Is anyone planning a 2018 FET?

[scm1011]

We're planning a late summer/early fall FET. How far in advance do I get in touch with my RE? We have 4 frosties, and I really would like #2 to be a spring/summer 2019 baby. We're trying to avoid having another fall baby (and the extra year of daycare $$ it brings, Sept 1st school cut off here).

[janegold]

We might be in exactly the same boat, but we probably won't know until early summer because it depends on what happens with H's job. Hopefully we'll have a better sense by then.

We are also hoping for a May/June baby next time around (again, for reasons related to H's job), so if we go forward this year, I think we will target an early September FET date. I'm probably going to reach out to my RE in April or May to get the process started, regardless of whether we end up moving forward this year, because I imagine that I will need some tests redone.

[scm1011]

janegold, I was thinking about the potential of updated testing as well. April sounds like a good plan. A May/June baby sounds amazing; I'd love to have a warm weather maternity leave this time around!

[janegold]

Jan 11, 2018 10:23:07 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

janegold , I was thinking about the potential of updated testing as well. April sounds like a good plan. A May/June baby sounds amazing; I'd love to have a warm weather maternity leave this time around!

Right?!  I am picturing long lazy strolls by the Charles, lounging around the Public Garden, sitting at an outdoor cafe with an iced coffee, a book and a sleeping baby in the stroller...HEAVEN!

I'm excited for you guys!

[pooh8402]

I am starting an FET cycle right now... just started Lupron on Sunday.

I would get in touch with your RE about 2 months ahead of when you want to transfer. That will give you time to get on BCPs to sync up your cycle with the clinic and down regulate, repeat any testing that may be needed, etc, order meds, etc.

Bunch of planners in here! I'm one of them.

I had it all planned out y'all. I had my consult with my RE last May. I had 3 frosties. Transfer date was supposed to be end of July so I would have an April 2018 baby, about a year after I started my new job (so I would barely squeak into FMLA). E and baby#2 would be 2y9m apart. But none of my embryos survived thawing. We showed up for the transfer all excited only to be told we had 2 dead embryos and 1 missing. So I had to do IVF again this past December. Then I hyperstimulated again, so my fresh transfer was cancelled. I only ended up with 2 poor quality embryos, worse than my previous IVF cycle. This FET is the first following that IVF cycle and I'm just hoping one survives thawing.


All that to say... please don't plan too much and get your hopes up. I was absolutely heartbroken last summer and I don't wish that on anyone.

[scm1011]

Jan 11, 2018 10:36:01 GMT -5 janegold said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:23:07 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

janegold , I was thinking about the potential of updated testing as well. April sounds like a good plan. A May/June baby sounds amazing; I'd love to have a warm weather maternity leave this time around!

Right?!  I am picturing long lazy strolls by the Charles, lounging around the Public Garden, sitting at an outdoor cafe with an iced coffee, a book and a sleeping baby in the stroller...HEAVEN!

I'm excited for you guys!

Yes, exactly! If we end up on maternity leave at the same time again we'll have to do one of the above together!

[scm1011]

Good luck, pooh8402!!

If you don't mind me asking, what led to all your frosties not surviving thaw? I'm kind of terrified of that. I'm not sure I have another fresh cycle in me.

[pooh8402]

Jan 11, 2018 10:48:33 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Good luck, pooh8402!!

If you don't mind me asking, what led to all your frosties not surviving thaw? I'm kind of terrified of that. I'm not sure I have another fresh cycle in me.

No clue. One embryo was missing, one swelled and lysed (essentially exploded from absorbing fluid), and the other was just dead. Their qualities were 4bc, 3bc, and 3cc.

I currently have a 5cc and a 4cc frozen.

Thanks!

[scm1011]

Jan 11, 2018 10:55:38 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:48:33 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Good luck, pooh8402 !!

If you don't mind me asking, what led to all your frosties not surviving thaw? I'm kind of terrified of that. I'm not sure I have another fresh cycle in me.

No clue. One embryo was missing, one swelled and lysed (essentially exploded from absorbing fluid), and the other was just dead. Their qualities were 4bc, 3bc, and 3cc.

I currently have a 5cc and a 4cc frozen.

Thanks!

I'm so sorry that happened to you FX for better luck this time around.

I have no idea what my embryo quality ratings are. My RE never told me.

[pooh8402]

Jan 11, 2018 10:59:17 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:55:38 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

No clue. One embryo was missing, one swelled and lysed (essentially exploded from absorbing fluid), and the other was just dead. Their qualities were 4bc, 3bc, and 3cc.

I currently have a 5cc and a 4cc frozen.

Thanks!

I'm so sorry that happened to you FX for better luck this time around.

I have no idea what my embryo quality ratings are. My RE never told me.

Mine didn't either. I found out when I got copies of my records to give to my new RE (we moved). This go round, I asked specifically.

[janegold]

pooh8402, that is AWFUL. I'm so sorry you went through that. And one was just MISSING?! Did the lab offer any explanation or apologies? Best of luck on this cycle.

[pooh8402]

Jan 11, 2018 11:07:20 GMT -5 janegold said:

pooh8402, that is AWFUL. I'm so sorry you went through that. And one was just MISSING?! Did the lab offer any explanation or apologies? Best of luck on this cycle.

Yea, I had to transfer my embryos from my old clinic to my new one. No one, not the old clinic, new clinic, or the transfer service, had an explanation. Of course, all paperwork had verbiage about removing liability and such, so...

Thanks!

[janegold]

Jan 11, 2018 11:09:27 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Jan 11, 2018 11:07:20 GMT -5 janegold said:

pooh8402 , that is AWFUL. I'm so sorry you went through that. And one was just MISSING?! Did the lab offer any explanation or apologies? Best of luck on this cycle.

Yea, I had to transfer my embryos from my old clinic to my new one. No one, not the old clinic, new clinic, or the transfer service, had an explanation. Of course, all paperwork had verbiage about removing liability and such, so...

[shauni27]

Jan 11, 2018 10:23:07 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

janegold , I was thinking about the potential of updated testing as well. April sounds like a good plan. A May/June baby sounds amazing; I'd love to have a warm weather maternity leave this time around!

I thought this too, but I did not get outside the house for more than 15 minutes during the nice weather! Maybe different for a second kid, but I was just so overwhelmed and adjusting to motherhood I was home. I had all of these expectations of walking and running with the stroller right away but then my body was just not even ready to walk too much for about a month. Then I thought I would just lay outside in the sun while baby slept inside. HA! That happened exactly 0 times.

My BFF and I were commiserating that we both felt so trapped having a new baby in the summer because we never got outside to enjoy it!

[icedcoffee]

We don't have any frosties so no FET for me, but my plan is as follows:

-Continue on BCP for about 3 more months (through April or so)
-Pull and pray for a couple months to avoid
-Pull the goalie in May and see what happens through about June
-Get DH's sperm tested this summer and if it's bad put him back onto Clomid
-Hopefully get pregnant by early fall and if not...cry and consider another round of IVF.

I would also like a Spring or summer baby.

[icedcoffee]

One thing that is making me hesitate is that my sister is getting married in 2018, but hasn't set a date yet. I'd like to not be pregnant at that wedding, but also didn't I learn my lesson the first time that it doesn't always happen right away?!?!

[scm1011]

Jan 11, 2018 11:45:17 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:23:07 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

janegold , I was thinking about the potential of updated testing as well. April sounds like a good plan. A May/June baby sounds amazing; I'd love to have a warm weather maternity leave this time around!

I thought this too, but I did not get outside the house for more than 15 minutes during the nice weather! Maybe different for a second kid, but I was just so overwhelmed and adjusting to motherhood I was home. I had all of these expectations of walking and running with the stroller right away but then my body was just not even ready to walk too much for about a month. Then I thought I would just lay outside in the sun while baby slept inside. HA! That happened exactly 0 times.

My BFF and I were commiserating that we both felt so trapped having a new baby in the summer because we never got outside to enjoy it!

Ha, that's true too! It was almost for the best that my maternity leave was Nov-Feb, because I really wasn't super confident leaving home until the end of leave anyway. I think (hope) it will be a little easier the second time! 

[scm1011]

Good luck, icedcoffee. I probably wouldn't plan around your sisters wedding, especially considering she hasn't set a date yet.

[linz]

I had contacted my RE last spring and she said I had to get a SHG done (I had the dye test done during my first IVF, but they wanted to do a saline this time). Also wanted to run blood work. So I called when I got my next period and they told me which days to come in. Then she said basically whatever month I was ready call when I got a period.

I ended up getting pregnant on my own the month I had the SHG but the RE still let me come in until I was 10 weeks.  ***and I hope this does not come off insensitive adding as I know a lot of you will be starting cycles soon.

[linz]

Jan 11, 2018 11:09:27 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Jan 11, 2018 11:07:20 GMT -5 janegold said:

pooh8402 , that is AWFUL. I'm so sorry you went through that. And one was just MISSING?! Did the lab offer any explanation or apologies? Best of luck on this cycle.

Yea, I had to transfer my embryos from my old clinic to my new one. No one, not the old clinic, new clinic, or the transfer service, had an explanation. Of course, all paperwork had verbiage about removing liability and such, so...

Thanks!

Oh wow I'm sorry to hear you went through that! I also never knew my grade of embryos and was always surprised when people would post them on the TTTC board, but I never asked either. 

[linz]

Jan 11, 2018 12:22:29 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

One thing that is making me hesitate is that my sister is getting married in 2018, but hasn't set a date yet. I'd like to not be pregnant at that wedding, but also didn't I learn my lesson the first time that it doesn't always happen right away?!?!

Eh I wouldn't plan around that. I was pregnant when my SIL got married but luckily not too huge. I remember during our first IVF cycle trying so hard to plan around work and everything in life, and eventually had to say F it. When it's meant to be it will happen. I ended up being on maternity leave during my work's busiest season and I secretly loved it. 

[icedcoffee]

Jan 11, 2018 15:45:58 GMT -5 linz said:

Jan 11, 2018 12:22:29 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

One thing that is making me hesitate is that my sister is getting married in 2018, but hasn't set a date yet. I'd like to not be pregnant at that wedding, but also didn't I learn my lesson the first time that it doesn't always happen right away?!?!

Eh I wouldn't plan around that. I was pregnant when my SIL got married but luckily not too huge. I remember during our first IVF cycle trying so hard to plan around work and everything in life, and eventually had to say F it. When it's meant to be it will happen. I ended up being on maternity leave during my work's busiest season and I secretly loved it. 

I know---you are so right and we probably won't.  In an ideal world, I would plan around it, but not in the world I live in where it took me 2 years to get pregnant with DS.

[midwest07]

If this timeline is helpful to anyone here it is - I am due early April the result of an FET was was around July 20 last year.

I started BCP in June and then started estrogen/progesterone July 1. Lupron wasn't part of my protocol.

My RE has me repeat a saline sono since she didn't do my transfer with our first and just in case things had "changed" since having a child.

I had a failed transfer in late March so I basically just had to call and let them know when we wanted to try again so it went pretty quickly for the summer transfer. I think for the March transfer, I had called the beginning of January to get started.

Good luck everyone!

[scm1011]

That's helpful, thanks midwest07!

[knx9211]

I just wanna come in and say meeeeee!!!!!! But not until way later in the year.

[cherryvalance]

I'm planning another cycle as we'd like a second child and need to move quickly. We're looking at hopefully cycling in June/July for a baby...whenever. We have no frosties left, so we'll be going through the whole rigmarole again.

I was out with DS at a week and a half, lol, so I imagine it will be easier with a second, so a spring or another summer baby sounds awesome. If you have care options for DS, that might be a consideration for you.

pooh8402, I never knew the whole story. Omg, that's awful. I'm so very sorry.

[oneslybookworm]

Reading all this makes me want to give IVF another try, but...yeah...that'd be a waste of money. Good luck ladies!

[loira]

Not me but wanted to wish everyone good luck!