Finally Friday!!!

[chalupa]

Woohoo Friday! And the start of another long weekend for me (off on Monday). 

We still have not de-Christmas'd the house. I started to take ornaments off the tree and M looked so sad and asked if we could keep them up for just a while longer, LOL. However, now I'm just ready to have space back in the house and get the corners of the room dusted/mopped. 

We're getting flooding rains today which are going to turn into a lovely coat of ice in time for the evening commute, and then change over to maaaaybe 6" of snow. You'd think the world was going to end - no salt or gallons of milk to be found (whatever, I only wanted more seltzer water last night, anyhow!). 

[doglove]

TGIF for real, this week has been so difficult to get through. A is taking London into the vet today to basically determine if he can be helped or if we're at the end with no coming back. Our normal vet is sick so he has to see someone who's unfamiliar with our case, which is fine I'm sure everyone at the practice is good.

We'll adopt Miss Penny next weekend, in everything going on with London I asked our dog coordinator if that was okay to wait and she said that's fine. Thank goodness for Penny.

I have a three day weekend this weekend too and looking forward to some much needed rest.

[doglove]

Ice and then 6 inches of snow chalupa?? Yuck!

[cuddlyevil]

We're getting ice and snow today too. I have gotten three calls from the kids school already.

Tonight I am going to see Waitress! Tomorrow, I'll probably not do anything.

[chalupa]

((((doglove))))

[bullygirl979]

doglove, what's wrong with London? I'm sorry I'm happy about Penny, though. Congrats. She's a doll.

[bullygirl979]

TGIFFFFFFFF.

I just got back from a work trip. I am SO happy about the upcoming three day weekend. I plan on finishing painting my bathroom and putting it back together.

P and I have been talking about eloping. Part of me thinks it's a fabulous idea. Part of me wonders if I would be sad about not celebrating with family.

[doglove]

Jan 12, 2018 9:50:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doglove , what's wrong with London? I'm sorry I'm happy about Penny, though. Congrats. She's a doll.

The short answer is that we don't know. Back in May he probably ruptured a disk in his back. It took months and a lot of meds, but he probably recovered about 90%. In August, he was attacked at the vet when we were in Texas and had a fall and then regressed back to meds. He has not been the same since, but ever since Buddy has passed he has been declining in the ability to walk. All his muscles in his back legs have atrophied and this week he has not been able to walk at all or put weight on the back left leg. They are not sure if it's painful or if it's nerve damage that just can't be repaired. 

[kaneen]

I'm so sorry about London doglove. You've had more than your share of horrible to deal with in regards to pets lately.

I'm finally home. One of my coworkers is being really really pushy about getting time with me to work on deals that are NOT urgent. I'm going to have to have a very frank conversation with him. But not today. Today I need to catch up from my crazy week.

I plan to have no plans this weekend. I actually have Monday off as well and a long weekend is exactly what I need.

[doglove]

Thanks kaneen.

[doglove]

Jan 12, 2018 9:53:16 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

P and I have been talking about eloping. Part of me thinks it's a fabulous idea. Part of me wonders if I would be sad about not celebrating with family.

I thought y'all were going to have a wedding? I can understand where you're coming from because we've talked about doing both and how easy it would be to just go elope (and it might come down to a financial decision that we'll have to chose that option), but there's something about having the chance to do it over again it actually be right that I want my family and friends to be there to celebrate with me. 

[bullygirl979]

Jan 12, 2018 10:04:21 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jan 12, 2018 9:50:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

doglove , what's wrong with London? I'm sorry I'm happy about Penny, though. Congrats. She's a doll.

The short answer is that we don't know. Back in May he probably ruptured a disk in his back. It took months and a lot of meds, but he probably recovered about 90%. In August, he was attacked at the vet when we were in Texas and had a fall and then regressed back to meds. He has not been the same since, but ever since Buddy has passed he has been declining in the ability to walk. All his muscles in his back legs have atrophied and this week he has not been able to walk at all or put weight on the back left leg. They are not sure if it's painful or if it's nerve damage that just can't be repaired. 

Oh my god. I'm so sorry. I hope the vet gives you good news Sending you guys big hugs.

[bullygirl979]

Jan 12, 2018 10:31:14 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jan 12, 2018 9:53:16 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

P and I have been talking about eloping. Part of me thinks it's a fabulous idea. Part of me wonders if I would be sad about not celebrating with family.

I thought y'all were going to have a wedding? I can understand where you're coming from because we've talked about doing both and how easy it would be to just go elope (and it might come down to a financial decision that we'll have to chose that option), but there's something about having the chance to do it over again it actually be right that I want my family and friends to be there to celebrate with me. 

I'm torn. This is way unromantic but in a lot of ways, I don't care about the wedding. I had the huge pretty pretty princess day and at the end of the day, I realized I was focused on the wrong stuff. I was focused on the wedding, not the marriage. I knew I was marrying P within a month of dating (doriswe is my witness to that, haha). I want to get married for super practical and unromantic reasons. I want to be 1000% sure he makes my life decisions. I want to know that he will legally be entitled to all of my assets should something happen to me.

If I could truly have the wedding the way I want it, I think I'd be more inclined to do it. But already it feels...like drama (?) because we are tied to certain dates, inviting certain people, blah blah blah. I feel like I've been non-stop stressed since May. This just feels like more stress, not like something fun and exciting. Hence, eloping = way to not be stressed.

[doglove]

Thanks bullygirl979, I don't know that there's really any "good" news to be had as he won't get better, but I am keeping my fingers crossed that this isn't the end yet.

Why can't you just plan the wedding you want and not worry about anyone else? It's hard and you have to have a firm boundary of "this is what is happening" but with my first wedding we just left everyone out of the planning and told them the details when we sent the invites/STDs. Whoever showed up, showed up. Who couldn't make it, couldn't make it.

[bullygirl979]

doglove, ugh. I thought maybe they could find something to help him. I'm sending so many good thoughts your way!!!

I wouldn't feel as bad if his brother couldn't make it. But, I mentioned to my mom that we were considering only inviting siblings and not nieces/nephews. My mom said my nieces were crushed when they weren't invited to my nephew's wedding a few years back. There are some people that I'm all "oh well!" if they are hurt but part of me can't bear to crush my nieces' feelings.

[doriswe]

bullygirl979, *I* have a vision for your wedding...you and P with a handful of important people in a short but very sentimental ceremony (probably a little crying) followed by a fabulous meal. Probably some candles and heartfelt toasts. Small, warm and completely intimate.

I get trying to avoid the stress and eloping, but I think it IS important to both of you to have the people you love there to celebrate this beautiful occasion. I think you'd be sad, looking back, if you actually did it cuz I know you Are there ways to have it both ways if you think outside the box? Could you live stream it to the family who can't be present? Can you get someone to take a video so people can watch at a later date and time? Can you celebrate with your nieces in different way and explain why it was a very small wedding?

Thing is the people who love you WILL understand and support you and your wishes.

[doglove]

I think you meant bullygirl979 doriswe!!

[doriswe]

Jan 12, 2018 11:41:10 GMT -5 doglove said:

I think you meant bullygirl979 doriswe !!

Ooopps!!! Fixed it

[TR]

bullygirl979 - I just lurk over here, but as someone who just semi-eloped, I can highly recommend the immediate family only in an interesting place deal. Now, we were lucky in that I'm an only child so I just had my mom & dad there (stepmom stayed back with my half-siblings I'm not close to) and H just had his mom, dad, younger sister, older sister, BIL, niece (who performed our ceremony) and two nephews. So a total of 10 guests at the ceremony and then we just had dinner at a nice restaurant in town. It was perfect and lovely and I ADORED the lack of decision making involved, lol.

[tiramisu]

Today the Sudafed is making me jittery. Fun! I'm looking forward to a three-day weekend. Tonight I'm getting a mani-pedi and that's my only plan so far.


Everyone who's getting ice and snow, be safe out there!


doglove I hope you guys have more time with London.

bullygirl979 I agree that it's important to think about what YOU want. Not what family says, not what guilt says, but what you and P want. I think looking into options like a livestream or recording it are good. Most of my family was unable to attend my wedding because we held it in my current state and they either weren't able to travel due to health or finances, so we ended up hiring a videographer so that those who wanted to see it would be able to. Not the same, but it was the best I could do. In the end, it's about you and P, not everyone else. Do what feels right got you as a couple and set those boundaries.

[kaneen]

TR, I saw your pictures over on ML and holy shit - GORGEOUS!

[bullygirl979]

doriswe and TR, our "immediate" family wedding is still like 45 people. I think I just need to get over the fact that we aren't going to have a small family affair. There's just too many people.

[doglove]

Jan 12, 2018 13:47:22 GMT -5 TR said:

bullygirl979 - I just lurk over here, but as someone who just semi-eloped, I can highly recommend the immediate family only in an interesting place deal. Now, we were lucky in that I'm an only child so I just had my mom & dad there (stepmom stayed back with my half-siblings I'm not close to) and H just had his mom, dad, younger sister, older sister, BIL, niece (who performed our ceremony) and two nephews. So a total of 10 guests at the ceremony and then we just had dinner at a nice restaurant in town. It was perfect and lovely and I ADORED the lack of decision making involved, lol.

Your photos were beautiful!

[udscoobychick]

((doglove)) I hope you can have some more quality time with L
bullygirl979, weddings are tough. I hope you can come up with a compromise that you are happy with.

I sort of have a 3-day weekend...it's my normal Friday off, but I'm working Monday. DH and I went out for Mexican, and then I de-Christmased the house. DH was very happy about that lol. It's going to be a quiet weekend here...I'm going to the gliding club meeting with DH tomorrow, and we'll probably check out a few wineries or breweries on the way back. I'm debating going to see "The Greatest Showman" with some of the ladies from the studio. Sunday, I'll be teaching/practicing/taking class for like 5 hours, so I hope my shoulder heals by then (I pulled something last night).