Have you told anyone you are TTC?

[noodleoo]

Brought to you by me dying to tell people! Just my sister and my BFF, but it is killing me to keep this to myself. I feel like I need someone to talk to about it. Which is probably why I’m on here so much. With #1 I was much more freaked out about the process and wasn’t really ready to tell anyone for a while. I was much more anxious in general about having a baby. This time around, I feel like I know I can handle it and hence I’m so much more excited! I rationally know that it is a bad idea to tell people because I’m AMA and who knows how this might end up, so I haven’t really told anyone. Although I think my sister knows anyway and she was such a great support with #1 that I’ll probably tell her next time I see her. I know she will be good about not telling anyone else and not asking too many questions.

So how are you guys are feeling about telling people?

[grover]

My sister came right out and asked. She knows our IF history.

My friends in my moms group know. As do a few good friends who are currently going through TTTC. My partner teacher came right out and asked me if I was pregnant, because I was vomiting from a stomach bug, so I was upfront with the fact that my doctor pretty much said we'd definitely need treatment again. (Side note, partner is a good friend before we were partnered up.)

I have found that it pretty much shuts up anyone who asks when we'll give A a sibling (A is only 9 months!) by responding with "Dr. says we will require IUIs/IVF to have a sibling, do you have cash to help fund the procedures/pay for my unpaid time off work?"

[MrsE]

Nope. Only this board... and I was hesitant to post here!

[seeyalater52]

We did. Not a ton of people but my sister whom I am very close with, my parents, and some friends. Because of appointments and insurance nonsense that required intervention from senior managers at my work, a fair number of coworkers know.

I regret it a lot, actually. It’s frustrating to feel like people are expecting you to get knocked up, especially when it doesn’t happen right away. It’s sad to feel like I’m letting my parents down because I know they’re disappointed. It’s annoying to feel like I have to share things I’m not quite ready to talk about because people ask well-meaning questions. I wish we hadn’t told anyone.

[katespade]

We’ve kept it pretty quiet, for similar reasons as seeyalater52 mentioned. We knew that it was probably not going to be a quick or easy process for us, and our hope is to avoid as many awkward questions and/or expectations about our status as possible.

We have shared it with a few people, though. I told my mom and H told his dad, since we trust both of them to respect our privacy about it.

[nellgirl]

The only one who knows is a friend from work. I tell her pretty much everything, though.

[mookie]

Absolutely not. And I I won't disclose a BFP for as long as I can keep it a secret. I'll only tell my mom around 12 weeks when I need to go in for a procedure.

TTC will be between H & I only.

[Jalapeñomel]

Everyone

[W.T.Faulkner]

I'm not really shy about telling our families or close friends that we're trying if it comes up. Since we've been married a year I notice it comes up a lot more often. lol

[TBD]

Only my BFF. Everyone we know assumes we are one-and-done, so if we turn up pregnant people will be VERY surprised.

[katie80]

We aren't actually trying yet but a few of my close friends know we're starting in the next month or two. We didnt tell many people when we were trying for DS a few years ago, but it's never been a secret that we wanted more kids and we're in our mid-30s, so everyone who doesnt know probably assumes we'll try soon.

I don't mind talking about it, but only if I'm the one bringing it up. My mother in law keeps giving DH "helpful suggestions" like "you know if she got pregnant in August she wouldn't be pregnant during the worst of the summer...." Thanks. I own a calendar. 😒 Fortunately he has shut that down. (and no, she does not know the specifics of our plans)

[pickel]

I’ve told my parents and a friend at work. I’m fairly open about it and wouldn’t worry about telling others if they inquired. I appreciate the extra support.