Week of 1/1

[amaranth]

pooh8402 I'm still praying for a miracle with those embryos!

[melsamoony]

I too am struggling friends with @ related things after my miscarriage. I am so happy for all of you guys who are pregnant or already have your second sweet baby but I am having a hard time with pregnancy and kid related discussions.

[wineandcheese]

Sending hugs pooh8402 and melsamoony

[awick14]

((melsamoony))

[pooh8402]

Sorry y'all, I didn't intend to make this thread about me. I haven't been around here, or MMM, as much, because I've been trying to protect myself. I'm so happy for all of you, just sad for me.

((melsamoony)) and ((katespade))

[estrellita]

Group hug! For real, I hate that so many of you are hurting. Not that anyone deserves it, but especially not any of you. <3

[luv2rn4fun]

Hugs katespade melsamoony. I hope and pray you are both pregnant with healthy babies soon.

[MrsMB]

Jan 7, 2018 15:38:46 GMT -5 amaranth said:

pooh8402 I'm still praying for a miracle with those embryos!

Ditto...me too pooh8402 

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Jan 7, 2018 19:47:46 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Group hug! For real, I hate that so many of you are hurting. Not that anyone deserves it, but especially not any of you. <3

This is what I wanted to say as well. <3

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[HoneySpider]

Given the previous comments in this thread, I have to say I'm pretty surprised pooh8402 to see you've been posting on Got Pregnant

[pooh8402]

Jan 9, 2018 8:39:28 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Given the previous comments in this thread, I have to say I'm pretty surprised pooh8402 to see you've been posting on Got Pregnant

As an L&D nurse, I still have a professional interest. Especially when someone has questions about a procedure or something that her doctor failed to inform her about.

I don't have those feelings every day. The days I'm feeling okay about my situation (like yesterday, because I set an appointment with a new RE in case these embryos fail) I'm more likely to read and post on GotP. Others, when I'm feeling down about myself, I don't want to read about pregnant women or babies and feel like my only safe space is TTTC, which is slow now. I'm sure you understand.

[HoneySpider]

pooh8402 I understand wanting to have a safe space for sure...but GP seems like an odd choice given it is literally all pregnant women talking pregnancy all the time whereas WC is mostly other stuff with the random pregnancy talk here and there.

I mean obviously whatever works for you is cool. I really don't talk about my pregnancy much on this board but when I shared a big milestone procedure for us, all of a sudden everyone wants no pregnancy talk. I'll respect that but I think it's strange to ask for no talk on this board and then go and see the exact same thing elsewhere.

[pooh8402]

It really isn't you (at least, for me, it isn't. It's mostly facebook for me). I don't feel very down in the dumps most days, but some days I do. The day I posted my feelings in this thread, a friend of mine on Facebook announced her pregnancy, and her son is only 10 months old. That stung. She just announced last night that she's having a girl. I never identified GotP as a safe space. In fact, it's the opposite. But I can avoid it when I'm feeling sad.

But I get it. I just won't post my feelings here anymore. I guess it's not normal for me to be sad one day, then okay the next. Maybe I should just stay away from where I don't belong, like GotP. Cuz, you know, I have nothing to contribute since I'm not pregnant. Especially when my freaking job entails childbirth and high-risk pregnancies.

I would think that of all people, you would understand.

[luv2rn4fun]

HoneySpider- I can see how the comments above were directed at you personally especially given the timing of your huge milestone news. I personally didn’t see anything wrong with it and was so excited to see an update, as I am sure everyone here is/was. I think katespade brought it up because there is a lot of kid talk here (more so than pregnancy), which I personally take a lot of responsibility for and am sorry for causing anyone hurt on their hard days.

pooh8402- ((Hugs)). I am really hoping for the best for you guys. I also get the “sting” (although our situations are way different and I don’t want to take away from that for you)...many of my IRL friends are now starting round 3. I am blessed though so just try to focus on the positive but it will definitely be hard when I think about not having another because I just don’t feel our family is complete.

I also support the feelings of this board but will find it difficult to completely separate the two. My whole life entangles the boys as I SAH and have zero help. But I will definitely limit what I mention here for the sake of the board. I hate that you ladies are struggling and pray for many more healthy WC babies in the very near future.

[HoneySpider]

Ugh, I wrote a whole long post and GBCN ate it.

I purposely try and limit my pregnancy talk here because obviously I know it can be hurtful. I'm sorry I shared about my CVS - this is a very anxiety-filled time for us because traditionally, we have not had good results in early pregnancy. I needed some extra support (well, still do, we don't have final results yet) and I should have made a separate post for it. With how slow the board is, I guess it just didn't occur to me.

I am sorry that people here are struggling, truly I am. I would hope that by now you guys know me well enough to know I wouldn't intentionally try and hurt someone, especially with anything TTC/pregnancy loss related.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jan 9, 2018 11:50:48 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Ugh, I wrote a whole long post and GBCN ate it.

I purposely try and limit my pregnancy talk here because obviously I know it can be hurtful. I'm sorry I shared about my CVS - this is a very anxiety-filled time for us because traditionally, we have not had good results in early pregnancy. I needed some extra support (well, still do, we don't have final results yet) and I should have made a separate post for it. With how slow the board is, I guess it just didn't occur to me.

I am sorry that people here are struggling, truly I am. I would hope that by now you guys know me well enough to know I wouldn't intentionally try and hurt someone, especially with anything TTC/pregnancy loss related.

((Hugs)) friend. I think of you and pray for you guys often. A lot of us asked for you to share your results when you got them (and in this thread) so I didn’t think anything of it when I saw them mentioned here. I really hope you continue to keep us posted so we can be here for you. I know how hard early pregnancy is and that the anxiety really never goes away until baby is here.

[estrellita]

HoneySpider I can't speak for others but I don't personally think your news was the thing that set anyone off. I could be wrong but I didn't see it that way. I know I'm always happy to see an update from you, especially given your history. In my own opinion, I do think things have been very kid centered in a lot of people's posts (including my own, definitely not just one person) and I agree with you luv2rn4fun that it's hard to separate the two, especially for those like me who don't have much else going on. But I think it goes back to the whole reason this board was created - to be able to keep up with each other without baby and pregnancy related posts everywhere. Personally I think we should try the separate thread and see how it goes. If it helps even one or two people, then I think it's important. Again, this is all just my own thoughts and feel free to disagree as I don't want to speak for anyone, especially on this topic.

[katespade]

HoneySpider - I hope you know that my posts were not directed at you, either. The timing was a complete coincidence, and it was not my intention to make anyone feel like I don’t care or like they can’t post whatever they want here or like I thought anyone was intentionally posting hurtful updates. You don’t need to be sorry about sharing your good news, and you shouldn’t hold back from sharing in the future. Like I said, it was not my intent to make you feel that way and I’m sorry that I did.

[katespade]

estrellita - For me, there was nothing that set it off. It’s just a thought I’ve had for a while and kept intending to bring up. It was on my mind and I was on the board so I finally wrote it out and posted it. There was no straw that broke the camels back or post I was offended by or anything like that.

[katespade]

luv2rn4fun - I want to be clear that I don’t expect anyone to pretend like their kids don’t exist. It’s not like I think they shouldn’t even be mentioned or referenced or anything like that. I would never ask that of any of you. I just know that a lot of you censor your posts because you’re thinking of those of us who are sensitive to it, and those of us who are sensitive to it are... well... sensitive to the threads that end up being all about kid stuff. So it seems like it makes sense to split things up into two threads - One for all things kiddos and one for everything else. That way everyone is happy and no one feels like they have to walk on eggshells one way or the other.

[MrsMB]

Jan 9, 2018 11:50:48 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Ugh, I wrote a whole long post and GBCN ate it.

I purposely try and limit my pregnancy talk here because obviously I know it can be hurtful. I'm sorry I shared about my CVS - this is a very anxiety-filled time for us because traditionally, we have not had good results in early pregnancy. I needed some extra support (well, still do, we don't have final results yet) and I should have made a separate post for it. With how slow the board is, I guess it just didn't occur to me.

I am sorry that people here are struggling, truly I am. I would hope that by now you guys know me well enough to know I wouldn't intentionally try and hurt someone, especially with anything TTC/pregnancy loss related.

Hey Lady! I LIVE for your updates. Seriously. I just sent you a message on Messenger. 

[luv2rn4fun]

katespade- I know that’s not what you want either (or anyone else in the board). Hopefully separating between the two threads will help everyone feel more free to post what they want without hurting anyone in the process.

And while we’re discussing it...I don’t even think it needs to be said...but all big news should have its separate post...mostly so I (or anyone else) don’t miss something important that might get buried in the larger threads 😀

[melsamoony]

HoneySpider I am so happy and excited for you. My post was not AT ALL intended to be directed at you or anyone in particular. I have just been struggling lately as some of my few and far between posts probably show. I am so happy and excited for you and your family and I am truly happy for all the precious and special babies everyone has here.

We have all been on a special and unique journey together as many of us started TTC around the same time. We have all ridden that rollercoaster in our own way with our own personal tragedies and excitements. All of you have taught me a lot and seeing everyone with their sweet families and even some amazing rainbow babies really helps me when I am having a bad day.

I want to be able to continue to celebrate all the joys that life has in store for all of you guys and help support you all through the tough times.

I am sorry if my post was hurtful as it was not my intention. I was obviously in a not so great headspace when I posted and I truly appologize. You are all amazing women who have taught me so much and the last thing I would want to do would be to hurt you guys.