Week of 12/26

[MrsMB]

Soooo sorry luv2rn4fun !!! I hope you guys have a safe drive!!!! Saying a prayer for you guys!!!

[estrellita]

Ugh.. I feel just sick right now. We had a couple cards from ILs and BIL in the diaper bag. We can't find them now. They had a good amount of cash in them. I'm thinking they got taken out when someone took the changing pad out and they didn't get put back. We've torn apart all the bags of gifts, my purse, the car, nothing. I texted my mom and she hasn't seen them either. I really really hope we come up with them soon..

Also H is just being a compete jerk the last couple days and I'm over it. He opened a "magic towel" of E's and put it in the water instead of letting E do it and for some reason I've been super pissed about that. He's also just been making comments and such that have been bothering me. Idk what his issue is and I'm already struggling with some stuff so his attitude is very much not appreciated right now. I know we're both a little sleep deprived but come on!

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun I'm sorry

MrsMB omg, your boss is insane. I don't know if I could handle all the stuff you deal with!

[MrsMB]

Dec 27, 2017 23:16:19 GMT -5 estrellita said:

luv2rn4fun I'm sorry

MrsMB omg, your boss is insane. I don't know if I could handle all the stuff you deal with!

I hope you guys find the money (( I can imagine that is frustrating!!!

Thanks.....my Dad has this theory about her being unhappy and that my family situation exasperates it. I'm starting to think he maybe on to something. She's also never managed anyone before......AND admitted to me she abuses her own professional time. So I'm pretty sure she assumes her team does he same...which is false.

[awick14]

estrellita, I hope it turns up. Losing cash sucks.

Today was my first day back at work since Christmas wineandcheese, it sucked to be working again. Urg. It was just a bad day.

amaranth- we were gone for 4 days and my to do list once coming home is so long. And dh thankfully is tackling it around taking care of DD. But it will take me most of my next days off to get it done.

krystee- I hope J feels better soon.

((luv2rn4fun))

I still can't believe DD is a year already, this year has gone so quickly.

[luv2rn4fun]

Thanks ladies. We made it- 5.5 hours, lots of crying and little sleeping from the boys. They are in their pack n plays now but C keeps saying he just wants to go home 🙁. Also, ILs house is on a river and is not baby proofed. I have major anxiety about C escaping.

DH is with MIL for a quick visit to see grandma. She’s in a coma. DH’s uncle arrives tomorrow. We will all go over to the hospital at some point.

I will try to update when I can but am sure it will be sporadic. I think the plan for now is to be here a few days. DH has to be back to work on Tuesday.

[MrsMB]

luv2rn4fun I'm so sorry this is so rough (( continuing to pray for you guys!!!

[pooh8402]

Hey!

Christmas was good, just busy. I got called in last night, so that sucked. Ok have 3 in a row this week with only 1 day off, then 3 in a row.

My BIL and his wife bought my 2.5 year old a drum set. Like an actual toddler sized drum set. I'm pissed. I think they and my H thought I was joking when I said it's not coming to our house.

[pooh8402]

I'm so sorry luv2rn4fun. Prayers for your family.

MrsMB, what a witch. Is there someone above her you can report her to? I would be keeping records of your interactions with her and her admissions of abusing company time, because I'm sure she's creating a hostile environment for you. I can't believe she's not allowing you to take time to care for your sick family when you've got coverage.

[bk1]

So many hugs all around.

luv2rn4fun So glad you made it there. Keeping you guys in my T&Ps. 

estrellita I hope you find it! Ugh that is super frustrating!

MrsMB Your boss is unbelievable! 




MIL found out she has high blood pressure a couple weeks ago when she landed in the ER from feeling so bad. She has been on medication now and seems to have found a dosage that it working well. She text last night and asked if she could come babysit for us today so DH and I can go on a date. Woot! She also offered to take G overnight, and possibility for 2 nights if G is up for it. I'm excited for the break. G should have tons of fun and while she is gone DH and I plan to do a toy purge. 

[MrsMB]

bk1 I'm so sorry she landed in the ER () glad it's under control! You're going to get a fun break!!!!

pooh8402 I've started keeping screenshots of text messages. The problem is...we are a 320-something sized non-profit. She reports directly to the CEO. Their relationship is a close one...like they're friends essentially. I'm trying to maintain a good relationship with our VP of O, who is a former board member....hoping she would speak up for me if I needed it. Ultimately, I'm trying to find other employment in the new year. Trying to balance the timing of that from when I returned from ML...

Thank you both for being upset with me. I was so heartbroken last night To see those awards, only to be treated like some employee who abuses my time just hours later, was really painful.

[amaranth]

MrsMB Oh no, I am so sorry What a mean boss and so unreasonable. You don't need this kind of stress over taking care of sick kids. As if that isn't stressful enough...

pooh8402 Omg, I'd be so pissed. That is that kid of thing you ask permission to buy! I take it they don't have kids?

luv2rn4fun I am so sorry I hope you guys are able to make the best of the trip and the boys adjust quickly.

estrellita We have lost money before. It is such a sick feeling. I really hope you find it

[ewall]

Ordering a new rug pad. It's $109 at Pottery Barn. Plus $199 in shipping and processing. HAHAHAHA. Go home, Pottery Barn, you're drunk. (Ordered the pad from Target with free REDCard shipping...)

[ewall]

MrsMB, Can you get around text messaging her? Can you send an email or make a phone call instead? I feel like she might be taking advantage of the informal nature of texting. Although texts are totally discoverable in a legal setting so they still count! I don't know, my organization is quite different - I simply send an email to my boss that morning telling him that I'm taking a sick day. I also realize my role is very different as I work independently and no one is counting on me for coverage. But still - PTO is PTO. It's your benefit to use. Ugh, I'm sorry and I hope the New Year brings good things

pooh8402, Big fat NOPE on the drum set

[MrsMB]

Dec 28, 2017 11:14:03 GMT -5 ewall said:

MrsMB, Can you get around text messaging her? Can you send an email or make a phone call instead? I feel like she might be taking advantage of the informal nature of texting. Although texts are totally discoverable in a legal setting so they still count! I don't know, my organization is quite different - I simply send an email to my boss that morning telling him that I'm taking a sick day. I also realize my role is very different as I work independently and no one is counting on me for coverage. But still - PTO is PTO. It's your benefit to use. Ugh, I'm sorry and I hope the New Year brings good things

pooh8402, Big fat NOPE on the drum set

We do both email and text. Same responses really.

When I worked for a larger company, that was all I had to do as well. There are three of us in this department.

[amaranth]

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We ended up deciding to potty train S starting yesterday. It didn't go so well yesterday because she hated the giant toilet. I caved and bought a potty chair after she went to bed and she hasn't had any accidents at all so far today (She even pooped on the potty!). She has told us every time she needs to go potty, and runs to the bathroom by herself. I am so blown away. She isn't even 2 until March! M was nearly 3 before it clicked, and he still has a lot of accidents.

[pooh8402]

amaranth, they have one 16yo daughter. I'm also pissed at DH that he's not taking my side.

[luv2rn4fun]

MrsMB- ((Hugs)) your boss is so toxic. I wish you had a better work situation. So so sorry friend 🙁

estrellita- I hope you guys find the money soon and you and your DH are on better terms today. I can only imagine the stress and exhaustion of both the holidays and having a toddler and newborn combined. ((Hugs))

amaranth- way to go S!! I have heard that girls often train earlier and easier than boys. My step dads wife is a preschool teacher and was adamant about not potty training C before 3. It hardly works or goes smoothly as waiting til 3. I didn’t listen and it was a huge and painful process for us that finally clicked about 6 weeks ago. I will wait with L 😀

No huge update. The nurse said they stopped the bleeding so that’s awesome. But both doctor and nurses say it’s been a very hard week with two surgeries so they aren’t very hopeful she will do well once she is extubated. DH’s uncle just got here so they are all at the hospital while FIL and I are at “home” with the boys while they nap. We are planning to all go to the buffet for dinner but will see how things go at the hospital. Not expecting much since they were doing a CAT scan with contrast but also not planning to remove her from her coma today.

Boys are mostly doing better. Both slept decently and L took a good morning nap today. Both are napping now. I can tell C is having fun but I think he’s ready to be back to his normal routine. He has mentioned going home quite a bit which never happens when we are away (granted we normally go to my dads, which is somewhere he’s familiar with and isn’t far away).

[wineandcheese]

luv2rn4fun sending you guys lots of prayers.

Why is healthier options so much more expensive?!? H and I went to Sam’s Club and Shoprite today. (Mistake #1, brought husband grocery shopping!) We want to make healthier food choices but it’s no wonder why Americans are so overweight. String cheese $3.99 for a 12 pack (cheapest price and store brand), cosmic brownies $0.99 for a 6 pack. I actually really paid attention today to nutrition facts on what we were buying and how much more expensive it was. We did well at Sam’s Club surprisingly. H likes to break down the price per unit so in the long run we save but Shoprite, it was just crazy.

I made a bunch of freezer meals for H to throw in the crockpot on days I work. His work schedule is slowing down and he’s home more. Hopefully he can handle dumping the contents of a ziplock bag into the crockpot and turning it on. I did get a WiFi crockpot for Christmas so I can always double check he did from work lol.

Have a great Friday evening beautifuls!

[pooh8402]

I'm sick, blah. Another head cold, it seems like. My nose is running like a faucet and my head is stopped up. I was sneezing and blowing my nose all night at work. DH has been thoroughly unsympathetic.

I'm off tonight but work the next 3 nights. I really need to do a bunch of laundry but I think I need to rest more.

[luv2rn4fun]

Today has been a roller coaster. MIL and uncle went to see grandma this morning and she was starting to wake up, vitals were good. DH and I went this afternoon and same thing, although she isn’t waking up well and we were told it could be a long process but things were looking promising for the first time in days.

We just got a phone call though that the bleeding is back and they don’t plan to attempt to stop it. MIL wants to try everything but both DH and I are worried that it might be putting her through too much for nothing and going against her wishes. Plus the doctor didn’t seem optimistic at all that anything could be done. They all just left for the hospital. I am sitting in this huge house by myself while the boys are asleep and I wish I were with them.

I am also so ready to be home. L didn’t sleep last night and both boys are beyond exhausted. I have never seen C so tired and I feel so bad for him. Also, there are huge “water bugs” roaming the basement where we are all sleeping. On top of that MIL has super expired food. I forgot this and started cooking pasta for the boys...only to open the package and discover worms because it expired in 2013.

[HoneySpider]

This week has been crazy, I've barely had a chance to check in. We hosted my parents for Christmas so they stayed with us until Wed and that night we flew out to Chicago to visit DH's family. We're here until Sunday. It was R's first flight and I was absurdly anxious about it (not even sure why) but he did ok.

[MrsMB]

luv2rn4fun I'm so so sorry.....

HoneySpider glad he did well on his first flight!!!

[awick14]

I'm now joining all you ladies that are sick. If I'm not feeling better by Tuesday I have a rec for a chest X-ray. (The doctors think I might be in the beginning of pneumonia. Urg)

Hopefully dh and DD don't get sick as well.

[estrellita]

WE FOUND THE CARDS! I'm so relieved! They were in the most random place.. the top drawer of the plastic drawers we have next to the TV stand. Wtf? So weird. But I'm so happy we found them!

[MrsMB]

awick14 so sorry ((

[wineandcheese]

awick14 feel better!

I’m kinda sad I’m alone tomorrow night. My mom is coming over for dinner but she’ll want to eat early then leave by 7/8. H is working and I didn’t think to make plans for myself since I wasn’t sure if I had to work or not. Oh well, too late now.

[amaranth]

luv2rn4fun Your stay sounds awful. I am so sorry Huge hugs.

[luv2rn4fun]

They ended up doing surgery last night and she actually made it through alive. We keep getting mixed messages from the nurses and doctors. The reality is that she has had two major surgeries in a week, is 90 years old, in a medical induced coma for almost a week now, and might still be bleeding and/or kidney failure.

DH and I aren’t very optimistic she will pull through this. We went again today while the boys napped and it might be the last time we see her as we are leaving first thing tomorrow morning. DH wants to stay til Monday (and I am supportive of that if he really wants to) but we are also all so tired (C and L were both up a lot and C doesn’t want to sleep in the pack n play and kept crying last night...so far today is better) and DH has to be back to work first thing Tuesday. Traffic going home Monday will be chaos with everyone coming home from Vegas and surrounding cities from New Years.

[awick14]

((luv2rn4fun))