Tuesday things and 2018 goals

[bullygirl979]

Anyone have any randoms or 2018 goals you want to share with the class?

[bullygirl979]

I guess I will go first

My random: I'm beat! We've been doing non-stop family stuff since the 24th (hence why I haven't been here to play) and it's still going on!

It's also my first day of working from home (WOOHOO) but I had a 9am meeting at my office so I actually had to get dressed and go in. I show up and the woman I'm supposed to meet with didn't show

I am also wondering if chalupa posted about her wedding at all??

[bullygirl979]

As for goals, I really want to focus on self-care this year. It's going to be a bumpy and somewhat stressful year, and I don't want to let it consume me.

So, for health I want to routinely run and actually go to a weekly yoga class. For relaxation I want to re-engage in some happy activities like cooking for fun and reading.

[chalupa]

Oh hey! I haven't been on much - I'm wiped out. My only 2018 goal so far is to sleep and relax

And the wedding was AWESOME. Could not have been any better. M and I had a blast, and from what we've heard from our parents and some friends, so did they. Our venue (and all our vendors) really went out of their way for us and our guests. For real - the groom lost his shoes before the ceremony (left them on the shuttle we used while taking pre-ceremony photos), and the lady from the front desk of the hotel found and drove them up to our ceremony spot, LOL. I'm now eagerly awaiting our photos - we have 5 as a sneak peek (on my FB page somewhere).

We did have fun on the honeymoon, too, but I brought home bronchitis and it really kicked my ass. I'm back at work today, but still not 100%.

[cuddlyevil]

Hi! This is the mondayest Tuesday ever.

It's stupidly cold outside today. It is going to be frigid all week.

I am tired too, but I just didn't want to come back to work. I forced myself out on Saturday after my D&D group canceled, ended up at my neighborhood pub. I went in for a quick drink and ended up spending a few hours there and walking out with a new follower on IG and a pour handle from a defunct brewery in town. I kinda love that place, it's so random but fun.

My goals for this year are to take more risks when it comes to my relationships, I have been kinda hiding in my group of friends and it's stunted my luck with dating. I'm not going back to OLD because I have no real patience for it, so I am going to get out on my own more and meet new people (like the folks at my local, the manager may be a good prospect). I'm also working on stabilizing myself financially, losing my job hit me hard and it took me a while to stop the bleeding.

[kaneen]

Hi all and Happy 2018!

My goal for 2018 is to get healthy, both physically and mentally. On the physical side that means getting back to a regular workout routine. I have not worked out regularly in over a year and I definitely feel it. I'm working on mental health by trying to be extra grateful every day. I bought a wall hanging that says, "Start each day with a grateful heart." It's the first thing I see when I sit up in bed in the morning so it's a good reminder. I also bought a notebook of 365 beautiful quotes for each day of the year. Each page has the date on top, blank space, and then the quote on the bottom. In the blank space I'm writing out three things that I'm grateful for that day.

[bullygirl979]

kaneen, I love that wall hanging and your book!!

[bullygirl979]

chalupa, your pictures are STUNNING!

[bullygirl979]

Oh yeah, and it appears as though we may be getting married in June. LOL. Guess we'd better start planning?!

[doriswe]

Hey kids....it's been a challenging few weeks....lmfao, what am I saying, it was a challenging year! I'm totally ready to take on 2018 and leave all of the 2017 nonsense behind! I have been feeling incredibly depressed/toxic lately, so I'm trying to be very deliberate in focusing on positive stuff.

I'm setting intentions for the year rather than making resolutions. I'm focusing on trust and joy, which I feel like I struggled with last year.

[chalupa]

bullygirl979, how do you skip straight from zero to wedding in June??? Have you been planning for a bit? What kind of wedding will it be?

[bullygirl979]

chalupa, sooooooo it's a bit of a story so I'll try and give the condensed version. P's brother is in Jordon with SIL and three kids from first marriage. Kids spend summers with mom. SIL will fly w/ kids back to states in June to deliver to mom. At this point, kids may not return to Jordan but it'll essentially be a game time decision. Given how expensive it is for airline tickets, the only way to guarantee brother will be here (which we both want) is to do it in June or to do it at Xmas (which I do NOT want to do). We just talked to brother this week and discovered all this. To complicate things, P is going on a three week long Alaska motorcycle trip in early-ish 2019 and wants to get married prior in case something happens. And, no real planning done AT ALL. We really just want a super simple ceremony and only a nice dinner to follow. Not even like a traditional reception, so hopefully it'll be kinda easy?!?!

TL/DR: BIL is complicated and P may get eaten by an angry bear in early 2019.

[chalupa]

Ha, you know my vote is for the Christmas wedding

[bullygirl979]

doriswe, sending you big hugs. You know I'm always around to chat, right? How was the Xmas trip?

[doriswe]

Jan 2, 2018 12:13:19 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doriswe , sending you big hugs. You know I'm always around to chat, right? How was the Xmas trip?

I was going to send you a long email but it all feels toxic and I didn't want to do that over the holidays lol!

The trip was okay. It was really hard to be with my family that long.

[bullygirl979]

Jan 2, 2018 12:13:04 GMT -5 chalupa said:

Ha, you know my vote is for the Christmas wedding

I honestly would if I thought everyone would come. We are doing a SUPER small wedding and I think if we did Xmas, we'd lose out on some people attending. Although, if we can't get our sh*t together for June, it may be a winter wedding.

[chalupa]

Jan 2, 2018 12:15:20 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jan 2, 2018 12:13:04 GMT -5 chalupa said:

Ha, you know my vote is for the Christmas wedding

I honestly would if I thought everyone would come. We are doing a SUPER small wedding and I think if we did Xmas, we'd lose out on some people attending. Although, if we can't get our sh*t together for June, it may be a winter wedding.

I had 45 guests. We had 2 total declines. The thing about small weddings is that everyone who is important to you is on your guest list - and they will make the effort. And if they don't show? They're just not that important  SaveSave

[bullygirl979]

Jan 2, 2018 12:17:49 GMT -5 chalupa said:

Jan 2, 2018 12:15:20 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I honestly would if I thought everyone would come. We are doing a SUPER small wedding and I think if we did Xmas, we'd lose out on some people attending. Although, if we can't get our sh*t together for June, it may be a winter wedding.

I had 45 guests. We had 2 total declines. The thing about small weddings is that everyone who is important to you is on your guest list - and they will make the effort. And if they don't show? They're just not that important  SaveSave

Yes and no. For example, I'd love to have my aunts and uncles there...but I wouldn't invite my cousins. I don't want to make them choose between Christmas with their children and grandchildren or my wedding. They also have a cruise booked with my other extended relatives (which funny enough we were invited to) after Xmas so even if we did the weekend after, none of my aunts and uncles could come.

[udscoobychick]

The weather should be really nice there in June, bullygirl979!

doglove, did you end up stopping at a winery in Virginia on your way back? Which one, and was it any good?

I'm back at work after WFH all last week. I don't want to be back! My 2018 goals include decluttering and getting my budget under control. I am deliberately not putting any weight-related ones on there this year, because I always do, and I never actually lose any weight, so I've decided not to pressure myself about it this year.

[udscoobychick]

((doriswe))

[cuddlyevil]

(((doriswe)))

bullygirl979, the weather will be great in June! But holy cow that's a short time span. I have a friend who plans weddings and events up there if you need someone to help.

[bullygirl979]

cuddlyevil, yeah?? Send me their info, please! I mean, we aren't doing a DJ or photographer so really the only things we need to find are a restaurant or venue and then somewhere to have a quickie ceremony. Heck, if the venue was right I'd do the whole thing right then and there!

Although, I do have to laugh, P and I were talking and I actually said "why do I get the feeling this isn't our wedding?" which P agree with. When we said in front of P's family there wouldn't be dancing or a DJ, I nearly died laughing at the looks on their faces. You may dictate the timeframe in which we get married, but you sure aren't going to dictate what the night looks like!

[margarita]

(((doriswe)))

Omg bullygirl979, that is so exciting! Good luck with the planning, and if you end up deciding you need more time, I think a wedding at Christmas sounds just as lovely.

chalupa, your wedding photos are stunning!

Christmas # 1 is finished, and we are now getting ready for Christmas 2 this weekend with some extended family. Not to sound grinchy, but I'm sort of looking forward to getting back to reality, in a way. Some of the family we are seeing can be...a little much, and I can't say I'm looking forward to it. :/ wompwomp

[bullygirl979]

Jan 2, 2018 13:18:45 GMT -5 margarita said:

Omg bullygirl979 , that is so exciting! Good luck with the planning, and if you end up deciding you need more time, I think a wedding at Christmas sounds just as lovely.

Christmas # 1 is finished, and we are now getting ready for Christmas 2 this weekend with some extended family. Not to sound grinchy, but I'm sort of looking forward to getting back to reality, in a way. Some of the family we are seeing can be...a little much, and I can't say I'm looking forward to it. :/ wompwomp

Thank you! I'm not *that* stressed about it as I just want a nice day with P, kwim? I had the pretty, pretty princess day (and so did he   ) so it's kinda nice that neither one of us has grand ideas for the night.

And, I totally feel you. As much as I love seeing my family, having non-stop family stuff for the 10th day in a row is starting to get to me. I'm ready to lay on the couch and watch movies. I hope your weekend is fairly relaxing and fun!

[doglove]

I am glad our marathon trip is over, it was exhausting to be around family and have weird personality stress from different family members throughout the trip. BUT I WORE THAT GODDAMNED GREEN DRESS. Even if she told me I may have to take it off and change to my face.

udscoobychick - we did stop at one off of Route 17 called Morais Vineyards. It was actually quite good - they hired a Portuguese wine maker and modeled a lot of their wines after Portuguese versions. We were pleasantly surprised that the experience with the food pairings and hostess who did our tastings was probably one of the best we've ever had at any local winery.

In 2018 I'm hoping for a wedding as well. We're trying to get our financial stuff straightened away and trying to figure out how we can afford to do a wedding on a budget or if we want to just go elope. There is a minimum of 40 people in just our immediate family alone so a "small" wedding would be probably be at least 75 people. I might have to get creative with how to plan it. I would adore a Christmas wedding. That would be an awesome excuse not to go through this nightmare of a Christmas trip we just did!!!

I think 2018 will bring us a new dog(s??), which y'all have probably seen that we have the cutest new foster. A is in love. We'll probably keep her. I am just feeling a lot of guilt and feeling like I'm just replacing Buddy. I know that's not true, but I just feel inner turmoil of grief and sadness. I still miss him so much and cry every day over losing him. Ugh. She is a good dog though and so young so she'd be perfect for running and hiking once we can work on her fearfulness on leash. She's very sweet and cuddly and is our shadow. She loves to look at herself in the mirror - it's hysterical. She just stares and we say, "Who's that pretty girl??" And she just beams with happiness.

I also talked with the saint bernard breeder that I got my puppy from years ago and had to return. He has recently passed sadly. She said if we wanted another puppy that she would be more than happy to place one with me again. She knew a lot of the issues had stemmed from my ex-H and his insecurity and issues with Murphy. She will be having a litter at some point in the coming year. So IDK, we may have three dogs by the end of the year?? EEP.

[udscoobychick]

Jan 2, 2018 13:44:16 GMT -5 doglove said:

udscoobychick - we did stop at one off of Route 17 called Morais Vineyards. It was actually quite good - they hired a Portuguese wine maker and modeled a lot of their wines after Portuguese versions. We were pleasantly surprised that the experience with the food pairings and hostess who did our tastings was probably one of the best we've ever had at any local winery.

I haven't been there, but you're at least the second person I've heard good things from about it, so I'll have to try it!  And your new foster is so adorable!

[gault]

doriswe all the hugs and booze. I'm so sorry you've been feeling depressed.

[gault]

I have general goals: getting healthy and paying down debt.

[cuddlyevil]

Jan 2, 2018 13:11:21 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

cuddlyevil, yeah?? Send me their info, please! I mean, we aren't doing a DJ or photographer so really the only things we need to find are a restaurant or venue and then somewhere to have a quickie ceremony. Heck, if the venue was right I'd do the whole thing right then and there!

Although, I do have to laugh, P and I were talking and I actually said "why do I get the feeling this isn't our wedding?" which P agree with. When we said in front of P's family there wouldn't be dancing or a DJ, I nearly died laughing at the looks on their faces. You may dictate the timeframe in which we get married, but you sure aren't going to dictate what the night looks like!

I just pm'd you a link to her website!!

[margarita]

doglove, your new foster is so darling!

And I was glad to see that you wore that green dress! It looks stunning on you!