Post by justcheckingin73 on Jan 30, 2018 10:37:05 GMT -5
1. Yes, although it’s usually sad shows or sad news stories. If I’m feeling like a complete loser or having a really bad day, I will usually lock myself in the bathroom and cry there. I feel like there is a big distinction there.
2. I’ve never seen my Dad cry. My Mom was similar to me in that she would cry over sad shows, movies, news events but I never saw her cry for any other reason, other than when my grandpa died.
Post by HeartofCheese on Jan 30, 2018 10:50:37 GMT -5
1. I've cried in front of them when I'm so moved because I love them so much and I've also cried with them when they're going through something and they're breaking my damn heart. I also cry with them during movies. Realizing I may be a crier. But when I'm going through something (bad), I try not to cry so I don't freak them out. Basically, if I can't verbalize what I'm feeling, I won't show it.
2. My mom is more of an angry person, so not a lot of crying. My dad tends to become a hermit when he gets emotional, but he has cried a couple times in front of me and it was very moving. But when I was kid, if they got too emotional it freaked me out.
1. I am a cryer, so yes. Most often while reading to DD at night. I'm really pathetic, I'd say it happens at least once a week. Rosie Revere Engineer? We gave it away because it made me cry (and it is decidedly NOT a sad book. BUT HOW COULD HER FAMILY AND PEOPLE IN HER LIFE MAKE FUN OF HER AND HER DREAMS WHEN SHE WAS TRYING SO HARD! AND THEN HER AUNT...) The Giving Tree? Every time. If I Could Keep You Little? I've learned to power through it. I was recently caught off guard by The Most Thankful Thing. DH occasionally will witness the crying story reading and we just laugh about it.
2. My mom is also a cryer. I used to make fun of her for it, and then I became her.
ETA: I may or may not be crying after feeling the need to read an article about crying while reading The Giving Tree. I'm such a ninny.
ETA2: I should also clarify that this is tearing up/tears, not like full on sobbing or anything like that.
1. I try really hard not to. If it’s an emotional thing where I think I might cry, I tell the kids ahead of time that I’m going to be so happy and proud that I might cry, just so they know it’s not bad.
2. Not until I was a teenager. Then occasionally my mom would get so pissed at me when we were fighting that she would cry.
1. Not often. DS struggles with emotions and will ask for weeks if you are ok if he sees you crying. But it has occasionally happened, usually at medical stuff when I am just so damn overwhelmed with it all or scared. 2. A few times when I was younger but usually with a death. I have never seen my dad cry. A few times when I was older I wish my Mom would have cried in front of me and shown me her emotion instead of trying to be so brave/strong or running away to do it. I wish she would let me in.
1. Yes because I cry at almost everything. Something sad? Yes. Something cute that the kids did? Yes. When I'm proud of the kids or DH? Yes. I cried through my wedding even though I was really happy that day!
2. My mom cries like me. It is a family trait. (I've seen my brothers do it too!) My dad will get teary (like at his parents' funerals), but I've never seen him really cry.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 30, 2018 11:31:04 GMT -5
1. Yes, I cry in front of them. I am very much a crier. Mostly when I am mad or frustrated, which is something I don't love about myself. I've cried in front of way too many people I don't want to cry in front of, my kids being one of them. But, so far, they are the only 2 people to make me cry happy tears, with when DH proposed and the day we got married being the exceptions. 2. My mom is also a crier. The first time I saw my dad cry was when he told me his dad died. The only other time I saw him cry was when we had a heart to heart one night over drinks and music and he started talking about how wrecked he would be when his mom died. As much as I miss him, that is one event I am not sad he missed because I wouldn't have been able to handle it.
1. The kids already know I’m a flaming liberal with a big social justice bend - anything emotional in that vein will make me tear up. At the women’s march DD hugged me when the speaker talked about little girls who grow up to be agents of change because they were shown a world that they could not accept. I’m tearing up typing that out.
2. My Dad cried when I came back from Australia. He also cried when he handed me his will and told me I had to be executor. My mom cried a lot more because she’s mentally ill.
1. I try not to. Especially if they are the ones who made me cry, or if their dad is the reason I am crying. I usually go cry in my room. DS saw me cry once because I was so frustrated with him. His dad came up and took over and I went downstairs and starting crying then DH called me upstairs so DS could say he was sorry. DS saw me crying and looked DH and said, Make her stop. Make her stop crying. Then he sobbed on my shoulder until we both calmed down. I don't care if SS1 and SS2 see me cry because DS is being a monster. I just figure birth control and also when they are a parent they will remember it can be hard and no one is perfect. When they caused it, though I have never let them see.
2. I have seen my mom cry in physical pain before. Not emotional. My mom said they only time she has seen my dad cry was the day I was born. I have never seen my dad cry.
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 30, 2018 11:39:46 GMT -5
1. Yes, when a family member was very sick or had passed away. Also emotional parts of movies (like the end of Toy Story 3 or when the wife dies in UP). I cried when DS had his confusional migraine at school (although we didn't know that's what it was at the time), and he didn't know or couldn't verbalize who I was, and I was so scared because I didn't know what was going on, and I started crying, and then he started crying, so I had to get it together and try and stop crying. More often, I tear up - if something is emotional (real-life situation, movie, song, book) or I'm proud of the kids.
2. Yes, mostly in the same situations as me. My dad has a more sensitive soul than most men (for example, he likes Hallmark movies), which I find endearing.
Post by traveltheworld on Jan 30, 2018 11:46:03 GMT -5
1. Yes. I'm not a crier per se, but I also don't go out of my way to shield my kids from my crying. If I'm really sad or frustrated and start to cry, I let them see that. Then I talk to them about it afterwards.
2. Oh yes. My mom cried A LOT. But the worst part was she wanted and expected me to comfort her. She treated me like her therapist pretty much as soon as I turned 10. I really resented it. It caused a pretty big strain in our relationship. About a decade ago I finally had the courage to tell her how much it bothered me. She was shocked. We've since moved past it and even though she still cries in front of me now,it's more of the she's sad/frustrated, so she cries, without the expectation that I'd fix the problem for her.
And k3am, I don't know how anyone can get through the Giving Tree without crying or getting super upset. I really really dislike that book because I think it's so unnecessarily sad.
1. I have cried in front of my kids. I teared up when telling DD that FIL was dying, and at the funeral. Also when my cousin’s little boy passed away. But they’ve also seen me cry when they’re awful and I can’t handle it anymore. I don’t think it’s a bad thing for them to see. They should know when they’re rotten.
I have not let them see me sob. With the deaths I mentioned above, and others, I would have moments of doubled-over, curled in a ball sobbing. They didn’t see that.
2. My parents are not criers. I’ve seen my dad cry exactly 3 times - when his mom died, when his brother in law died, and leaving my wedding. Mom - similar. I do remember her crying once when I was a kid because she was totally overwhelmed. It stuck with me.
1. I'm a crier...movies, books, happy, sad, frustrated, hurt, etc. I try really hard to keep it in check when DD is around because she gets so worked up on making sure I'm okay.
2. Yes, deaths and my mom cries when she gets really mad.
FYI I've only let DD see 1 panic attack and that 1 attack was super mild and I reigned it in really quickly because she was freaking out that mommy was freaking out. Truthfully DD is probably better at handling the panic attacks than DH. I actually use the dog as comfort most of the time and she does an awesome job now just if she could tell me to breathe LOL. I don't have panic attacks often and they are usually brought on by giants amount of stress in a very small amount of time, thank goodness.
I’ve cried twice in front of my kids. Once when our cat died and once when a parents at a school event bullied me at a community function. It was so ridiculous and I was just exhausted so I broke down, lol. DS asked me what was wrong and I said somebody was mean to me and he said “oh that’s it?”
My parents didn’t cry in front of me frequently. In grief, my mom cried in my arms when we found my brother after an ATV accident and was watching the EMTs working. She cried in joy at graduation, my marriage and when I announced my first pregnancy.
My dad also cries with joy at life events but also when we were in church and the lord spoke to him🙄. He cried in grief when I recently told him that I didn’t believe Jesus was my savior and I wasn’t raising my children Christians. 🙄
Post by freezorburn on Jan 31, 2018 0:36:05 GMT -5
1. I'm not a cryer, but a few days after XH left I just couldn't hold it in any more. And I totally ugly cried in front of DS. DS responded by laughing in my face. I stopped crying pretty quickly after that.
2. I've only ever seen each of my parents cry once. Both occasions were pretty f'ed up situations, as I look back. In the sense that we were a very dysfunctional family. I just didn't know it at the time.
k3am , I'm also a crier. I cried several times at Disney when my kids were just SO HAPPY about certain parts.
I cry when we take them to special events, e.g., hockey games, Monster Jam, Disney on Ice, and I don't even know why. I think maybe b/c I'm so happy??? But like trying-not-to-sob crying. It's terrible.