traveltheworld on Nov 27, 2017 13:42:47 GMT -5
Weekend was pretty good. I started my 21 Day Fix plan on Saturday and am super sore today from the work-outs. DH is doing the work-outs with me and I'm hoping it'll give both of us more energy.
I finally put away all of the boxes in the bonus room, sorted through all of the kids' toys, and have everything well organized. I was also able to show DH that the kids do not have a zillion toys and that we should get each of them a present from Santa AND mommy & daddy for Christmas. Back story - DH was indignant that the kids would each get 4 presents (1 from each set of grandparents, 1 from Santa and 1 from us) for Christmas and was adamant that "our" present to the kids should be practical things like socks.
Post by sweetptater on Nov 27, 2017 14:02:59 GMT -5
Weekend was okay. My sister drives me insane, but that's par for the course. I ate everything and drank everything.
Celebration: We left my parent's house on Saturday morning so we could have a night at home before jumping back into the week. It was so nice to be home and alone. My introvert self needed to recharge.
Vent: DH is being a d*ck lately. He'll a) decide to do a project or b) decide that there's something I should be doing. The problem is he doesn't TELL me what he wants, just expects me to read his mind then gets pissed when I don't. Plus, his project are apparently WAY more important than mine. So if he's doing something and I'm not helping (because I'm doing other things that have to be done OR he doesn't tell me what he's doing or that he wants help) then he gets pissed. Better yet - he'll mumble something that I can't hear. When I ask what he said he'll roll his eyes and say "NOTHING" and walk away. He then proceeds to get mad at me for not helping. When I tell him that I had no idea he wanted help because I CAN'T READ HIS F*CKING MIND, he says that he TOLD me. OH. So THAT was the mumble. He's intentionally doing this stuff so that he has a reason to be pissy with me. I think it bothers him that I'm all "whatever" about it and continue doing what I want to do without fighting back. Ain't nobody got time for that shit.
Everyone is sick. DH is still sick. MIL is sick. DS apparently has a 103 fever. So no school for him tomorrow. And I have to leave town tomorrow morning for a 3 day business trip. Lovely. Cue the Mom Guilt.
Vent: everything I say to DH goes in one ear and out the other. I’ve had my book club for tonight on our shared google calendar for weeks. On Sunday night I sat down with DH to review our schedules for the next couple weeks since we have a lot going on. I reminder him of book club and that he would have to pick up the boys from daycare. He asked me to send an invite to block off his work calendar, which I did. So all set, right?
This morning as I’m getting coats on the boys we had this conversation. DH: so I can just get home at my normal time tonight, right? (Which is 15 minutes after dc closes) Me: Nooo, I have book club tonight. We discussed this. DH: Oh. But I don’t need to pick them up, do I? Me: yes you do! We talked about this. It’s on your calendar! This drives me nuts and stresses me out. DH: Chill. I just asked a question. There’s no need to get mad at me.
Celebration: San Antonio was great. We went to the Alamo and watched the parade on the Riverwalk. Walking the Riverwalk at night was magical with all the Christmas lights up. Got to do plenty of relaxing. Our room was beautiful and we even took a nap on Saturday.
Vent: My 5 days off are over already. I did almost all of the driving for our trip. My H was constantly snipping at me and he basically drove me bananas. I am at work and I work 12.5 hours today between the two jobs. Boo
Celebration: We had a great trip to San Diego for Thanksgiving. Beautiful weather. Lots of time with friends and family.
Vent (kind of): DD1's birthday was on Sunday so she wanted to take cupcakes to school yesterday. DH said he would get some and drop them off. He forgot. And I woke up with a cold this morning.
Vent: took ds to the doctor yesterday. On the way home he said his stomach felt weird. Last night, he woke me up sneaking in our room, plus moving around all night. He has been sleeping in our room for weeks or the couch, because he says he's scared. HE'S 14! It's like having a 2 year old again. I told him to get up and go to school because he didn't have a fever or throwing up, and he cried. Dh asked why he want ready for school and told him to get up and go to school, he cried. So he is home with Dh.
Ugh! I don't think he is lying, and he never gives us a problem about school and is doing great. He has good friends and his teachers all brag on him,but I know he's not one to tough it out or power through a minor ailment.
I have no idea what to do with a 14 year old scared of his room. He watched a show over Halloween about an ax murderer hiding in the attic until night and says the attic door in his closest scares him. I think I'm going to nail the thing shut, we don't use that access anyway.
rere, I remember watching scary movies as a teenager and thinking the Blair Witch was in my room or that an It Clown was coming up my drain. I would nix all the scary movies and honestly treat him like a 2 year old. Night light in the room and reassure him it wasn't real. And take care of the door etc.
Celebrations: Thanksgiving with my family and my in-laws went well. There was so much good food. I'll be happy if we don't have turkey for awhile.
Celebrations: I have discovered the wonder of Amazon Prime. I signed up for the 30-day free trial, figuring it would be helpful for the holiday season. Now I am reading about all of the perks. I had no idea Prime had unlimited photo storage, not to mention the video streaming. Are there any other perks that I am missing?
Celebrations: I have about half of my Xmas shopping done through online purchases. Now I just need to chat with my mom to figure out some gifts for my brothers' kids. She always knows what to get other people and sometimes she buys too much and gives me the presents to give as long as I pay her for them.
rere, I remember watching scary movies as a teenager and thinking the Blair Witch was in my room or that an It Clown was coming up my drain. I would nix all the scary movies and honestly treat him like a 2 year old. Night light in the room and reassure him it wasn't real. And take care of the door etc.
Maybe his stomach is still bothering him?
No scary movies for him. I think I am going to take care of the door, make sure his closet door is shut and maybe keep his Christmas tree on at night. He says he feels better if he can go to sleep to the TV. Not gonna happen.
Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 28, 2017 11:11:38 GMT -5
DS threw up at preschool yesterday. They claimed they tried calling both of us, but there was no call on my cell or work phone, so DH left work to bring him home. He had a little bit of a fever last night but was otherwise fine. I was working OT, so DH did ok taking care of him, but it still caused his anxiety to go through the roof. This morning DS seems perfectly fine except is stuffed up. DH bitched at me this morning that I was only going to send DS to preschool for my convenience because it's my day off.
rere, oh hell no to a 14 year old coming into my room in the middle of the night. If he his scared of his room he can sleep on the couch. and I hate to break it to you, but your son is probably lying to you or he is feeling off and knows you won't make him go to school if he throws a fit. He is in high school now it is time to start preparing him for the real world. One or two days of feeling "off" a year sure you can stay home, but you really to save your sick days for real sickness just like you would at work. I know at my high school if you missed so many days a year they would make you go to summer school or you would get held back and loose all credits for that year. You had maybe 10 days all year.
ugh. I am at work trying to understand someone else's logic and fix their work. It's confusing. Said person doesn't work here anymore and passed his work off to the new person. It is so bad.
My Monday follow up. DD feels amazingly better after seeing the chiropractor. It was so nice having a happy kid last night. I played hooky yesterday afternoon and didn't go back to work after taking DD in. I spent the afternoon at home alone watching a chick flick Christmas movie and decorating the tree. I feel more rested and more energized after 3 hours of alone time than I did over the entire weekend.
rere, make him go to school. Also don't let him get into the habit of needing TV/noise to fall asleep to.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Nov 28, 2017 12:05:11 GMT -5
This happened monday so I'll put it here: we took DS to his 2nd karate class last night and he participated and was so excited. He's never been this excited for an activity before. And he did a great job.
I wish it was cheaper, but I also think it's going to be worth it.
We had an awesome week at the beach. The house we rented was unreal - name something you want and it was there. Unusual.
My mom had a great time and hung with us for all our adventures including hours at the beach and on nature trails.
I also discovered a new show - The Good Doctor.
And I am done Christmas shopping for the kids - except something small for DD (probably a necklace) and evening out stocking stuffers. I really just have to shop for my mom. Excited! Even though allll of that means we are way low on funds.
Post by erinshelley21 on Nov 29, 2017 9:58:09 GMT -5
polecat8, I was living under the same rock regarding Prime. I'm addicted now. I had dog food delivered to my porch 2 weeks ago. Dog food! I used to have to make a special 20 minute trip to get dog food. Not anymore! Prime music is pretty nice too.