Monday....ugh

[doriswe]

How was the weekend? Do anything fun?

[doriswe]

My weekend was a mix of good and slightly not as good. Was on call part of the weekend so I stuck close to home and cleaned. Had a weird interaction with the new guy and I'm not 100% sure where that stands. Had a house full of friends yesterday for our annual Elf party. Seriously, people were crammed in my living room, sitting on laps, cuddling and having a blast. It was awesome! Oddly enough, I ended up throwing up after everyone left...I'm not sure if it was from drinking or eating some carbs or what. Put myself to bed and am feeling better-ish now. Although, I could seriously use another day to sleep and be lazy.

[tiramisu]

My weekend was pretty good. Friday my friend's birthday get together was fun. Saturday during the day I didn't do much, which was wonderful. Saturday evening was date #3. He cooked steak and ravioli and it was all good. There were a couple of weird things so now I'm debating. He's nice and we have a nice time together, but once it got sexual, it seemed like he wasn't noticing that some things weren't really getting a positive reaction from me. Also, I think he might have a thing for feet. Probably the most awkward was when he, as we were laying in bed, told me that he can't fall asleep cuddling at all, so then there we are laying in this big bed, facing opposite ways with zero contact at all. It brought back some unpleasant memories. And yet still overall he's been very sweet. IDK

Yesterday I met a friend for lunch, which was really fun. Afterwards, I picked up a flatiron to practice curling my hair with it and made meat sauce for dinner, a like differently this time. I saw cubed pancetta at Trader Joe's and decided to try adding that. It was really good.

[doglove]

I'm sorry tiramisu , could you talk to him and let him know what you prefer when it comes to the bedroom stuff? Honestly - I don't like to cuddle when I sleep either, I'm too hot natured and get sweaty and can't sleep. Often times A and I are on opposite ends of the (kind sized) bed. He loves to cuddle so we spend some time cuddling and then I roll over to get cool when it's time to fall asleep. Sorry you're being triggered about the past though - I know that can be hard. Hugs.

I'm having such a hard time. It's hard to look at life left with Buddy as enjoying every moment. I just keep wondering when will be the time and the awfulness of saying goodbye and him not being around anymore. He's been so uncomfortable at night since we moved back upstairs to the bedroom. I am so happy we have our vet, she's always on text to help. She's calling in a prescription to hopefully help him sleep better. A and I are going to move back downstairs to sleep because he doesn't seem to have issues or be stressed downstairs. I feel bad, we sleep terribly downstairs on the futon. I told A to just sleep in the bedroom, but he doesn't want to leave us all downstairs without him.

Overall he seems okay. He seems to know something is up, he's not really his same self, he's like some weird altered version of himself. Not a huge fan of walking anymore, very hungry and still enjoys playing with all his toys. I just really don't want him to suffer or feel uncomfortable.

[cuddlyevil]

tiramisu, ITA with doglove, maybe talk to him and let him know your preferences?

I am sorry you're going through this doglove.

My weekend was pretty great. Friday, I worked late and stopped off for a drink. Saturday, I helped XH out with DD's doctor appointment (he has a highly contagious infection on his hand and was quarantined). Then I went to D&D and it was perfect-- at one point I looked around the table at everyone laughing and relaxed and just felt so happy. It was nice.

[tiramisu]

I mean, I can, but if he really has a foot fetish like I suspect, that's a no go for me. I don't like my feet kissed, my toes licked/sucked, and him putting my feet on his nipples during sex was...odd. I mean, there's a difference between "I need more of X please" and "hey, the things that seemed to turn you on do zero for me except pull my brain out of the moment." Part of me thinks I'm being too picky, but I don't know. I won't be having sex the next time we're both free see each other anyway, so that gives me time to think about it.

[tiramisu]

doglove I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know how much you love Buddy and how much he loves you. It is hard to just enjoy every moment and I think that's okay. Sending you all love.

[chalupa]

Some friends took me out for a bachelorette party on Saturday. I am not really the bar-hopping type, but I had a blast. My BFF drove up from Virginia for the weekend, too. Have I said it was a blast? However, I am too old to be out until 2:30am, and I swear I'm still recovering. Also, hopping on a mechanical bull after (more than) a few drinks made for some hilarious video. Heard on video just before I tumble off: "I ride horses, this is easy".

tiramisu I am anti-feet (mine are insanely ticklish), so I'd be turned off by someone touching my feet during sex. However, I'm also a hot sleeper, so I don't do more than a minute or two of cuddling before I have to roll away and cool off. No way could I fall asleep all sweaty and touching.

Hugs to you and Buddy doglove.

[doglove]

tiramisu I meant the part where you said he wasn't picking up what was not turning you on - maybe tell him what does turn you on if you decide on a next time? Hopefully the foot thing isn't his "must have" thing and he's receptive to you not being into that. (I agree though, I don't like that area being touched)

[udscoobychick]

((doglove))

Add me to the list of those who cuddle for a bit and then roll over to go to sleep, although in my case, it's because any little movement from the other person will wake me up.

I had a really good weekend visiting my sister! Her house is a huge, gorgeous turn-of-the-century craftsman-style home with both a garage (!) and a yard (!!), which is apparently pretty much unheard-of in the city. The house needs some TLC, but they're both pretty handy. Their current mission is to find style-appropriate furniture, since all their stuff from their apartment is from Ikea and looks pretty ridiculous in the house lol. We went out to an awesome Middle Eastern cafeteria-style place for lunch and made homemade ramen for dinner. And I bought a couple more Christmas presents, so I'm almost done!

[margarita]

(((doglove))) I'm sorry you're going through this.

My weekend was pretty good. I went to my BFF's birthday party on Saturday. The first portion of the evening was at a trampoline park, which was pretty fun, and then we all went out for dinner and some drinks.
On Sunday, I went out for a nice lunch with H. I also started writing and sending some Christmas cards, but I haven't decorated for the holidays yet. Hopefully I'll have time for that next weekend.