Week of Dec 18 randoms

[shauni27]

starryfish AHHHHHH!!!! so cute!

[daisyfay25]

Dec 18, 2017 14:27:50 GMT -5 dellabear said:

We have been dealing with a never ending cycle of illness over here. I really hope it's almost over. Today is DS' 18 month shots and I am on the fence about getting a flu shot (for me, not him, he will get one). I know they will ask and I'm finally feeling better and every time I get a flu shot I end up knocked down with the flu within a couple days. I really can't afford to be sick, I have DHs family arriving in Friday for an extended visit and all the rest of the craziness that comes with Christmas.

Also have to take our kitty to the vet today because he also is sick, not eating and listless. We're really worried about him.

The flu shot doesn't cause the flu.

[mpc]

You guys know that I really struggled with my milk supply after I did all that traveling for work. Around thanksgiving I finally gave up on trying to get it all back and decided to just nurse 3 times a day and give 3 bottles a day and to be happy with that and hopefully be able to keep it up for a few months. I've quit pumping at work (YAY) and I just nurse morning, noonish, and before bed. It's been going really well and I try not to dwell on bitterness about work causing this. I've gotten past the phase of doubting myself at every feeding and worrying about her intake constantly. But now I feel like H is second guessing my feeding her and it's getting me down. Last night she woke up earlier than normal and he asked me "did you breastfeed or give her a bottle before bed?" "I breastfed, like I do every night." 10 minutes later he says "I'm going to go give her a bottle." (As it happened, she fell asleep again on her own before he had the bottle prepared.) Then this morning she woke up while I was in the shower and I came out as he was literally walking into her room with a bottle. WTF. I breastfeed her first thing. Just pick her up and hold her for 5 minutes til I get out of the shower. Maybe it's all innocent and I'm reading too much into it, but I feel like it's undermining and doubting me. Oh and the other night he made a comment about how he would help more but I keep insisting on breastfeeding her in the middle of the night (never mind that when we started sleep training a few weeks ago I completely stopped giving her the boob in the middle of the night and she gets one bottle around midnight.) Ugh, I'm probably being kind of sensitive but I needed to talk about it.

[pooh8402]

Oh mpc I'm sorry. I do feel like he is undermining you. My husband, if I wasn't available right away (like a shower or using the bathroom), he would hold E and give him a paci for the 5 or 10 minutes it would take for me to be available. I think you should talk to your H for sure.

[thoseareradishes]

mpc, I don't think you're being sensitive. I'd talk with him - maybe he's not doing it on purpose and doesn't realize how he's making you feel. Or maybe he is, and you can come up with a plan on how to handle feedings.

[grover]

mpc my husband was the same way. Granted all A got was bottles, but he would start with the comments asking if it was breast-milk or formula. If he was asked with feeding her before bed or middle of the night, he'd automatically grab a formula bottle.

In our case, A was fussier with breast-milk. (She spit up both all the time until we got her on a specific formula). He also told me he was just trying to help bc he felt useless and also that he wanted me to get actual sleep/shower time/whatever (but I wasnt trying to be EBF, I was more laid back about it bc of both my supply and the not wanting to be attached to the pump for what felt like 24/7) even so, I was super frustrated that h was dismissing my desire to feed her breast milk.

No advice, just commiseration.

[King26]

I got my first pp period yesterday and it sucks. It's insanely heavy and I have horrible cramps. I was up 5 times last night because I was bleeding through a tampon and pad every hour. Of course j only woke up once.

In other news, my first week back to work went well and j and DH did well together at home.

[grover]

starryfish, Happy birthday S! So cute!

King26, sorry about your period, but glad your first week back went well. On plus side, at least you didn't get your period last week? Two months ago mine came back an entire week ahead of schedule and I bled through the pair of work pants during the school day, and then on my drive home I bled through my backup pants


A is not only 9 months old today, but she's been outside the womb for as long as she was inside! This month she started crawling and is a ton of fun! She also popped her first tooth this week.