Friday confessions

[gault]

Let's shake it up!

[gault]

Bf sleeps on our (very comfy) couch a lot because we are both light sleepers and I snore. I wish we didn't have to do this, and it probably won't be permanent, but a big part of me looooves having the bed all to myself almost every night.

[doglove]

A snores pretty badly and I'm a light sleeper so I understand your dilemma gault. Often times I have to wear ear plugs when we sleep together. Last night I kicked him out of the "bed" (I say bed, but really we've been sleeping on the downstairs futon since Buddy's surgery since he can't go up steps yet) so I could get back to sleep because I couldn't take it any longer.

I know ear plugs aren't a long term solution (at least not for me - they become sore in my ear), but what about also adding some white noise to the room? A's also tried the breathe right strips, which can sometimes help as well.

I guess my confession is that I feel guilty for thinking thoughts of wanting to get another dog after Buddy passes this time instead of waiting and waiting until some inevitable time I deemed necessary to grieve. I just can't imagine having no one to go on regular walks or even runs with after he goes. London is very limited in exercise capacity because of his back issues. I might feel differently when Buddy goes, I don't know, but I don't want to feel like I'm trying to replace him or his memory. I've thought that maybe it might be good to just start fostering again when I'm ready and let the dog choose me.

This has been a tough pet year for me and A. Blah.

[doriswe]

I text new dude on Sunday telling him I am eager to see him and offered up this Saturday. He told me he'd check his schedule and let me know. He's not a big texter, but we're still doing the few texts each day, just no mention of his availability. It's Friday and no confirmation. I can't tell if he's just that spacey or he's not feeling it (although he usually starts texting each day).

The confession: as much as it goes against everything I think I *should* do, if he was all "oh, yeah, let's do something tomorrow" I'd shift things to make that happen. I feel like I should be all "ehhh, I made other plans cuz you weren't prompt enough" but I like hanging out with him. Dating sucks!

[kaneen]

Nothing from the guy I went to lunch with since Monday. The lunch was nice and he mentioned wanting to get together again but all week, nada. I just broke down and texted him asking how his week has been.

doglove I think you should just go with what feels right after Buddy goes. I think your heart will tell you what to do.

[chalupa]

doglove , I feel very strongly that Buddy would want you to have company on your walks. There is no right grieving period, and for you - I feel like you're going through it now anyway, knowing what is to come. Giving another dog a loving home will be a fantastic way to honor Buddy. 

[chalupa]

Confession: I took a half day. I sent 4 work emails, and that's all I plan to do today.

[tiramisu]

Confession: I was nervous to have the STD testing discussion with the guy I started dating and also to tell him how picky an eater I am since he offered to cook for me this weekend. It all went *really* well and I feel so much better about it. Enough that I feel silly for being nervous beforehand. So far he seems like a really good guy.


doglove I agree with everyone else. Adopt another dog when you're ready. You could never replace Buddy and you wouldn't be trying to. I think he'd be happy you are sharing your love and compassion with another dog in need of it. <3

[cuddlyevil]

doglove, I don't see any harm in adopting when you're ready. I don't think that Buddy would be angry, he would want you to be happy.

[bullygirl979]

doglove, I'm ITA with chalupa. I think saving another pup is an awesome way to remember Buddy.

[cuddlyevil]

I forgot to mention my confession: I stopped off for a drink last night at my local in hopes of seeing the guy from last weekend. I may have a small crush.

[neonpink]

gault, doglove, I'm catching up on these posts. If you snore or your mate... it can be really really bad for your health long term. It means you're not sleeping. My H snored so much that some nights even with ear plugs I would sleep on the sofa. When we lived in a smaller place I once slept in a closet. I was desperate. Anyway what I'm getting to is you may want to do a sleep study and see exactly whats going on. When he took it they found he woke up over 150 times a night. My H now has to use a cpap machine. It covers his nose, but the better part of it is we both sleep. He was turning into a zombie due to lack of sleep and it was slowly ruining his productivity at work, his energy and happiness.

[doglove]

I'll suggest that to A neonpink. The snoring is so awful to me because I'm such a light sleeper and so ill when I don't get enough sleep. I suspect A doesn't sleep very well because he continuously wakes himself up with snoring all night.

[gault]

neonpink, bf actually brought that up this morning. I already have a referral to a place that is not prohibitively expensive, so once the new year hits I check it out. Thank you!

My dad has a cpap, so I know it's a bit hereditary in my fam