Post by traveltheworld on Dec 21, 2017 11:50:00 GMT -5
I'll start off. I've been exchanging correspondence with my on-line counselor (with respect to my anxiety), so far it's been ok. He is very eloquent, which I appreciate, but it's hard to establish a rapport with someone via on-line messaging. We are going to set up a Skype appointment after the holidays. He did suggest anti-anxiety medication as a short term solution, but we'll see.
I wrote before about DD hating daycare. She is now doing better - seemed to suddenly have turned a corner. Still doesn't love it, but at least not actively fighting it like she was.
I had my year-end performance review. It went well. I'm always so insecure about my performance, so it's good that it's over.
My nanny got into the college program that she wants and will be leaving us come September 2018. It's a long time from now, but I suppose I should start planning in the new year.
Post by supertrooper1 on Dec 21, 2017 12:06:10 GMT -5
Trigger warning...
I shared a couple of weeks ago that my brother and SIL were expecting their 3rd and I was disappointed that they told everyone so early. She was only 4 or 5 weeks along. My mom sent me an email last night to let me know they wouldn't be needing our crib anymore because she had a miscarriage. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I could do for my SIL. I know when I had my first MC, someone gave me a plant and I appreciated that.
My updates: Baby and I seem to be doing okay. Doctor wanted to add an iron supplement, but I recently started eating normally again so we are going to wait until next month and re draw then. Still sick probably 3-4 days out of the week.
My SFIL is in the hospital I don't know what is going to happen. He has/had pneumonia and the steroids they gave him is causing internal bleeding. He is 78 years old and was a long time smokers. He doesn't have the lung strength to fight pneumonia on his own, but the meds are killing him. ugh.
I shared a couple of weeks ago that my brother and SIL were expecting their 3rd and I was disappointed that they told everyone so early. She was only 4 or 5 weeks along. My mom sent me an email last night to let me know they wouldn't be needing our crib anymore because she had a miscarriage. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I could do for my SIL. I know when I had my first MC, someone gave me a plant and I appreciated that.
I've told DH the last couple years I've been wanting to buy a simple Christmas ornament to remember the baby we lost in August 2015. Not a memorial specific ornament, or angel even, but like a simple bell or pretty bulb. Something that doesn't scream "this is in memory of a loved one" but we would know that's what it is for if that makes any sense at all.
Woot, I've submitted my final grades for my class and graded all of the finals! Now to go and take up a bunch of things that I have been neglecting....
I shared a couple of weeks ago that my brother and SIL were expecting their 3rd and I was disappointed that they told everyone so early. She was only 4 or 5 weeks along. My mom sent me an email last night to let me know they wouldn't be needing our crib anymore because she had a miscarriage. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I could do for my SIL. I know when I had my first MC, someone gave me a plant and I appreciated that.
I've told DH the last couple years I've been wanting to buy a simple Christmas ornament to remember the baby we lost in August 2015. Not a memorial specific ornament, or angel even, but like a simple bell or pretty bulb. Something that doesn't scream "this is in memory of a loved one" but we would know that's what it is for if that makes any sense at all.
I did this a couple of years ago. I had seen it on the PAL board that Hallmark was selling a Precious Moments ornament of an angel drawing a rainbow. They don't have it this year. I'll have to look for something similar for my SIL.
I shared a couple of weeks ago that my brother and SIL were expecting their 3rd and I was disappointed that they told everyone so early. She was only 4 or 5 weeks along. My mom sent me an email last night to let me know they wouldn't be needing our crib anymore because she had a miscarriage. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I could do for my SIL. I know when I had my first MC, someone gave me a plant and I appreciated that.
I've told DH the last couple years I've been wanting to buy a simple Christmas ornament to remember the baby we lost in August 2015. Not a memorial specific ornament, or angel even, but like a simple bell or pretty bulb. Something that doesn't scream "this is in memory of a loved one" but we would know that's what it is for if that makes any sense at all.
I think this is a really nice idea, especially due to the time of year it is. I'm sorry this happened.
supertrooper1 I've seen gift cards to spas and massages given. A day of pampering.
No real updates. Stayed in my robe till 9 today and went on a walk with Dh. Got Starbucks and bought the dog a Christmas present. My Christmas budget continues to escalate. The gun for Ds that was twice as much as planned now needs a $50 cleaning kit.
Dh has also locked one of the bedrooms and booby-trapped the attic door because suspects snooping of Christmas presents. Ds was convinced an ax murderer was in the attic a couple of weeks ago, so I'm pretty sure he's not going up there.
Post by erinshelley21 on Dec 21, 2017 15:47:16 GMT -5
I've been avoiding work/Asshole all week. It's usually a very quiet week so I took the week off to nap train DD and get her on some sort of schedule since she's not going to be go with the flow like her brother. Yesterday was successful, had me contemplating being a sahm for a while once my phasing out completes. Today, not so much. Lol. I'm blaming DH for today since he's home and wasn't yesterday.
I'm enjoying being away from work though because it's going to start getting crazy after the holidays and my brother is starting to freak out about getting everything done and it's irritating me. I get that he's getting nervous about being in his own halfway through the next crop year, but he doesn't need to question every move I make between now and then in a condescending way. He can ask questions for curiosity sake, but if he asks me one more time if my plan allows for enough time I might lose my shit. I've done it the same way for 4 years and managed to get all of my clients met with in a 6 week period last year. I think I know what I'm doing.
I started crossfit last month and it's been amazing.
I'm sorry supertrooper1, that's so hard, especially this time of year.
rere, when my brother was old enough to not believe and snoop, he found his big gift one year. So to spite him, my parents didn't wrap it or put it under the tree. He couldn't reveal that he knew it was missing without ratting himself out, so they enjoyed watching him squirm. Then they gave him a note to go find it, so he had to reveal that he'd snooped and found it. It was hysterical!
So far this week DD has had three play dates, one afternoon of science fair experiments, three parties (one we hosted), and is now at a movie. I may lose my mind just trying to get this one child where she needs to be/keeping up with her. And now that other DD got an IV cocktail she had me run her around for her friend gifts, and is going to her third Christmas party tonight. Only one more party to go for her. I have turned down offers for DS without telling him - poor third child but I can’t handle being social (he’s 5 so more “parents hang out” stuff) on top of everything else. I am kind of mentally exhausted by the three kids not being in school and it’s day one. I think this holiday break might kill me. I fell asleep sitting up when I was supposed to be putting on my boots.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Dec 22, 2017 6:50:35 GMT -5
2chatter, I'm exhausted just reading that. You hear that a lot on here I know, but sister...it's real.
update for me: We have an appointment for DD with the geneticist but it's not until mid February. Dumb doctors. Unrelated to all that she's using a lot of potty talk and threatening to throw things at her (older) brother all the time. It's really frustrating. She used to be nice! She's mid threes so I guess that's what this is, but she's EXTREMELY contrary lately.
In January the school we've been considering for the kids is having an open house and we're going to go to get another look at the school. I'm going to bring my sister since she tends to have more considered thoughts. I wish my older sister was still around. As messed up as she was with many aspects of her personal life, she had good insight into educational systems.
mustardseed2007, One of my favorite tips I got from a toddlers and tantrums class we attended was about potty talk. If they want to use potty talk, they can stand in the bathroom alone and say it all they want. It quickly loses it's appeal when they're not getting any reactions and have to just stand next to the toilet. lol
I posted awhile back that one of my engineering counterparts at my new was being a condescending jerk to me. Not sure if it’s because I’m new or a woman or if he is just generally a pain. I’ve focused on staying calm, yet firm with him and I called him out in front of people for the way he was talking to me. Since then, he’s been much more professional with me and actually not bad to work with. I’ll take it!
My toddler is harder than the average toddler and biting, kicking, throwing things at people is the problem. This is hard. I may go into more detail later but it's been really rough lately 🙁
DD’s first report card was sooooo much more positive than I was expecting. I knew academically she was meeting or exceeding the marks, but based on what we’ve heard from the teacher so far I was expecting a full run of “requires intervention” on the behavioral measures. Color me shocked when they were mostly “meets expectations “ with 3 things to keep working on. Teacher even had some nice comments.
I may have to adjust my attitude towards this teacher.