Allow me to share a funny and mortifying story...

[akafred]

Let me set the scene. There is a little girl who goes to DD's school. This girl is an angel. From the day she came home as a toddler (international adoption), her mom could tell her to stop doing something *and she would stop*. (This is a completely foreign concept to me.) She is calm, focused, reserved, and sweet. And somehow DD has been getting closer to her this year. Her mom and I are encouraging this because each is a good influence on the other in a way. DD is definitely not a good behavioral influence (but this little girl is not affected negatively by DD's behavior so it is perfect), but she is confident and self-advocating, which are qualities that the other mom thinks would be helpful for her child. I really like the other mom, too, but she is pretty...I don't know the word. Like professional, kind of. Not politically conservative, but conservative of dress and that kind of thing. Her child wasn't allowed any screens until age 5, can only watch G movies, and so on. It's someone I definitely want to make a good ongoing impression with.

So we went to dinner last night together. And DD said that M is her best friend, and M said "I love you, but we can't get married because we're both girls." So M's mom says that 2 girls can get married, and I said you can marry anyone if you both want to. DD said, "But it would be gay." (Dear DD, just because it is true doesn't mean you have to say it...). Then she adds, "And if two men get married that is really weird because they can't have sex!" Loudly. "And have babies." (Oh thank goodness for that addendum!!! Perfect opportunity to talk about adoption.) "They can't have babies together, but they can adopt like daddy and I adopted you and M's mom and dad adopted her!"

In related news, we have obviously had the sex talk, but how is an enlightened and modern mom supposed to approach the topic of gay/lesbian sex? I remember thinking about it a little at that age and I just made some assumption (rubbing parts along each other lol), but I would never in a million years have asked or blurted anything out about it!

[mommyatty]

Lol. I think I would handle it by just saying “What people do is really private and just between those people, so that’s not something we really need to talk about quite yet. But yes, there are ways for gay people to have sex.”

Great question, though! I’ve recently had to explain that actually, yes, two boys or two girls can get married. Not surprisingly, DD just went, “Huh. Okay. Cool.” It’s amazing how much that topic is influenced by what we are told when we are young.

[akafred]

I think if I said, "There are ways..." she would demand more info. That would just make her more curious. I don't think I mind so much her *knowing*, it's her *telling* everyone at school that freaks me out the most.

[sunbutter]

Oh my. I’m glad the other mom agreed with your views. It would have been really awkward if she backed up her DD’s statement.

My kids go to a school that actually has a very high percentage of same sex parents. So they really don’t bat an eye at the concept. I have not had a sex talk with DS yet. I have asked him if he wants to know and he has said no, lol. So it will be interesting to see how we navigate beyond the biology of just making babies.

[2chatter]

Glad I am not alone. DS was apparently talking about marrying one of his buddies. Per this kid’s Dad, DS said they couldn’t make babies because they both have sperm and they need an egg, too. DS’ genius idea was to get a girl at school to give them an egg - and they agreed on which girl based on the fact that she’s pretty, nice to everyone and smart.

So —- I didn’t touch that with a ten foot pole and assured the dad that is the sum total depth - he doesn’t know the anatomical requirements for sperm and egg to meet. So freaking thankful like you akafred that this is a not conservative family!

[akafred]

2chatter, oscillococcinum is just awful (offal). Get it?

[waverly]

Oscil.... has been around forever. I remember taking it 20 y ars ago. I get it's a really hard a flu season, but no one has ever talked about it before and now everyone is.