We are definitely listing our house. Just waiting to hear back from the realtor on next steps. The man is apparently enjoying his holidays with his family.
Any suggestions on what to do to get ready without being completely overwhelmed?
Post by supertrooper1 on Dec 28, 2017 14:15:28 GMT -5
k3am, we put stuff in storage to declutter the things we didn't want to get rid of. It was also less stuff we would have to move right away into our new place.
k3am, I would think putting stuff into storage ahead of time would be helpful. I would also start purging/donating stuff that you no longer need and want (make a detailed list for tax purposes for what you donate). I think all relators play hooky the month of December!
k3am, Purging/ donating. Pack things you don't need right now in boxes and put a colored paper label on it with the room it would go into when you move. Put in storage on or off site. Different colors for each room.
I didn't mention this before, but my mom and I have been fighting I guess you could call it. Perhaps we have constructively come to an agreement. I told her to stop telling me about my sister and their issues because she makes the kids and parenting seem bad, and makes it seem like they take advantage of her because she always acts like she has to work around babysitting them. When in reality she says they always double check with her and are flexible. So I told her she was portraying a negative view of them. I on the other hand am supposed to talk to my H about him being sensitive and annoyed when she comes. DH is open to change, but its hard to change your personality altogether. I also said he seems annoyed by me and the kids too, so not just her. Perhaps it is something he can talk about in therapy. But anyway, I think we have resolved the issue, I guess. These things are always painful but its been about 5 years overdue.
I'm so awful at purging. It does need to happen though. I'm hopeful I can convince DH to take the kids out to his parents for a weekend and we can just do a massive overhaul in a couple of days.
Post by erinshelley21 on Dec 28, 2017 21:08:20 GMT -5
Asshole still hasn't signed the contract. Our attorney said I can't just not pay him since I already have been so there's a pattern. He did say the non-compete would be tricky anyways since the policies are moving to a new agency. I told him it might sound silly but I don't really care if it would hold up in court. I just wanted it there because I know he followed the last one he had simply because it was there. Anyways, today I drew a big black X through the non-compete clause and asked him to sign it so that way we at least have an end date to this 5 year mistake I made.
My baby refuses to nap longer than 40 minutes. A week of crying for naps and I've gotten nowhere. Night sleep has gotten better though and she's able to put herself to sleep then.
Asshole still hasn't signed the contract. Our attorney said I can't just not pay him since I already have been so there's a pattern. He did say the non-compete would be tricky anyways since the policies are moving to a new agency. I told him it might sound silly but I don't really care if it would hold up in court. I just wanted it there because I know he followed the last one he had simply because it was there. Anyways, today I drew a big black X through the non-compete clause and asked him to sign it so that way we at least have an end date to this 5 year mistake I made.
My baby refuses to nap longer than 40 minutes. A week of crying for naps and I've gotten nowhere. Night sleep has gotten better though and she's able to put herself to sleep then.
Can you just fire him? He is being let go due to company being bought and his last day will be date xxxx?
Asshole still hasn't signed the contract. Our attorney said I can't just not pay him since I already have been so there's a pattern. He did say the non-compete would be tricky anyways since the policies are moving to a new agency. I told him it might sound silly but I don't really care if it would hold up in court. I just wanted it there because I know he followed the last one he had simply because it was there. Anyways, today I drew a big black X through the non-compete clause and asked him to sign it so that way we at least have an end date to this 5 year mistake I made.
My baby refuses to nap longer than 40 minutes. A week of crying for naps and I've gotten nowhere. Night sleep has gotten better though and she's able to put herself to sleep then.
Can you just fire him? He is being let go due to company being bought and his last day will be date xxxx?
I'm sure I could, but he is helping us with the transition. We've had a lot of changes (my dad dying) or issues (other agent leaving and taking half the business, another agent acting like he works for us) in the last 6 years, so we are trying to make the next 6 months as smooth as possible. We are paying him a nice severance basically to put in a good word to the clients that he takes care of for my brother since he is taking over. My brother is more than capable of taking care of them, and probably can better than the asshole, but my brother is also 25 and all of the clients this guy takes care of are over 55, maybe 60, so they might need a little reassurance that he can handle their business.
k3am, konmari the shit out of your house. Make your closets SUPER presentable (Google) and box up anything out of season or otherwise that you still want to take, but leave just enough clothes that you have an inch of space between hangers, and arrange in color order. It makes a huge difference. Rooms should all have a clear purpose, so no "guest bedroom slash sewing room slash gym slash office" rooms. Get rid of or store any excess furniture. We got a PODS type unit for a few months so they delivered it to the new home after. We also got movers, but we did the POD thing to declutter. Even after konmari it was amazing how much we had left. And most of the stuff in the POD could have been konmari'd too because we lived without it for like 2 months and only once did I wonder where something was. It was something like beach stuff because we wanted something for the neighborhood pool, so no big deal at all.
Post by judyblume14 on Dec 29, 2017 8:38:43 GMT -5
My FIL and his wife arrived on Wednesday. They are here until Sunday or Monday. We gifted them roll-up puzzle mat and puzzle of an NFL stadium and a photo puzzle of the girls. They liked the gift. And talked about how the subject of the Great Puzzle Fiasco of Christmas 2016 is still splinted in cardboard (ie-cardboard from the box that our baby's crib came in. The crib FIL was supposed to help assemble on their last visit... but didn't).
erinshelley21, I know he has the potential of being helpful, but I would be concerned that he would be the opposite, especially since you took out the non compete. With everything you have described I could see him bad mouthing your brother to his clients. However, I would bow out of the conversation. State concerns with brother and let him make the call. It is his business starting this summer.
FIL is still in the hospital, not because he still sick ( he is a little but not too bad) but because insurance won't cover his rehab that he needs to learn how to walk again. Hopefully he is out soon.
I have a double ear infection while pregnant. This sucks. I can't take any good pain meds and I can barely hear. So tired and can't sleep because of pain.
DS has started growling at my stomach while "playing" with the baby. It is hilarious. Also he tries to squish his brother or sister.
erinshelley21, I know he has the potential of being helpful, but I would be concerned that he would be the opposite, especially since you took out the non compete. With everything you have described I could see him bad mouthing your brother to his clients. However, I would bow out of the conversation. State concerns with brother and let him make the call. It is his business starting this summer.
He is required to take my brother to every meeting from this point forward so he will have a hard time bad mouthing him right in front of him. Plus, I think he would have a hard time finding somewhere else to be an agent given his age, so he wouldn't have anywhere to write the business through. Then after they sign up with us, they are locked in until the next year and we are thinking it would look shady on his part to "retire" and then the next year ask for their business.
I've basically thrown my hands up regarding this though. My brother doesn't think it's worth it and all I'll be losing if business gets taken is extra money for a few years. It'll piss me off because we are planning on building a house with it, but whatever.
TW for TTC talk... . . Had our first round IUI on the 16th. They put the fear of god in me about not testing early because the hcg shot causes false positives if you test too soon. But before coming to my in-laws I cheated and peed on a stick. BFN. I can officially test tomorrow but I’m like 98% positive it will still be negative.
erinshelley21 - what did you decide to do for work? I'm loosely following that your brother is taking over and the jerky old guy will be gone soon.
I haven't figured that part out yet since I have about 6 months until I can actually start working. I'm going to help my brother through the busy summer season since his first baby is due about 2 weeks before things really get busy. There are a few companies that I would like to work for and I'm hoping a position in our school corporation opens up since there are a few positions that are occupied by people that have been there almost 20 years.