The sock situation is getting so out of hand. DD goes without most of the time but when she goes to horse camp or sports practice, she needs socks. It can take 45 minutes to find a pair she can wear these days. The seams have to be right AND there can't be any polling. But she prefers that the socks be character socks. We have a few pairs of seamless ones but I can't find character ones that are seamless. Are there any store brands that are seamless? Target, maybe, since they were advertising being sensory and other disability friendly?
Smartknit are reliably "seamless". The process is expensive; probably more than Target is willing to invest at this point.
For me, this is one of those "life lesson" opportunities. Depending on how motivated Char is to have character socks, she may be willing to work at being OK with seams for a time for the right character. These are the sorts of behavioral approaches we used to deal with sensory issues and help DS become OK with things that he initially couldn't manage. DS was very picky as a little; he lived in 100% cotton Hanna sweaties until he was 6. Getting him out of his comfort zone took effort on both our parts, but was worth it. He made Eagle in a poly blend shirt with microfiber pants, marched with his beloved bandies in a black wool suit and has been putting in 15 hour days in a suit and tie all month.
I get it, but it doesn't make the 45 minute meltdowns because none of the socks are "just right" any more bearable either. I typically have to take her separately now to basketball practice because DH is coaching and can't be late. How ridiculous is that? (Pretty ridiculous). Even the seamless ones she has are too long and she has to make them exactly the same length. It really seems as much like "just right OCD" as SPD when she starts that.
While I do like the idea of teaching her how to place seams in a more comfortable position on her toes, if you really want to have seamless with a character, perhaps you (or someone you know) could apply a small character applique on the ankle of plain socks if the sock is tall enough that an applique wouldn't end up being where the shoe would push on it.
She flat refused to wear socks at all until she was 4 and could place the sock seam herself. Then she wore them once in a while. Which she still will, but it seems to actually be worse at 7-8 than when she was 4-6.
I sympathize. Check out the reviews on Target's sensory friendly stuff online. I know they are adding a lot of stuff all the time. The designers at Target (HQ here in Mpls) are ASD Moms from my district. They are always asking for feedback from our support group.
DS still isn't tying his shoes. There are too many "no tie" solutions out there on the internets. And we have just now (at 9 almost 10) started down the road of him complaining hard about his clothing choices. Left to his own devices he'd dress like a (comfortable) hobo every day. But when I look around at his classmates, they are all wearing Lulu pants and C9 sweats. DS's NT friend had an epic meltdown about wearing jeans for picture day. Like he missed the bus and his parents had to take him to school sobbing. At almost 10 years old. "Kids these days" LOL. DS will wear the Target jeans that feel like sweatpants; they are skinny jeans and pretty nice looking (though they fall apart after like 2 months). If I try to get him into a button down he jokes that we must be going to meet the President.
DS tolerates socks OK, so no advice. But I can definitely sympathize. He won't wear jeans, buttons or collars. Well he will wear them only when bribed for picture day or other.