Post by covergirl82 on Feb 1, 2018 11:23:55 GMT -5
My dad talked with his sister (the one who has cancer) late last week. She told him that she feels at peace with whatever happens. My uncle (her twin brother) should be with her for the next few days as she has an appointment to go over if the chemo treatment she had a few weeks ago did anything to stop the cancer from spreading. I'll see my dad tomorrow and hopefully he'll have an update. At this point, I need to plan a date to go over and visit my aunt. (She's only a little under an hour away, so not too far.)
We had most of the main floor in our house painted last week, and it looks awesome. If I can figure out how to attach pictures, I will. Otherwise, the main color is Quiet Moments and the accent color is Newburyport Blue, both by Benjamin Moore. The previous colors were tan and dark brown. It feels a little brighter now (I think because of going from warm tones to cool tones) and more up-to-date.
Most of the kids we invited to DD's birthday party (on 2/11) RSVP'd that they are coming, so I am just honestly relieved. Only 5 kids came to her party last year, which was less than half of the number of kids invited. (The place we had it last year was 30+ minutes away, so I suspect that had something to do with it, but she also had some clique-y girls in her class last year.)
DS update: We went to hearing test #2 yesterday. We get to go back again in 3 months. He just... doesn't care. She THINKS he's hearing the sounds because she noticed that sometimes, he'll stop sucking on his paci for a fraction of a second, but he's not turning to look at anything. (I only gave him the paci because he was pissed off about being there and having his ears messed with.) I think he just takes after his dad who can tune just about anything he doesn't want to hear out.
House update: We're almost ready to list. We're getting a quote today to pay someone to pressure wash the outside and do the windows inside and out hopefully on Friday. If that doesn't work out, DH is pressure washing Saturday and I'm doing windows Sunday. Everything looks so nice... why did we let all the little/relatively easy to do repairs slide for so long?!?!
I am having 2nd, 3rd, and 4th thoughts about leaving this house. I'm worried about the new mortgage. That's if we manage to find a place to buy. A large part of me wants to just stay here and pay for private school. Another large part of me hopes we can't find a place to buy and are forced to rent for a few years with the hope that the market just tanks. (But.. google and apple are bringing like.. 30,000 jobs or something like that to the area, so it's unlikely.)
DS’ Party is stressing me out. We invited 23 kids. 25 is the cap. No declines so far (15 accepts). People better not bring siblings.
My bonus was more than I thought because math. Nice surprise. Definitely lobbying for Mexico now.
DD is committed to rec volleyball and wants to try out for freshman golf. She isn’t shooting the required score of 100 so she has a ton of work to do. I need to get on a schedule ASAP so we can get her to that level. Her current “plan” is to go to a private university for children’s ministry on a golf scholarship. She’s giving me hives.
Still on the vacation search. I told Dh we are going to cook some chili tonight and have a few drinks while researching cruises. That's my new direction. I'm nervous about it because we've never been and would we like it, would anyone get sick. I may kill Dh in the process because his only contributions to vacation planning is to be a Debbie Downer and find everything that goes wrong. He's only positive when it's over and all of his dire predictions don't come true. So if it's a good time, great, if it sucks, he knew it.
I'm actually out of bed for the first time in 48 hours. That illness was no joke! I literally couldn't lift my head off the pillow for more than a few minutes without getting a raging headache and dizziness. Spending today at home but woke up feeling surprisingly good, so I should be fine to go back to work tomorrow. That's a relief, as I would be on unpaid time off starting tomorrow, and I don't want to deal with that.
I’m back to the board and work after maternity leave! Our third daughter is three months and taking to daycare great. She is a very easy going baby. This first week back has been really tough. I have so many emotions going on and of course DD2 came down with influenza yesterday. Not getting much sleep and coming back to our year end audit on top of it. I hope the transition gets easier because I’m exhausted.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 1, 2018 12:39:34 GMT -5
2chatter, the supplemental tax rate also went from 25% to 22%, so maybe that was part of why your estimation was difference? Either way, yay for more money than you anticipated!
So my company was officially acquired by another company yesterday. We had a welcome meeting with them yesterday and their management seems really nice. We should be getting our offer letters with our salary by the end of the week. The owner was talking about some retention bonuses, so I'm excited to see those numbers.
And my MIL was officially diagnosed with stomach cancer. I'm not sure what stage it is, but the doctor said since it has spread, she has to have chemo. She is still in the hospital and is getting a PIC line. I have no idea what her prognosis is because FIL is sketchy on the details and Dr. Google isn't giving me a lot of hope. I talked to DH last night and he understands that this might be the start of a slow downward spiral for his mom. MIL is refusing to talk to anyone about it and has hung up or didn't answer when her daughters (who live out of state) called. I don't know what to do and it is a shitty situation all around.
DH and I are doing a bit better. We've had several long conversations over the past week, and we've both made some promises. His big promise is to quit drinking for a while. It's been about a week and a half, which is quite a long time for him. But I'm worried about this weekend. Superbowl = beer. I've moved my stuff out of the guest room because it will go a long way toward helping us to heal. I wasn't quite ready, but it made a huge difference to him, so I did it.
Bottom line - things are better, but still a ways to go.
mae0111 , progress is good, but don't rush into something you are not ready for to make him feel better. Take care of yourself and I hope things continue to improve.
My SFIL is still in the hospital, but his lung is good they are just treating him for C-Diff now. Hopefully home soon.
We announced to our family about having a girl. My step sons were funny. They were like noooo on the phone. They are great big brothers and they are already asking questions about how to be a good big brother to a little sister so I think they will be okay.
polecat8, based on knowledge from my coworker, your MIL would be categorized as stage 4, since it's metastasized. Which in a lot of cases, can still be treated successfully. FX for a good outcome.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 1, 2018 13:33:34 GMT -5
mae0111 I'm happy for you that you guys are making progress. Definitely don't rush into it. It's not a permanent decision but once you start down that path it's probably hard to stop or not do any damage. My parents rushed into their divorce. It was a mutual decision they made one night, filed a week later and it was final 2 months later. My mom seems to think they would have gotten back together. Hard to say what my dad would think but if he regretted he would have never said.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 1, 2018 13:50:31 GMT -5
k3am, how do you feel about your house? I know you've said its' small and in a fly over. But can you see yourself living there forever? Are there any affordable private schools near you?
I met with DD's teacher who completed an evaluation on her in anticipation of her genetics appointment. Basically they says she's on track or above in everything except gross motor. But still nothing that seems worrisome right now even in that area. So basically just now waiting for what they have to say at her genetics appointment as to why she has tested positive for a genetic disorder that she shows no signs of having.
I've filled out the application for private school for DS. The only step I haven't completed is asking his current teacher to fill out an evaluation for him. I'm dreading that part because a) I'm not sure what she'll say about him since he is behind and b) I'm not ready to have a conversation about him moving schools yet.
But on the flip side, this week the school sent home a letter saying that he qualifies for 1st grade. So there's that.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 1, 2018 13:53:29 GMT -5
I'll put a Random here b/c I don't want to start another thread: Today needs a do over.
DS and DD have a cold, no fever.
So I sent them to school. I did consider keeping them home but then right as I was contemplating it DS threw a nuclear tantrum about having to put a shirt on and I ended up reacting to the behavior and sending him to school. (as in I switched to -- you have 10 minutes to calm down and put on a shirt, blah blah). DD was fine and was like "what's wrong with DS?") He ended up getting in the car but he was still tearful when I dropped him off and I was feeling guilty thinking maybe they should be home...like I happened to chat real quick with his teacher and I almost broke down in tears telling her about it, which is total nonsense.
Then I get a call from school and I'm convinced they are going to tell me one of them is sick. Nope, the boy has no lunch. !@#$
Day is saved b/c the caterer sent 2 extra lunches.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Feb 1, 2018 14:52:57 GMT -5
Last summer, I mentioned that DH was in talks with a friend about a job opportunity in TX. This friend had a store and wanted to acquire more stores and incorporate. He wanted DH to be the CFO. It didn’t end up working out but the door was open for future opportunities. Last night DH talked to him and they made the decision to liquidate his store since the owner of the building was increasing rent. I feel bad since they worked so hard to get it to where it is but I’m also glad we didn’t make the move. Not that I want to stay in Chicagoland forever but it wasn’t good timing.
I’ll also add a random vent. I’ve been so negative, unmotivated and unproductive all week. The last few months I’ve noticed that it always happens mid-cycle but I have no idea how to overcome it. It’s very defeating. Then, last night DS got up several times thinking he was going to get sick and finally did after the 5th time. He got sick once, fell asleep, woke up fine, no fever, ate and drank so I sent him to school. It’s very weird. I figured if it was a bug, he would have been sick multiple times. Knock on wood he’s OK tonight. I’m tired.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 1, 2018 15:13:02 GMT -5
justcheckingin73 , hope your DS stays well. I just want to share this, because DD had a somewhat similar episode in early December last year (tummy ache, then vomited twice (times were close together) in the middle of the night, no fever) and it turns out it was strep throat. She didn't complain about her throat hurting, except after she threw up, never ran a fever, and woke up feeling fine. I only was resolved to take her to urgent care (because of course it was the weekend) in the morning because DH's aunt happened to mention DH's cousin's son having a similar set of symptoms when he had strep.
mustardseed2007, if I could transplant the house somewhere else, it’d be fine. It’s small, but finished how we like it. But it’s not a great neighborhood, schools aren’t very good, the stupid airplanes, and it really is small for us. (I can hear when DS’s paci falls out of his crib at night)
And DD started the flu with vomiting and no fever. She ran fever for three total hours - but I had her tested and she got progressively worse.
Vomiting here is seriously always either a bug or something worse. A friend has a kid with a sensitive gag reflex and he pukes on the weekly; I would die.
Just random thoughts here...I'm still waiting on a client to pick up their W2s, yes they were due out yesterday. I've called and emailed multiple times, god I hate babysitting clients. We keep having a big system error on the copy/printer/fax machine so have tech support in so I'm not getting much accomplished.
My head is killing me and all I want to do is crawl into bed and sleep. I need these headaches to go away so I can be productive at work.
Suggestions welcome - my brain is about to explode.
Remember how we pulled DS from his Montessori? And how it was a total CF? Well...IDK if I am going to get my $5K in dependent care.
The school only sent invoices through March, when the lead teacher returned to Europe. They are closed and the cell for the former owner is disconnected; rumor mill churned out they returned to India.
So the MOST I can get is cancelled checks from my bank.
I am on the fence about reaching out to another teacher (who is effing of course overseas right now) to see if she will sign the form.
I submitted online with the invoices we have. I’m freaking out.
Suggestions welcome - my brain is about to explode.
Remember how we pulled DS from his Montessori? And how it was a total CF? Well...IDK if I am going to get my $5K in dependent care.
The school only sent invoices through March, when the lead teacher returned to Europe. They are closed and the cell for the former owner is disconnected; rumor mill churned out they returned to India.
So the MOST I can get is cancelled checks from my bank.
I am on the fence about reaching out to another teacher (who is effing of course overseas right now) to see if she will sign the form.
I submitted online with the invoices we have. I’m freaking out.
I am assuming you already thought of this, but do you have an online payment account with them that you can pull old invoices?
waverly - old school - paper invoices until Jan 2017, when they emailed PDFs until they ceased to provide any invoices in April 2017. Zero ability to pay online, view school account. So frustrating now, but before the good teachers who had been there forever left, it was the best Montessori I had seen.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 1, 2018 17:06:22 GMT -5
2chatter girls golf scholarships are the most unused. She's onto something if she's serious. Find a nearby golf course and their golf pro may be able to give her a few private lessons and have her rocking in no time.
rere I liked the cruises we went on and I even spent a couple days during each feeling sick. Go prepped with sea bands. They are these bracelet things that have a ball on them that hit a pressure point in your wrist. They help with morning sickness and can also help with motion sickness. I think cruises are great because there is something for everyone.
DS update: We went to hearing test #2 yesterday. We get to go back again in 3 months. He just... doesn't care. She THINKS he's hearing the sounds because she noticed that sometimes, he'll stop sucking on his paci for a fraction of a second, but he's not turning to look at anything. (I only gave him the paci because he was pissed off about being there and having his ears messed with.) I think he just takes after his dad who can tune just about anything he doesn't want to hear
Our boys are so similar. DS2 has to visit an ENT now due to fluid in his ears at 100% of his appointments and large adenoids. And he can talk but refuses to and can tune out anything.
erinshelley21 - totally! She plays now but lost some of her drive distance with her last growth spurt so there’s some relearning. She will be a range rat this summer! I’m hopeful!